Direct deposit of her alimony and support check does wonders in stopping complaints and interactions with your former spouse. Have her provide her banking information, see if your payroll can accommodate direct deposit or worst case, mailing out her check on a consistent basis.
Anticipate, then do what it takes to minimize contact. It's a win/win for both of you.
I agree with Gypsy. Since my XW uses the same bank as myself, I have an automatic transfer each month from my account to hers for child support. And I manually transfer online between accounts for variable expenses related to kids lessons.
Hey my friend. Been four years now. I joined here in May 06 and "met" you that July. Four years ago I moved out of my house to give her "space" - four years lost...
But life goes on. Good list you came up with earlier but don't forget to focus on your terms as a man. Unfortunately, you and I have kids so we never stop seeing the Ex and things are always cold at best - often worse - and missing the kids.
So remember your journey and what you stand for. Never compromise your integrity. Always stay the high road.
As I know you will.
stupid little annoying things are being taken. I've called her on a couple of small things and she brought one back. Just stupid stuff and not worth mentioning
Those things are what life really is all about. A life built.
Jeff, my friend, good to see you, if you know what I mean.
XW is 'nesting'. Happy...removing things from the house. The rooms are becoming barer. My son's room is virtually empty except for a handful of things. Pots and pans were split. Pictures are coming down. I've been trying to scan as many of the framed photos on the wall as possible before they are gone. I've requested that she take them last. It's impossible to keep inventory on a life. I'm sure there will be some things taken out that I am not aware of.
Simply observations. It's taken so long. Four years post bomb to get to this point. It still, some days, is sort of surreal. I know it is going to hit hard when the kids move. Again, this is NOT about XW or missing her. It's about a life, children, etc.
By our stip, I will have Memorial Day weekend, the first time I have them full time for a whole weekend. XW will then want to start the alternating the following weekend.
And that's it for now. The house is still up for sale. No buyers as yet.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;