Being civil is always a good idea. That's one of the problems with the world ... less civility.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Being civil is always a good idea. That's one of the problems with the world ... no civility.
That's where I stand. I have no problem being civil with my STBXW (been a bit tough getting it returned).
I have no intention of being her friend because, well... let's face it, I'd have to be a bad friend... the kind that never calls unless they need something. Better to set her free and be civil and compassionate than to try to be her friend.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
TH, It is about breaking the "us," but it is also good for you and that is where the focus needs to be. Yes, you can be civil but good to keep it all business where possible.
Too easy to stay unhealthfully attached when you are friends. One person usually wants more. I do believe you need to become friends again if you are standing and want to get back together, but that might not be in the cards for a while for many people.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
"I hate the word, as I hate Hell, all Montagues and thee" Tybalt
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
H is in Ontario now ... back on Thursday night. He continues to call and let me know what's happening every day. He has stopped saying ILU at the end of conversations, as I had done. It seems he is mirroring me, rather than discussing things. This is not unusual for him. He cannot or will not initiate anything.
I will be requesting a SA agreement soon. I thought I would wait until after informing the children, then I think things will move fast then. H doesn't like things out in the open, but he is going to have a full blast of fresh air pretty soon.
His brother is coming for a few days in August ... he has been going through a D himself, but it has all been amiable. I hope to keep mine the same way.
My D30 has asked me to come stay with them in Germany for a few months once their baby is born. I would love to go help them, so I am thinking seriously about it.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
An extended stay in Germany sounds lovely--especially if you will be left home alone around the holidays. I'm sure your D will much appreciate your help, and new baby snuggles are priceless.
I hope things continue to move smoothly and that you are finding the peace you've sought for a long time.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
