Minkerman: W asked if she could come home

[gForce]

Nothing constructive to say, except that reading your thread brings tears to my eyes. You deserve it.

[minkerman]

Thank you, gForce. That is a nice thing to say.

[transformer]

M.... are you trying to make me cry?

Oh my God... I am so happy for you. So, so, so, so, happy.

You are so sensitive and smart... I love how you are giving W space. And I loved the part about crusty bread!!!!

(((((M)))))
TRANSFORMER

[minkerman]

(((transformer)))

This just keeps getting better....last night, my W said to me "Where have you been all my life?"

Apparently my changes are noticeable

We discussed summer vacations last night...looks like touring wine country is what we are going to do. I can't wait.

I just knew that we would be great if/when we reunited. I say honestly that this separation is the best thing her and I could have done for our marriage. Even though, when it was happening, she was adamant that it was NOT a "break" or a "time out". It was a separation, and she did not see me in her future (her exact words).

So, for others reading this - there is always hope. And if you can successfully navigate through the separation, and do the hard work required of you (self awareness, self improvement, no pressure on spouse, acceptance of your sitch), there is a chance that you will get another chance.

Keep up the good work everyone, and don't lose faith. DB your asses off, and be consistent.

I love the support I get here, and I hope I can give some back.

I am beyond happy.

[Kalni]

Thank you Minkerman for your encouragement! We are all very happy for you. Good luck stay happy!

K

You need to move out from the separated and go to Piecing!!

[minkerman]

That's the plan, Kalni.

I'm taking a deep breath and heading over next door.

I will keep checking over here to help when I can....

Salut!!

[C_K]

" and the kin folks said Mink get out of there , another forums the place you ought to be , so he loaded up the truck and moved over we see"
" Piecing that is .. warm feelings...expectations ......

Fantastic Mink

Dave

[minkerman]

Just in case anyone was mildly interested in how these sitches can possibly play out once a corner is turned and the WAS comes back home...

I do have a thread going over in "Piecing Our Marriage Back Together" forum.

My newest thread is here.

[minkerman]

WOW, I can't believe it will soon be ONE YEAR since I started this thread.

The good news: We are still together, still totally in love, and everything is better than "back to normal".

The bad news: None

I am here to say - don't give up hope. Unless you are 100% sure there is no spark, no interest, and you have tried 'everything', including DB coaches, books, changing your behavior to be more authentic to you and your partner - then there is still a chance you can have the same results as my wife and I.

All the best to everyone!!

M

[transformer]

YAY MINKERMAN!!!!!!!!!
thank you for stopping by to share your success!
YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION!!