Re-Connecting

[Fightingforher]

Thank you for all the great advise. I'm certainly taking things very slow. I've told my W that I can't commit to anything right now and we both need time to figure out what we want. She is really trying to re-connect with me but it's no mystery that I'm still hurt by all of this and trust isn't an option for me currently.

I'm sure over time I'll be able to forgive her.

[gutwrenching]

Recommend you go look at the short thread "forgiveness" in the infidelity/affairs section

[DanF]

Give us an update FFH. How are things going?

Thanks for posting on my thread!

[LucasE]

And he's gone. What a cliff hanger. Meanwhile, R2C, how are you? I used to watch you so closely. My X was always so similar to yours. Mine never wavered. How about yours?

Thanks,

Good luck to all.

[Fightingforher]

Hello All.....

I've been working hard and keeping busy. My W is actively trying to get back into my life. I’m still at a loss on what to do and my feelings for her are so mixed right now. She has finally committed to therapy and is going to an IC. I think it’s a good start for her and hopefully she can work on her personal issues. I got the paperwork back from the State yesterday and I need to send it back to finalize the D. At this time I’m still moving forward with D.

It’s been 8 long months!!!

[dbmod]

Why do you want to continue with the divorce? Why not halt that process and work on your marriage?

[Fightingforher]

Exactly!!!!

[Rob1971]

What happened to Greek's reply?. Removing it completely distorted this thread. Posting anything on here has become like being in the Soviet Union circa 1980

[Fightingforher]

Not sure what happened to Greeks Reply?????

[Fightingforher]

Journaling.....

So my W and my son and her family spent Thanksgiving together. She ended up coming over the night before and we started prepping for the next day. She spent the night(spare bedroom) and the next day we had a nice time.

She had made several comments on how nice the house looked and how helpful I was with dinner. These are things I definately had taken for granted in the past. Times like these I wonder how my W actually did it in the past with cleaning, cooking, child, etc.....

These past 8 months have been a real eye opener for me. Anyway, we are communciating better and who knows where this will take us. Still a bunch to work on but I think the both of us are getting back to respecting and appreciating each other.

There is hope!!!