Divorce looming #14

[PMA_Baby!]

Is there hope if she let's it get dismissed? Or will she file it at the last minute? Its just another week of limbo.
Kevin

Magic 8-ball says. "Nope"

Seriously though. Stop worrying about this stuff. It's ONLY a technicality at this point. What you need to be worrying about is WHY you WANT her back and WHAT you would do if she did come back. Which you are NOT ready for anyway.

Keep on DETACHING. What happen to the 24hrs???

PMA

[K4D]

For instance. Today I was contacted and being submitted for a real BA position. The first person I wanted to call and tell is W. But I knoq that she could care less what is going on in my life by the fact that she doesn't ask.

Although last night she called me to tell me there was a concert coming on tv that she thought I would want to watch.

I said thank you for telling me as I was not aware. I told her I was on my way to church. She said she was glad to hear that. I guess she doesn't think it is good for me to be home alone dwelling on things.

Tonite is another full night of events for me. I am not hardly at home when the girls are gone.

Kevin

[K4D]

I did go 24 hours without talking about her. But then I had time with her and posted about it.

Guess I better get back on another 24 hours.

Kevin

[PMA_Baby!]

I did go 24 hours without talking about her. But then I had time with her and posted about it.

Guess I better get back on another 24 hours.

Kevin

Would definitely be HEALTHY for you. It was nice she thought of you, but that is usually out of PITY or GUILT not LOVE. Keep on doing what YOU'RE doing and it could turn to that again.

PMA

[K4D]

I called the clerks office today. Still no waiver of service filed. I just wanted to verify it. 1 week and counting.

Kevin

[PMA_Baby!]

That is good to hear. But YOU NEED to be making these CHANGES for YOU not HER and getting her back. Whether she finalizes or not really doesn't matter right now. You both have A LOT of WORK to do. Keep on doing YOUR WORK and the rest will "work" itself out.

[LucasE]

Hi,

Nice 2X4, 25yrMLC. I sure needed that.

K4D, you are doing great and you are not alone. Limboland is so toxic. I'm here hoping W is stalling on the filing because of recent financial realizations. Most likely, however, is that she just forgot. There, we both wrote it... HOPE. Hope is what keeps me going, but it is also what makes me vulnerable. My plan for me is to try again to let go. That still seems like our only option if we want to win back a life worth living.

I hope you make it to June 5th, but even if you do, you might just be getting more limboland. Perhaps you should hope for her to get it done so that you can get stronger as a result. What you should do is remind her, that would be the power move. I know I wouldn't do it, though. So I guess I'll be seeing you at Limboland. I'm the one at the back of the line.

Best of luck. L

[K4D]

Lucas,

I find it amazing that they could just forget. Here we are sitting on pins and needles and theu just forget.

But yes, I will see you in limbo land. I don't dare bring it up or she will finish it.

Back of the line eh? I'm joining you.

I kind of don't want to go out tonite. But I know I will sit at home and dwell on things if I don't.

Kevin

[LucasE]

I stayed home last night. First time in months. It turned out to be a bad idea. Went to bed late and woke up early. Ruined my morning. Blew it with STBX at morning kidswitch by looking depressed. Now look at me, I've been on DB forums for three hours. Get out of the house!

Peace.

L

[LR1]

Kev,

Wed night is good with me. You can email me at --------------------------- for details on when and where. Send this on to jag too.


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