W sent email to ask if I would take the kids earlier by 3 hours next Saturday. Who cares why, but I have a guess. I responded, No... Sorry
I'm not going to be her babysitter so she can enjoy herself, when she barely has the kids as it is. I consider it enabling... Not doing it. I'm sure the normal people she asks to watch the kids have gotten tired of her constantly dropping our kids off too, seems odd that she would even bother to ask me.
B2B, Continue to be strong and hold the line. I'm dealing with similar issues and constantly resisting the urge to bail out my W and help her with her problems (enabler). Whenever I get the urge to backslide I post on this forum and someone gives me a brisk wake-up call.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
Oh Great!!! I had sore on my right hand near my thumb, wasn't healing and bled ALOT if bumped or scratched open. It started to get a little bigger. I researched on the Internet and read that a sore like that could be cancer. So I went to the doctor today. Her first response was I don't like the looks of it, it may be cancer. She lanced it open and it bled like crazy!!! She said I was hoping it was puss filled, the fact that it's bleeding that much means it's very vascular, which also concerns me. She advised me to be seen by a dermatologist to confirm. Hoping for the best.
Of course guess whats in the mail box? Letter from W's attorney!! God have mercy. When it rains it pours.
I think I've made every mistake you can make at this point, but I'm hangin in there as best I can. Next court date is now on the 16th where we have to pay a mediator like $700 to decide how our money is split by using some sort of secret formula. ?!?!?! What next? I swear W's attorney is looking to just rape us both... I can't believe W is SO blind!!!
sorry to hear your troubles as of late. hang in there though.
my stbxh just wants to rake me over hot coals for giggles. it's the way of the WAS.
they are blind due to the fog. it won't be lifted until it's all over. you gotta stand your ground. don't lose your integrity in the process. you will come out of this a better person.
I've heard they pretty much stay in the fog 1 month for every year married... Not exactly sure if that's accurate or how the heck someone came up with that calculation but me and my W were married just a bit less than 8 years before the bomb... will be 9 years this Sept. Though we've been together 11/12 years. Currently it has been 10 months with no end in site... I'd say that myth is gonna be busted!!!
Looks like W has jumped into a dark hole andmay never return. I always hear from others about W's postings... she posts things about cuddling with OM. Kids have been talking alot about playing with OM... Bothers me to no end... But it's bound to happen (likely again). She doesn't even send emails anymore unless in need of a favor (almost always to watch the kids when she should have them). Seems like with each new OM the process starts over... I'm screwed.
I really don't know wth to do at this point. I never see her... never talk... No contact at all, so no chance for her to have an opportunity to fall in live with me obviously.
I decided a couple months ago to get my motorcycle license, something I've wanted to do for years. The class starts tonight and runs through Sunday. Looking forward to riding with friends, who always hound me to get a bike and go on trips with them. Vroooom!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
