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hi labug,

just finished catching up with your story. and thank you for dropping by mine in the past.

one quick question.. as i was reading your post i kept wondering.. are you a nurse? because that would definitely explain a lot of things for me smile

i'm very inspired by your comments. gave me a lot to think about.


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I fit the profile, huh?


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Hey Labug!

I think I will never be a deep thinker. I love reading your posts, you are really getting into it all.

I keep thinking and thinking, thanks for the motivation.

Aloha,

Wendy


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12 hour shift.. fix-it attitude.. you and i share similar traits wink i was speaking to my counselor this week about how i recognize that i seem to come in and try to "save the day" with H. ie. when kids are acting up.. etc. need to step back and let him take charge and make decisions.


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Can't remember if I put this in another post but my IC said to me, "the things that make you so good in your job, make you difficult in relationships."

I am finding that it's nice to let go of some of those things I "had" to do.


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that last post of your reminds me of rick1963's post i just replied to. A lot of us are like that -- the work v home personality....yep, it gets us in trouble. I was told by W that one of the reasons she is leaving is that I am too into my work.... Well my job is my fun, it's something that i would do regardless of whether I got paid. I just think i'm lucky in that sense.

I'll catch up on your latest updates.


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Labug, you continue to be an inspiration. I'm at a crossroads of how I can keep Dbing while in so much pain.... reading your posts helps to keep me on track, thanks you.


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Can'[color:#6666CC]t remember if I put this in another post but my IC said to me, "the things that make you so good in your job, make you difficult in relationships."

I am finding that it's nice to let go of some of those things I "had" to do.
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i concur. i never wanted to become my H's mother but that is what happened. definitely stepping back from that role!!


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One of my friends thinks I should just say "Do I look like your mother?" everytime my husband says something that is the kind of question one would ask their mother.

Easier said than done. So hard to define new roles in old relationships.


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Hello Lady,
Thank you for your kind words about my dog, hope your day is going well,


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s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
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