In the process

[TimeHeals]

Hi mama,, is it ok I call you mama for short? Maybe hotmama? anyways, how many winks does a woman get on a site like match in a day?

I'm going to guess 10-50 a day in the beginning if the photo isn't repugnant.

I don't really know, but I always figured it was something like that.

[v1olin]

That is what I am thinkin too!

[newmama]

haha! Well before I was a divorced mother of a baby, I would get between 5-10 winks per day. This time around, It is more like 5 per week, sometimes more.

How about for you fellas?

Oh and if I said something flirty in my profile, I got more winks. I took out something about "it's ok to kiss on the first date" and sure enough, the winks have decreased.

[v1olin]

Oh and if I said something flirty in my profile, I got more winks. I took out something about "it's ok to kiss on the first date" and sure enough, the winks have decreased.

Man I knew it! All a woman has to do is mention one little word "kiss" and she can hook a guy! I have no clue what I could put in my profile that would do the same thing. In 3 days I only have 22 views on my profile! Only 2 winks.

[desert_rat]

Twenty two views in three days isn't bad. Pretty decent, in my experience.

[flowmom]

violin, I'm going to reply to you in the dating tips thread 'cause this thread is all about our favourite smiley newmama

[v1olin]

Ok, sorry mama! We're cool right?

[newmama]

You can totally post in here! I am dating online after all! I think your questions and responses are helpful, though, so it would be beneficial for others to read in the online dating thread.:)

[avermont]

Well, jiminy cricket, I'm going to post YOUR headshot on my site!

I don't' think I am a dog by any means, but when I say almost no traffic...I'm talking Small Town Main Street on a cold dark rainy night in November no traffic.

I'll revamp and revise my profile after Tgiving. Truth to tell, I have been too darn busy to even think about dating!

But it's time to plunge back in.

I'll keep reading your advice!

[newmama]

OK so I talked to Helicopter Pilot last night for 3 hours. But I do need some input- hopefully someone will see this in the next couple of hours.

red flag#1: he informed me that he got a DUI in February so he lost his license for a full year. He got a DUI when he was 20 (he is 35 now) so that is why he lost his license.

red flag#2: he is still in recovery and going to 2-3 meetings per week.

red flag#3: he kept talking about our future relationship together and asked me about things that I found important in a relationship and he is pretty much ready for a serious relationship. I told him I am just dating at this time and not ready to commit my life to something serious...

he said since we were able to talk for so long, he figured we had a connection and he wanted to talk again tonight (after my son goes to bed) so we can figure out when to meet.

I couldn't figure out how to end the conversation after I heard he is still going through recovery. I mean I didn't want to be like "Oh. Well, gotta go! Nice talking to you!" So we chatted about stuff for another hour after he told me.

I REALIZE this looks like I was leading him on, and I totally didn't mean to do that! Honestly! I was confused about whether I was being a judgmental person or not giving it a chance, etc. People do make mistakes.

I think if he had told me that he had already gone through this experience, (like let's say he said "a couple of years ago, I went through a dark period, got a DUI but went through treatment and counseling. I learned a lot, and this is how I put my life back together" etc. etc.) then maybe I would be more open.

So now what do I do? And in the future, I just need to find a way to end the conversation when I have a clue that the person is not right for me, correct?

arghh...I don't want to be a conflict avoider. How do I explain myself out of this situation?