Thanks Big Hands, Chicki, Being Me, Beth, & Believing Isaiah. What a welcome here! I'm gonna break out the marinated tofu for this occasion. Well, I hate to interupt the party with DB stuff but here goes. I just had an interesting convo with my XW, an unintentional 180, I guess you might call it. I picked up D's and before we reached my apartment I'd had three disputes with D14, I finally told D we would discontinue our discussions as they were becoming ugly. I then phoned W at work to pass on some of the details, as I needed her input on a couple of these items. So I went on with W as I stood in the hallway of my apt so D wouldn't overhear and she gave me her 2 cents (wow, she might as well be a guy, she loves to tell you what to do!). When our convo ended I said I had just wanted her input and "I guess I needed to vent". She said "that's OK, I understand, we all need to do that sometimes" It occured to me that this was actually a nice reaction on her part, who'd a thunk! When was the last time that ever happened? It's also in a way a 180 for me, because W was always the one needing to "vent" (hour upon hour!!!) and I was the listener (she used to say I was a terrible listener, but it didn't stop her though!). So all in all it was a very nice and different interaction between us but... I think I'll divorce her ass anyway! Now, back to our regularly scheduled party.
I've gotta tell you in the big scheme of things 6 months is not a long enough time to be healed. I sense in what you write that your head may say you're done but your heart hasn't caught up. Anyway, there's no rush, right?
So maybe she was just being nice, or you just caught her at a weak moment, but I would take it graciously because it's all good no matter which way this goes.
A change of heart? Only time will tell.
"put me in Coach - I'm ready to play today; look at me. I can be centerfield"/John Fogerty
I'm not reading too much into it guys. It was a little blip that was interesting, that's all. She sometimes used to throw out these red herrings and I'd think "maybe...", no more. I just appreciate pleasant interactions when we have them. It's a nice change from being a piece of furniture! Thanks for you thoughts fellow Survivors
Usually, afterwards she finds some way to be a pain in the butt again. It's like she realizes "OMG I did something nice, I better fix that quick!" I'm hoping this time she's just too busy at work to remember to be mean to me!