None of you probably know me. I haven't been on here for at least a year and even then...that was in Surviving for a while..but I was in Newcommers for 06 and 07.
I'm now divorced and have been for about a year. We are very amicable. I have three amazing children - 10, 9 and 7 who I have joint custody with my ex.
I know the holidays can be hard - especially when you are going through what most of you here are. But let me assure you of one thing - it is the hurdles in life that make us all stronger and better people. You are being faced with an incredible challenge. And regardless of the outcome, I'm confident that most of you will choose to learn from it and become a better person. A better, friend, parent, son/daughter and with a little luck...a better spouse.
I am divorced but I am happy. I tried my best to save my M but the outcome of that in the end was out of my control. My children are the happiest I have ever seen them. Their grades are the best I have ever seen. I have dated some wonderful women and know exactly what it is that I am looking for in a partner. My ex is still with the guy she left me for and she informed me a couple weeks ago that they will be buying a big new house in our neighborhood. Not an easy pill to swallow. But I will rise above it. And...I am setting up my first meeting with the guy to discuss him living with my kids. I know this will be hard...but I will survive it and I will be a better person for it.
Anyway...in short...I want you all to know that you are not alone. There are people out there who know how hard this is. And we have survived and some have even thrived. That does not mean give up on your M. Knowing that I gave it my all has brought me tremendous peace in my life. But please realize that no matter where you end up...as long as you have you...and you are proud of the choices you are making...you will be ok.
Please try to step back and see all that you have this Holiday season. God bless!
Hey Swashy! I sure remember you! So glad to see you are doing well and expecially that you and the kids are happy. My H and I are really good. I hang around here to try to pay it forward since the DB Board got me through a bad time in my life. I learned a lot from this board, and it saved my M. Glad that you were part of that.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I was thinking about you the other day, wondering how it was going. I'm glad to hear all is well in your life. Strangely, I miss you and the rest of the folks who were bombed around the same time...there was a trial by fire friendship that helped us all get to the other side.
Merry Christmas! I know nothing but good things are in store for you.
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Thank you everyone! Sandi & Saffie - I remember you both as well! Glad you are doing so well Sandi and Saffie I hope you are too.
SD!!! I hear ya! What an amazing group of people we had on here. I still keep in touch with several - some I talk to on an almost daily business and will be friends for life. Not sure where I would be without the support structure I found on here. Are you on FB? A bunch of us are.
Life is never easy but it is good. Hope you had a great Christmas and that you are doing well. Kids had a blast on Christmas!