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#2124168 01/27/11 02:13 PM
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It's 9:00 AM and I just got served.

Here we go.


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I am so sorry, Pickle. {{{Hugs}}}

There isn't much to say to that. You knew it was going to be a tough day. All I can say is that divorce is a piece of paper and this isn't over until you say it is.

I wish I had words of comfort for you... You're in my prayers.


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I'm so sorry, Pickle. As someone who has filed for divorce myself (and am now still happily married), I can tell you that it's NOT over yet, so don't lose hope. Also, statistics show that 20% of divorced couples end up RE-MARRYING EACH OTHER, with most reporting that their marriages are better than they ever were before.

Time to work on YOU -- that's the way you have to look at this.

Hang in there,

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TimeHels wrote:

"I think you get into trouble when you drag in the MLC as a key caveat that obscures all the particulars. It's the particulars that matter: stressors, ego-integrity, and so on.
I can't, for example, point to a wealth of recent logitudinal studies that support the actual existence of what you are calling a midlife crisis.
I can, on the other hand, point to studies like Susan Krauss Whitbourne's and many others that directly contradict popular assumptions (popular among the general public, but not so much with research Psychologists) supporting the midlife crisis as common feathre of adult development. In fact, pshychologists commonly regard that diagnosis and model as 'not helpful'."

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Okay, so what are you trying to say?


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Sorry to hear that Pickle. Keep your head up. Things will be better for you soon enough... one way or the other.

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Originally Posted By: InAPickle
It's 9:00 AM and I just got served.

Here we go.


I'm so sorry Pickle. Breathe deep and don't react. Stay with your BITS buddies here to get your plan, AFTER you are done venting.

It doesn't have to be the end, it's just a detail.


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Im soooo sorry to hear this news Pickle! I'm praying for you. It's not over yet....its just a piece of paper...GOD is the only one who know the outcome. So, just put your focus on him today...


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Hey Pickle, sorry to hear the news...I guess at least you saw it coming.

Find a happy place right now, go out with friends or do something to take your mind off it.

I can only imagine how I would react, so I'm giving you the advice I believe that I would give myself.

Take care,
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