I think some of us are sent here because we can save our marriages. Some of us are sent to heal ourselves. Some are here to give encouragement. No matter what each outcome, I think that we all have something to give, and something to receive. And we all can be "successful", even if it isn't in the way we thought when we came.
I've met some real true friends her, in the virtual world, and in the real world. Some tell me that I have helped them, and I know they have helped me.
I like to use the cliche about taking lemons and making lemonade. I think this place serves up some pretty tasty lemonade.
Good post. Even though I still have love for my WAW and would still try to save our M, I may be better off without her. I just bought the book below, the description says it all. Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
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Nice! all we need are some drums and someone with a voice better than mine
goagh plays drums--he moved them into the middle of the living room when Greek took the furniture. From what I understand, he bet the crap out of them on a regular basis.
Nice post, Serenity. I do not know what i would do if I had not met ladies like Sandycay, KellyJo, Amy, and S.T. I talk to them regularly and have been to visit KJ twice. At a point where I was furious at my DH and contemplating pulling the plug myself, Amy reminded me to love unconditionally. God walks with me, so I am never alone and He has placed wonderful support in my life through this forum. God is so good!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
UGH!! Should have been COACH!!!
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Nice! all we need are some drums and someone with a voice better than mine
goagh plays drums--he moved them into the middle of the living room when Greek took the furniture. From what I understand, he bet the crap out of them on a regular basis.
Nice post, Serenity. I do not know what i would do if I had not met ladies like Sandycay, KellyJo, Amy, and S.T. I talk to them regularly and have been to visit KJ twice. At a point where I was furious at my DH and contemplating pulling the plug myself, Amy reminded me to love unconditionally. God walks with me, so I am never alone and He has placed wonderful support in my life through this forum. God is so good!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
UGH!! Should have been COACH!!!
Yes, Goagh play drum hard. Goagh like drum, drum speak truth.
SMW???? Where have you been? Sooooo what's up with you?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I was gonna say! I thought Greek had had some primal male, wear-the-loincloth-in-the-woods OM in her life at one point . . .
goagh like to wear animal skin.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Nice! all we need are some drums and someone with a voice better than mine
goagh plays drums--he moved them into the middle of the living room when Greek took the furniture. From what I understand, he bet the crap out of them on a regular basis.
Nice post, Serenity. I do not know what i would do if I had not met ladies like Sandycay, KellyJo, Amy, and S.T. I talk to them regularly and have been to visit KJ twice. At a point where I was furious at my DH and contemplating pulling the plug myself, Amy reminded me to love unconditionally. God walks with me, so I am never alone and He has placed wonderful support in my life through this forum. God is so good!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
UGH!! Should have been COACH!!!
Yes, Goagh play drum hard. Goagh like drum, drum speak truth.
SMW???? Where have you been? Sooooo what's up with you?
You nut!!
I have been around, but not here much. I drop in every now and again for perspective, but I don't feel like I have a bunch to offer anyone. DH still drifts in and out of our lives. He is here everyday from after work until bedtime, all day on the weekends. He is usually waiting in the driveway when we get home from church on Sundays. He has still not given back the house key from when I went to NY and I have not asked for it. He does not use it.
The night before Halloween, we all went ghost hunting at a VERY OLD Army base that is reputed to be haunted. We snuck into an offlimits closed barracks and tried to record an EVP. All we recorded was S3 whispering but it was sooo much fun. We went Christmas shopping Hallowween morning and took the kids trick or treating together. He was here all day that day.
He is, as far as I know, still involved with the OW. She must be incredibly desperate to put up with this next to nothing relationship they have. I suspect she will be drifting into town next weekend, since he has duty Thanksgiving Day and told the kids he would be here that weekend. He was included in an invitation to a birthday party that D6 is going to next weekend and says he can't attend.
He also has duty Christmas Eve, but is coming straight here when the duty section secures Christmas morning. I am cooking Christmas dinner for the entire family--both sides. The girls, my family, my church friends, and I are praying for a Christmas miracle.
My mom says she sees a difference in him--less distance--from time to time. He is going to a church event for the kids on Sunday with us.
Most days are very good--I am calm, in control, loving, and attentive without smothering. I do my own thing when he is here and he seeks me out on occasion. I listen to what he has to say and offer opinions if asked. I pack him lunch for the next day with the dinner leftovers and he does thank me. He complimented my cooking the other night and we had a shared laugh about one of his past cooking adventures.
I am married without the fringe benefits--hugs, kissing, affection, SEX.
The ship has a Christmas Party Dec. 4th that he hs not mentioned to me, but I am thinking he does not plan to attend, no matter how politically expedient it would be. He won't take me and can't take her.
I came up with a Christmas present for him and it has been approved by sandycay, ST, KellyJo and Racefan as being perfect. My FIL is helping me with it.
The kids are excited about the holidays and have alreasdy put the Christmas music station on the TV. I was doing really well, until I'll Be Home For Christmas came on. God, I pray it is so!!
Gos is still telling me to stand and sends me consistent affirmations that He is working things out. All things in His time.
So that is how stuff is in my neck of the woods. Give your beautiful wife hug for me.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I was gonna say! I thought Greek had had some primal male, wear-the-loincloth-in-the-woods OM in her life at one point . . .
See! That's how rumors get started! Misspelled words! Job security for English teachers like me! Cheers! Greek
LOL Greek! The real issue is the fact that I have worn the letters off most of the lettr on my keyboard and I am a hunt and peck typist--albeit at almost 70 wpm.
I miss you on Facebook--what happened?
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
