I was just thinking that this animosity from your X could be that he still has feelings for you and he is denying it. And OW fears that. Otherwise, why can't they just be pleasant and move on with their lives. He especially does not want to have any interactions with you ---- he's afraid of what he may feel. But, he is taking it out on the kids, and that's not fair.
I am so glad that you have moved on.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BM you may well be right BUT I have moved on and there is no way that XH is ever coming back here. I'm not adverse to a more amicable relationship for the sake of our kids but I don't even think I want to class him as a friend anymore.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I got the results from my most recent assignments today. I passed (with merit). Yippeeeeeeeeeee! My tutor thinks that there is a chance my final award will be upgraded to a distinction as the average over the four modules was just 0.25% short. If that happens I'll be ecstatic.
I'm hobbling around at the moment as I had an injury to my knee when I went away with friends last weekend.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Take care of your knee. Hope all is well in your world.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Apart from my knee all is very well in my world. Yesterday would have been my 22nd wedding anniversary, the first one since being D. It only dawned on me about 11pm so I think that's a fairly good marker of just how far I've come. I'm no longer the frightened, dominated person I was when I first came here. I'm strong, independent and on my way to obtaining a Master's Degree. The only thing missing is someone to share all of that with but that will come eventually (I hope).
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
How are you?
