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Originally Posted By: RedHeadWife


This DB'ing stuff works !!


yeah it does. I was always the lay down, "yes dear", "don't rock the boat type". Sure we'd "argue", but I always end up backing down.

Not anymore. wink


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M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
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Today's our anniversary! 11 yrs.

Ok, not getting any responses but one over on SSM, so I'll throw it out over here too. I am going to take Oldpilot's suggestion & get my hormone levels checked, but here's the deal:

I have absolutely NO sex drive! I know one problem is my issue w/ my weight, but I just have no interest. This is how it was before the D bomb & I've made sure that we still have it regularly, but I would like to enjoy it too & I just don't. During the whole D sitch, I guess b/c of the drama or something, I couldn't get enough, but now it's back to how it was. I can just live w/o it & I don't really want it to be this way.

Any comments/suggestions/ideas, etc. etc.?


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This is some advice from someone else that I read. I will put down for your benefit.

"I picked up some Goji Berries at my local asian store [or health food store]and thought I'd google to find out there benefits.Well in Asia there considered a strong sexual tonic.They increase testosterone in men and women as well as well being.I remember getting it a while back and having an increase in sexual desire [almost too much] I thought I just had a surge of estrogen but now when I think about it it's testosterone not estrogen that increases sex drive.Well I'll try again and see what happens.When I watch my husband and see how active he is I was wondering how I could increase my testosterone as I feel I am estrogen domanent.They also mentioned the importance of zinc as in pumpkin seeds and avocadoes for B6 which helps balance hormones."


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Interesting & anything's worth a shot. Thanks.


Me: 38
H: 35
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Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10
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H texted me yesterday "Have I told you today how very much I love you?"

Wow.


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
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Originally Posted By: RedHeadWife
I have absolutely NO sex drive!


I think in part it's the feelings of rejection and flawed when everything went awry.


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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Yay! I'm glad H is engaging more!

Your posts seem a bit rollercoaster-ish, Hon: down/up/etc.

Any plans to work on your insecurities to help minimize future hiccups?

{{hug}}


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