online dating tips #3

[oldtimer]

Ellie,

Maybe it is time to revamp that profile... It may subtly, yet strongly, be sending a signal you might want to avoid... (And I don't mean being interested in sex, lol...)

[kml]

Hmmmm.....I don't think the profile is the problem, honestly. I think the fact that I didn't lie about my age, and therefore don't appear in the searches of many guys (who usually are looking for under 50 if they are my age or younger) is a problem. In fact, many of the "40-something" guys I find are actually in their fifties, but lied about their age in order to show up in younger searches themselves.

[desert_rat]

I think you may be onto something there, Ellie.

Your profile is good, and the pics make it clear that you are not "old". But there's that magic number. Smart guys realize that women over that number probably have fewer views, and take advantage of that fact!

I can understand why people would lie about their age, but I think that it is a strategy destined to backfire, at least in some cases.

[oldtimer]

Oh, I wanna see too...

[desert_rat]

Oh, I wanna see too...

Yeah, but if anyone tells you how to find it, the BanHammer comes out.

If you know any DBers on FB, it might be possible to make the connections there.

[figgeroni]

I have a wonderful life and I have discovered that I don't have enough time to waste trying to figure someone else out

I just ask

or

just say what I think (not in that "your assests look gigantic in that color kind of way" but in that "I like you" kind of way)

hasn't backfired on me yet because I am true to myself firstly

I am that way so if they can't handle it, they aren't for me anyway

lucky for me
Cori is the same way!!!

glad I didn't waste time there...I would have missed out experiencing lots of days of joy if I had waited around to see if that is what he wanted or if he what he meant by something was really this

[BobbiJo]

I have the books "He's Just Not Into You" and "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken"....they are both awesome, entertaining reads. I was going to start a thread where I posted some of the quotable quotes (i.e., Don't Waste the Pretty) but figured it may not be well received since the authors are not from this site!

[pollyanna]

anit that the truth....shame because it all helps us.

[Kimmie Lee]

On another thread, we were discussing the dreaded November bombs, but I have noticed something interesting.

As soon as October turned to November, I got lots of attention from some pretty interesting guys on the dating sites.

Could it be that this could work both ways?

Or are they just needy because the holidays are fast upon us?

Even so, I plan to take full advantage. :):):)

[BobbiJo]

Hey I am happy to spend a little time under the mistletoe with the right guy