Then again I am not a guy. I think boobies also turn them on...
Boobies are a definitely plus. Those I have, however (and this is going to be TMI) one is an entire cup size smaller than the other which cases me trauma. Childhood activity during puberty that messed up their growth. Get your cackling ready......I played accordion and the bellows were heavy on the left side pressing against my chest. Need I say more?
Mom is playing drama queen. I realized that I have Marc's IEP meeting set for 8am Tuesday morning. I planned that assuming she would still be in the hospital so I wouldn't be concerned with getting her to dialysis. I told her today that we would have to leave early Tuesday morning so I could get back to the school in time for the meeting. She got all upset and told me she just wouldn't go if she had to sit there for a whole hour beforehand. Why sitting in a warm waiting room with a television with the morning news on it would put her out so much I just don't understand. So, I called my cousin to see if she could take her and after several hours she responded 'yeah, sure'. It seemed like a begrudging answer but I'll take it anyway. She is the only other person mom will allow to take her. Of course, I know I can call Gabe and if he's off he'll take care of her but that would have to be an absolute LAST resort. He actually wanted to pick her up on Thanksgiving day but I declined.
Going to bed now. I took half an ambien and I'm feeling a little loopy and rambling.
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OK, So ex stopped paying his obligations that were assigned to him within 3 months of the D. I went to see a L to see what recourse I had. It seemed I could take him to court and sue him but that would probably just speed up his B.
After a lot of struggling and a L giving me some good advice, I decided to file. It cost 1500. I did a chapter 7 which wiped out everything except the house that I wanted to keep and had never missed a payment on. Part of which type of B you can file depends on what your income is and the number of dependents. It may vary from state to state. You do have to go to credit counseling. They told me my monthly minimums would actually increase which I couldn't afford. They told me that B was the only way as well.
So I filed after my L had me spend my tax refund with receipts. I had a meeting with the court trustee and 3 months after the date of filing my B was dismissed. My parents have been a great help to me and have helped me to get back on track. They were able to cosign with me and I got my car.
Weigh out your options but start with credit counseling and they will let you know if there are other options for you first. Any other questions, feel free to ask.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Oh, and one more thing......I think Donna posted this on her page but I thought I'd carry it over here too.
Anyone else ready to shoot the darned TV every time one of those sappy jewelry store ads comes on? GAG!!!! What a bunch of drivel! I scream at the tv every time one of those jack-heimers says, "I love you now and I always will." BLECH! That needs to have another line after it. Something to the tune of, "until my selfishness takes over and I decide that there are better people out there and I can stomp all over that love and destroy you. That will be SUCH fun!"
Yeah yeah........not a happy place......very cynical and hateful right now.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Oh, and one more thing......I think Donna posted this on her page but I thought I'd carry it over here too.
Anyone else ready to shoot the darned TV every time one of those sappy jewelry store ads comes on? GAG!!!! What a bunch of drivel! I scream at the tv every time one of those jack-heimers says, "I love you now and I always will." BLECH! That needs to have another line after it. Something to the tune of, "until my selfishness takes over and I decide that there are better people out there and I can stomp all over that love and destroy you. That will be SUCH fun!"
Yeah yeah........not a happy place......very cynical and hateful right now.
There is a huge Jewelry store billboard on my way to picking up my Son from ex's that says.. "A happy wife is a happy life". It shows a Man placing a sparkling diamond ring on his W's finger. I laugh every time I go past it. I hope people really don't believe it's that easy... lol.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
I think that is part of the problem, people do think it is that easy and when then find out it isn't, off they go. I think that is part of the issue I have with the "Twilight" series. I enjoyed it but when I saw the first one on screen and all those girls screaming, it made me realize that these girls have no idea what love really is and now they have some fantasy to compare it to. Of course I was coming off my divorce just a few months before and that may have contributed to that point of view.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
They do think it's that easy. Heck, I'm sure our WAW's thought it 'should' be that easy too and it should always feel all butterfly wings and swelling emotions......funny that they are finding out now that isn't healthy or normal.
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Neither me nor my W thought M would be such work. Both of our sets of parents fought all the time so -- I'm guessing on her part -- we both grew up thinking happy couples don't fight.
So when we did fight things would escalate and nothing would get settled and the wall kept building and then she started thinking "we're just too different. We never should have married."
The last good talk we had -- in September -- I told her we've worked so hard on D7 and her issues and she's finally showing progress, but we never worked on our issues. That's what I'm disappointed in.
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I know you're right Michelle. I've already decided that she's just going to have to deal with it. Seriously.....what's more important? The health and happiness of her daughter and grandson or what Vanna is wearing on Wheel of Fortune?
I finally had the IEP with Marc's teachers and counseling staff today. It is always rough but it was interesting having Marc sit in on the first half of it.
We are in the process of reorganizing his load and lengthening his high school experience to 5 years. He is just so disorganized and overwhelmed that he throws his hands in the air and gives up. They all see it. His quiz and test scores are B's and C's (good for him) but he has straight F's in homework, projects, and classwork. Basically, anything that he is supposed to bring home he doesn't. Anything that takes more than 10 minutes of concentration he gives up on. I'm glad that others know what is going on with him and that they are not willing to give up on him. It's just going to be a bit of a long road to get him through school. Getting through all of this with no help is making me wonder how any single parent with a special needs child ever makes it!!!! WOW! The hope I hold on to is that Marc will have something click that will make him be more proactive in his approach to his schoolwork. They had some great ideas they are implementing for him. We'll see!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
