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#1988314 04/22/10 10:50 PM
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Thought I would drop in to give an update.

We had a couple of conference court dates.

Ex is claiming he is making almost 90 thousand dollars less than he was last year.

Basically, that means he is making pennies.

He is over six thousand overdue in support for me since December.

I filed for support collections, but they can only take up to 65 percent of his paycheck at a time.

I have been only recieving less than 200 dollars a week.

That is what I am supposed to feed my kids on and pay the bills such as the mortgage.

I have a feeling I am going to lose my house.

We have a court hearing on May 6 to determine how much of a downward modification he will be getting.

Meanwhile, he lives in a rich neighborhood with his gf.

I am beyond stress. This just doesn't seem right.


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I am sorry MissH.

I hope that the courts make him pay what he owes your children.

Is he truely making that much less?



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Thanks Jack.

I am sure he got a cut in pay, but how much really, I don't know.

His boss is his uncle.

All he brought to court with him was a (supposed) letter from his uncle claiming he had to cut his pay 90k. He also brought with him his 2008 tax return which showed the salary he was making before the cut. He did not bring his 2009 tax return or any other proof his salary has been cut. The judge ordered him to bring it by the next hearing or his petition will be dismissed. Along with this proof, she wants him to show proof that he has been looking for other employment or a second job to show that he has been looking to make up for the loss of income.


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Oh yeah, I forgot to mention something.

Ex was not being upfront with his lawyer about a lot of things. My lawyer had to fill him in. You could tell that his lawyer was frustrated with my ex in front of the judge. He didn't know about my ex's side business (which he is now claming he hasn't made money with it in over a year), he didn't know that is uncle was his boss, and when he told ex to make sure I got proof of my health insurance (ex switched companies without telling me and then wouldn't give me my health insurance card) ex didn't give it to me until the morning of court. When my lawyer stated the obvious, "If your client is so broke, then how come he can afford you," lawyers response was that ex's grandfather was paying for him. Nice, how about he pay for his grandchildren's child support instead?


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That stinks. Sorry he's being a jerk.


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Miss H, LOL This Judge is not buying any of this junk. If you noticed, she wanted his 2009 W-2 and PROOF he was looking for a 2nd job. If he had really gotten a $90,000 pay cut, he would have brought in his W-2. He has nothing here, he sounds like a first class moron. Keep the heat on him, he will screw up!

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Not paying child support is a serious thing. Judges are use to all the game playing and manipulating spouses try to do. This reeks of scamming especially since ex works for uncle.
My ex just tried to reduce child support drastically. He also claimed extreme loss of income. It did not work. Once the divorce degree and the amount was decided, judges like to stick to this no matter what. It takes a lot to change this number. A 5 year old can see what he is trying to do. Have faith Miss H, truth and justice are on your side.


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I am beyond stress. This just doesn't seem right.


HI mama, I miss ya..

I'm sorry he is being an a$$ again...

It will all work out in the end, which doesn't really help when you are in the thick of it...

Do some research on what you can do to save the home, while all that other mess gets fixed..

It will get fixed.



Come over for a BBQ bring the boys....


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Originally Posted By: Lissie

Come over for a BBQ bring the boys....
Lissie, Do you live near Miss H?

Miss H, I can't add too much to what everyone else has said but I am rooting for you.


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I want t ocome for a BBQ...I will bring the desserts

and

I want the back support that I am owed...

$60,000+ would go a looooooooong way in this economy

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