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dbmod #2164880 07/01/11 03:04 AM
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Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes



Denver,

You and others are AGAIN making this way more complicated than it really is.. Making it way DEEPER than it really is..

Lighten up. Women rarely leave a happy man.. You have NOT been a happy man according to what I have observed..

You and your wife said you were NOT happy with her when you were together..

You were NOT happy when she wanted out..

You are NOT happy now because you are focused on your limbo..

Guess what is the common thread here?

YEP.. You always seem unhappy. It comes across in your posts too..

You are like Dorothy in the "Wizard Of Oz".. You HAVE had the secret the whole time here but you keep looking for something drastic or dramatic and deep...

HERE IT IS...... be ready this is DEEP...


LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..

That's it..

Deep huh? But it IS without a doubt your answer.. All of the deep posts and psycho babble you keep hearing is wasted energy..

LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..


You WILL find then that all your troubles will start to vanish....

Be happy JUST the way things are in your life.. Be happy..

That's it..

I have been doing this for THIRTY years..

Happy men, fun men..... THEY get and keep the woman..
Trust me.. I AM a happy man.... Happy men are like a magnet to women.. Happy, confident, mature...

STOP trying to make this so deep... It isn't.. LEARN TO BE HAPPY.. If you don't learn that, EVEN is she does reconcile it won't work because you will THEN find something else to be unhappy about. You are already warning us of what that unhappiness will be, such as.. "can I forgive her? can I forget? can I this? can I that?...

Happy men don't think that way Denver... Get a grip on yourself...

LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN...

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sbh--
I read your post similar to the way 25 does...you appear to be putting pressure on Denver. Denver's approach is working well for him.

I don't believe your advice is good advice for him, and it isn't the high road. Your buddy's tactic in his divorce could be part of the same attitudes that lead to him getting divorced in the first place.

If your advice isn't welcomed, move on.


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Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
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Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes



Denver,

You and others are AGAIN making this way more complicated than it really is.. Making it way DEEPER than it really is..

Lighten up. Women rarely leave a happy man.. You have NOT been a happy man according to what I have observed..

You and your wife said you were NOT happy with her when you were together..

You were NOT happy when she wanted out..

You are NOT happy now because you are focused on your limbo..

Guess what is the common thread here?

YEP.. You always seem unhappy. It comes across in your posts too..

You are like Dorothy in the "Wizard Of Oz".. You HAVE had the secret the whole time here but you keep looking for something drastic or dramatic and deep...

HERE IT IS...... be ready this is DEEP...


LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..

That's it..

Deep huh? But it IS without a doubt your answer.. All of the deep posts and psycho babble you keep hearing is wasted energy..

LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..


You WILL find then that all your troubles will start to vanish....

Be happy JUST the way things are in your life.. Be happy..

That's it..

I have been doing this for THIRTY years..

Happy men, fun men..... THEY get and keep the woman..
Trust me.. I AM a happy man.... Happy men are like a magnet to women.. Happy, confident, mature...

STOP trying to make this so deep... It isn't.. LEARN TO BE HAPPY.. If you don't learn that, EVEN is she does reconcile it won't work because you will THEN find something else to be unhappy about. You are already warning us of what that unhappiness will be, such as.. "can I forgive her? can I forget? can I this? can I that?...

Happy men don't think that way Denver... Get a grip on yourself...

LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN...



It is silly to say women rarely leave a happy man. Women leave happy men all the time, especially if they are having their happiness outside of the marriage. But the bottom line here is twofold and Gucci's advice is good ... here:

1) It's a good observation that you don't appear to be happy.
2) It's a good idea for you to spend your time making yourself happy.


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gosh denver,

my friend.........a lot of people have very strong opinions on what you should or should not do......

i have said this before (and i am a woman, so will gladly repeat myself)....only you know your wife

only you know your history and what brought you to this place

trust your gut

you have come a long way

i think you are doing great

and you sure know how to rile people up- don't you

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well Denver,

truth be told

you do kinda borrow trouble from yesterday AND tomorrow...

"hows" about NOT doing that anymore?

yeah yeah, "easier said than done"

but do it anyway.


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Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
Quote:
Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes



Denver,

You and others are AGAIN making this way more complicated than it really is.. Making it way DEEPER than it really is..

Lighten up. Women rarely leave a happy man.. You have NOT been a happy man according to what I have observed..

You and your wife said you were NOT happy with her when you were together..

You were NOT happy when she wanted out..

You are NOT happy now because you are focused on your limbo..

Guess what is the common thread here?

YEP.. You always seem unhappy. It comes across in your posts too..

You are like Dorothy in the "Wizard Of Oz".. You HAVE had the secret the whole time here but you keep looking for something drastic or dramatic and deep...

HERE IT IS...... be ready this is DEEP...


LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..

That's it..

Deep huh? But it IS without a doubt your answer.. All of the deep posts and psycho babble you keep hearing is wasted energy..

LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..


You WILL find then that all your troubles will start to vanish....

Be happy JUST the way things are in your life.. Be happy..

That's it..

I have been doing this for THIRTY years..

Happy men, fun men..... THEY get and keep the woman..
Trust me.. I AM a happy man.... Happy men are like a magnet to women.. Happy, confident, mature...

STOP trying to make this so deep... It isn't.. LEARN TO BE HAPPY.. If you don't learn that, EVEN is she does reconcile it won't work because you will THEN find something else to be unhappy about. You are already warning us of what that unhappiness will be, such as.. "can I forgive her? can I forget? can I this? can I that?...

Happy men don't think that way Denver... Get a grip on yourself...

LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN...



Wisdom. ^^^



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Originally Posted By: dbmod


If your advice isn't welcomed, move on.




If it isn't welcomed by the person whose thread it is, I agree. I haven't seen where Denver has asked him to stop posting to him. Isn't that Denver's call?

Such thin skins around here lately! eek


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Originally Posted By: Truegritter
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Who are you and can you bring back Snarky Starsky?



Oh, he's still around. smirk


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"Unreasonable Happiness." Have you read, Way of the Peaceful Warrior?" One of those word-of-mouth books thats been around for years.


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Are you asking me, Direction, or Denver?

I've never read that book myself, although I've heard of it.


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