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A Message from Michele
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Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: ShockedOne] #2101778
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Rob,

The cool part is we both have the same end goal, a stronger LBS, and the abilty to be in a healthy relationship, no matter what relationship that is, wife or someone else.

I like the fact that we have different approaches. Options.

And while we disagree, it is respectful.

I sit here hesitant, about 5 minutes now, trying to phrase this in a way that is not seen as an attack.

Last night I was reminded that us older guys here want to impart our advice and for that advice to occur like turning on a light switch. Man up, get self respect, set a boundary.

We tend to forget how long it took us to get to that place where we, ourselves could do that.

That was not an attack.

I know that I know what the goal is, and I want the guys I believe I am helping to get there as quickly as possible, I tend to forget that it took me a long while to figure it out even with others telling me.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: MakingProgress] #2101787
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I agree with you most of the time, but the romance level of an affair and reconnecting with the father of your children just isn't the same. The decision to work on your marriage is not based on hormones. The decision to have an affair is.


My experience is that hormones played a huge role in our reconciliation. It's amazing when you realise the power of catnip.


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Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Jack_Three_Beans] #2101788
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no worries, it's all good ;-)


"...Well, my favorite color is light tan. My favourite animal is puppies. I like serving the Lord. Hiking, playing volleyball..."
Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Coach] #2101790
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Originally Posted By: Coach
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I agree with you most of the time, but the romance level of an affair and reconnecting with the father of your children just isn't the same. The decision to work on your marriage is not based on hormones. The decision to have an affair is.


My experience is that hormones played a huge role in our reconciliation. It's amazing when you realise the power of catnip.


yup!


"...Well, my favorite color is light tan. My favourite animal is puppies. I like serving the Lord. Hiking, playing volleyball..."
Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Coach] #2101875
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My experience is that hormones played a huge role in our reconciliation


I am unaware of any procedure that might be available to remove the human endocrine system completely.

Dry humor.


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Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Coach] #2101885
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Originally Posted By: Coach
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I agree with you most of the time, but the romance level of an affair and reconnecting with the father of your children just isn't the same. The decision to work on your marriage is not based on hormones. The decision to have an affair is.


My experience is that hormones played a huge role in our reconciliation. It's amazing when you realise the power of catnip.


I would not call it huge, Cat Whisperer. There was a hell of a lot more going on than hormones.
Greek


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D13
Separated and filed 8/08
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Happily ever after is one day at a time.
Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Greek] #2101887
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Oh, it's never good when your wife says to you "I wouldn't call it huge ..." shocked


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Greek] #2101888
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Originally Posted By: Coach
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I agree with you most of the time, but the romance level of an affair and reconnecting with the father of your children just isn't the same. The decision to work on your marriage is not based on hormones. The decision to have an affair is.


My experience is that hormones played a huge role in our reconciliation. It's amazing when you realise the power of catnip.


I would not call it huge, Cat Whisperer. There was a hell of a lot more going on than hormones.
Greek


I understand how you could see it that way. wink


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Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Starsky309] #2101892
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Originally Posted By: Starsky309

Oh, it's never good when your wife says to you "I wouldn't call it huge ..." shocked


Tumor wink



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: WAW,,, wow [Re: Jack_Three_Beans] #2101895
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Just hate to see something that has taken so much work and will, reduced to something as fickle as hormones.

Just sayin'.
Greek


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