I've only just begun!

[kat727]

congrats Hon!!! I am so excited for you! Took him a little while huh? But that isn't a bad thing as he needed to get his ducks in a row too.

I would wait to announce until after the court stuff but again that is just me. Wishing you all the best!!

kat

[SunFunOne]

Congrats to you! Sounds like you're moving on with a wonderful new life.

I think it makes perfect sense to wait until your kids are finished high school before getting married. I felt the same way about not moving a guy into the house while my daughter was living at home. So we waited until last year - daughter is finished school and working so when she got her apt - we bought a house together.

Keep us posted about how it goes. Wishing you the best!

Barb

[sandycay]

My son will be attending college a little over an hour away and Seattle Pacific University (if the court things go well)


Thanks for the kind words and I'll keep you posted on the court outcome!

[mishka422]

An hour away is nice. Gets him away from home to gain a little more independence but close enough to come home whenever he wants or needs to....if only to do laundry!

[sandycay]

Mishka....since I've had my kiddos a 100% of the time.. and he was gone over the summer...I welcome the break! I don't think he'll come but for the holidays.... I'll probably run up there to take him to dinner or bike riding around Lake Union when I need a fix!

[sandycay]

Well....I've been officially accepted into the OTA program! After 2 years of pre-reqs..I am excited! I begin in February 2013 and finish in July 2014.....spousal support ends in Dec 2014 so the timing is perfect!

Things are going great with FEG..who I guess I shall call Glen from now on.

I have had to pull back on my traveling to see him with my son gone to college and my daughter does not drive yet. It is always interesting to see how one comes forward when one pulls back. It's just circumstantial for us at this point but just a curious human behavior.

I am still awaiting a court date for son's college tuition help. Right now, son has borrowed money and I borrowed money and dad has done nothing.

I really would up to split it in 1/3's as I feel that's fair.

Still haven't settled daughters boating incident stuff yet. HOpefully soon without going to court.

I am off until Feb and thought about getting a job till then but then I thought...it's probably the last time off I'll have so I'm just gonna chill and enjoy it. Try to lose some weight and train from some races! I am trying to downsize more in efforts to move into an even cheaper place next summer. My tuition is going to cost some money and with the boys tuition I need to pinch pennies.

I don't want to enter into marriage with Glen with a debt other than my car. So, that is my goal but it will take some fantastic accounting and a cheap place to live.

[sandycay]

Well...update in order


FEB and I broke up at the beginning of May. He had second thoughts about feeling the need to be married. So, I listened and made some tough decisions as it seemed he had been thinking about these things since February. In our break up talk....he actually said " I don't know if I am having a MLC crisis or what" As soon as he said that ... I knew I was done.

I am in my 2nd semester of OTA school...and taking 18 credits this summer....so I am super busy.

The courts decided that ex does not have to help pay for college...Yay for the interm judge who doesn't read the law but it is what it is......they did award me the 5500 for back support that he owes....2500 for uninsured medical cost that he owes and 2500 of the $8000 in legal fees that I paid my attorney....

So, 10 days go by and he doesn't pay...so I call attorney and she tells me....."well, they can't make him pay but it will go on his credit".......I am so flippin pissed. The ex now makes 225,000 a year do you really think he cares a poo about his credit.

So, got screwed by the ex....then paid the attorney 8000 and she screwed me too!

UGH!

Lesson learned!

[kat727]

I am sorry about FEB and the court stuff with your ex. I suppose better to have FEB at least express his doubts now rather than later.

Can't they put him in jail or something for not paying? At least they should garnish his wages. I hope that works out for you. Blessings sent your way.

kat

[mishka422]

I was thinking the same thing. Can't you have his wages garnished since there is a court order he is not obeying?

Sorry about FEB, but like kat said, better now than later. It's got to be really tough though.

Good luck with school! I'm impressed!