D got finalized this week. Everything really went my way financially, other then she was not ordered to help support our 27s who has a mental illness and is getting worse. The judge worded it to the effect that no evidence was given he had it before he turned 18 and although legally he could not force support, hopefully her consience might kick in at some time.
We had not talked in weeks, and starting yesterday she has called me 4 times. Stupidly I let the talk go from our son to us. She mentioned that if given enough time as her friend and no pressure about sex she may be interested in reconciling down the road, but to not expect much from her.
Hmmmnn. Amazingly I am feeling okay with things. Truthfully I'd love nothing more then to see us back together if it's a 50% effort from both sides. But just from me as it's been for 5 years, not so much.
I have a lunch date with a nice gal on Monday. I have another gal wanting to "just hang out". A few days ago I wanted nothing to do with any of this, and now I think it would be just fine. In fact, probably very healthy for me to move forward and if my ew makes an effort to come my way that would be fine, but maybe it's time for me to go live a little bit. A total stranger treats me better then someone I was married to for 33+ years. Not that we are enemies, but there is just no emotion from her at all.
I'm sure I should be posting this in another area, but thought I'd give an update and see what folks thought?
