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More ((((((HUGS)))))

Personally, I am HAPPY you are feeling angry! I think it is therapeutic!

BTW, what the heck is the alt and how do I join it?

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ravenly you might want to check out the DB page on facebook.


me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
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yes and then you join and tell us? then we request you as a friend?


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NM-hope that all comes out well with your H. I too had hoped that after my H got his heart stint put in that it would scare him and make him realize what he was doing but unfortunately, it didn't...I really think it fed him deeper into his MLC. But, eveyone handles things differently. Your H's OW is someday going to get tired of your H not moving on and divorcing you. And, if they asked about him having more kids, that had to have been weird for him to answer that in front of her, IF, she was indeed in there with him. You can do this!!!


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How do I find the DB page on Facebook? I found the "fan page"...But I don't think I can join that page and "hang" with everyone there.

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ravenly-Become a fan of DB and and look at the fans and you will find names you recognize! NM's is easy!


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ok if you are the only one, I requested you! And sent you a message!

Well, am shaking off my friend's comment: Newmama, now you REALLY know where you stand if he didn't ask YOU to be with him for the biopsy! (where you need someone to drive you home)

And my aunt said "Sweetie, I just think that this happened so fast for WH and he has been with OW for almost a year now that of course he would ask her to help him.If he doesn't ask you, I think it's because he feels he doesn't deserve you. But it's how he will feel after this event that may make him reflect on what he wants- he just found out 2 days ago. Do you really think he would dump his girlfriend of 11 months overnight as soon as he learned he could have cancer?"

And my mom said "I have no doubt that he was facing his mortality and thinking about who he wants. Just remember, you can do whatever YOU want-it's your life and the best case scenario is that you look back on this 40 years from now, still together and call it the year from Hell. Worst case is, aside from my grandchild growing up in a broken home is that your heart was broken and you took a year of your life to not end your marriage or to date someone."

Both are happily married to their 3rd husbands....


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Originally Posted By: newmama
Both are happily married to their 3rd husbands....


That is all good advice NM but you need to look after you and all this time, even with the GALing I don't think you've been doing that.

All of those comments are looking at what he is thinking, what he is doing and what he is wanting. You need to switch that off and starting looking at what YOU are thinking, what YOU are doing and what YOU are wanting.


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Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

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Newmama, I sent you a friend request...WOW are you GORGEOUS!!!!!!! Sorry, but WH is a darn FOOL!!

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NM-hate to say it but agree with P17!!! But, I do think it is normal to slip into the "what H is thinking mode" once in awhile. You are doing so well at making a life for you and little guy!!!


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H asks to come home 4-11
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