Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

Well I guess I'll start a new thread since my sitch has changed.

This morning my W told me she was getting an attorney to move ahead with the D. So I'll be GAL for real now.

She's got so much anger in her that I told that she should figure out what's going on inside her so she doesn't keep taking it out on us.

I feel sorry for our kids.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I'm so sorry to hear this, Stuck. You and your daughters will be in my prayers tonite.

Puppy

[Serenity13]

I am sorry Stuck...You have my prayers as well. (((Hugs)))

[volleydog]

You'll be in my prayers...Take care of the kids and yourself..

[Coach]

Sorry for the news. It doesn't change who you are and how you handle things. Take care of yourself and your kids right now.

Strength and Honor.
Coach

[dburt]

Sorry to hear it, but keep up the good fight.

Burt

[MrBond]

Thanks Everyone.

I just needed some time to regroup. I just fell into the trap of the whiny victim again once she started attacking me about things. I'm going to make sure it doesn't happen again.

[confusedinpa]

Stuck

I'm really sorry to hear the news. It's not over till it's over.

Hang in there. You will always have the love of your children and the support of the people here. You have helped a lot if folks here. Regardless of how this turns, you are a good man and will continue to grow

Remember, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Take care and keep your head up

[MrBond]

Thanks CIPA.

Sometimes I really do think our S's are lost on a distant planet somewhere.

Tonight, my W comes home and doesn't say anything. Then after she changes, I come up to her and give her a big hug to try and relieve the tension. She then totally softens up and talks about her day, etc.

So weird!

The thing that set it off this morning was that she told me that she didn't love me anymore and didn't want to work on the M.

Now that's frustrating. Sometimes I think she needs to get whacked again with the idiot stick that got her in this position in the first place.

[confusedinpa]

Stuck,

I'm going to tell you what you have told me countless times, you can't control what she does or think. That's the quickest path to feeling powerless.

Detach and work on focus on you and your kids. Become the best Stuck for you and your girls. They deserve it as well as you do.

My wife said the same thing in last nite's relationship conversation disastor. I know we can't make our wives work on the marriage nor want the marriage, but all we can do is be the best that we can be. If it creates some doubt or uncertainty, then great, if not, you need to be the best Stuck you can be for you and your girls. Regardless of the path this goes down.