Mystik--another way they %$*& up our lives is now we have to work harder to get our kids to see their family on Christmas! That was actually one of the very first thoughts that popped into my head when exH and I initially discussed divorce back in March 09.
I want to give you props because although you were upset (rightfully so!) to hear that your S visited OW's parents' house, you said:
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I find that inappropriate on so many levels, but can't control what H does with DS during his time.
This is something many of us mothers have found difficult to accept but ultimately, it is for the best to understand this concept. If we continually dwell on what our ex's are doing with the kids, it causes us more stress and anxiety that we can't do anything about. It ends up putting the kids in the middle as well. I am relieved to hear you came to this realization!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
NM, I decided when we first split that as much as I might hate what H does with DS on his time, I couldn't control it so I wasn't going to let myself even think about it. For the most part that has worked.
Talked to my mom and we both decided that it would be best for DS to wait and get his presents on Christmas Day. That way we're not being rushed, DS won't get to open presents then immediately have to leave them to go to his father's. It will work out better all around, and most if not all of my siblings will be gathered on Christmas Day so they'll be able to see him open his presents.
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Had the appointment with the law guardian this evening. I think for the most part it went ok, until about five minutes before he left when DS decided to have a tantrum because I wouldn't make his dinner right that second. The law guardian said if H wanted to, he could make it pretty damn messy if he goes after me for my depression. So keep your fingers crossed that H just focuses on the petitions I filed and not on anything else.
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You really are showing so much growth, Mystik. I hope that you see that too. We all do.
It's kinda strange that the Law Guardian to mention that. Your H shouldn't really know what's going on unless you've told him. The Law Guardian shouldn't tell him since it's private medical information. I hope that you've been able to get your L retained so you have some protection just in case.
You really are showing so much growth, Mystik. I hope that you see that too. We all do.
It's kinda strange that the Law Guardian to mention that. Your H shouldn't really know what's going on unless you've told him. The Law Guardian shouldn't tell him since it's private medical information. I hope that you've been able to get your L retained so you have some protection just in case.
Thank you, bluestar. I can see I've come a ways since November, but still see how much further I need to go.
H knows I have bad depression. He doesn't know that I'm getting treatment at a mental hospital for it. But if he wanted to, he could try to use the depression against me. Going to the bank today to see if I can qualify for a loan on my own or if I need my dad to co-sign. I'm hoping since it's a relatively small amount, $1,000 at the most, the bank will be able to work with me.
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Dreamt about H last night. He was telling me he wanted to work things out, and that he was sorry, he’d made a mistake, he swore he was done with Whore and I told him he would never be done with her. Not with the Bastard Child. I also dreamt that I was pregnant, only a few weeks along, and Whore was there trying to claim it wasn’t H’s. I said H was the only person I’ve ever been with so it wasn’t hard to figure out he was the daddy. Woke up feeling rather down after those dreams and realizing that’s all they were, dreams. Then H called my cell phone this morning while I was in the shower, obviously I didn’t answer, and he didn’t leave a message. Even if I wasn’t in the shower I wouldn’t have answered, feeling a bit too raw after those dreams.
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Going to be hosting Christmas dinner at my apartment. Nothing fancy, picked up the ingredients for baked ziti last night. That way DS won't have to leave all his new toys that he gets from Santa, and we won't have the huge dog my sister is doggy-sitting hanging all over us. Now I know what I can do to distract myself on Christmas Eve night and Christmas morning. Cleaning up and wrapping.
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I love hosting, although it is a lot of work, but this will definitely keep you occupied! Have some fun music going and dance around while you clean!!! It really does help! And your son will think you are funny! (my kids are old enough that they tell me to please stop! lol)
Baked ziti....YUM!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
