found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
This thread is getting a little odd.... First Swash talks about drinking his coffee with P.... I will be the first to tell you that urine should only be ingested during an emergency.
Then Rob starts talking about Swash dancing around in his underwear in his living room.
I think I've stepped into the twilight zone. Not the normal one I live in, but another realm of it.
M-35 going on 15 D-8 S- 3 yrs ex-CL(w)- 30
D over one year
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams "Just Be"
Actually...one more thing. P got me a copy of The Four Agreements for Christmas. Pretty good book. About halfway through it.
Anyway I was reading it last night and got to this:
Quote:
If someone is not treating you with love and respect it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don't need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.
SO...Thank You to STBX! She has removed herself from my life and with it the suffering that I had to endure for almost a decade. I am healing now. And I feel so in control of my life again. I am at peace for the first time in a long time. And yes, I have 100% confidence in my ability to to make solid decisions for myself.
swashy,
That quote is very interesting AND true....
My new W said for the first time, "You are better off without K (WAW). She did NOT appreciate you..." It is so nice to be appreciated by my new W, have a W who understands communication and what a real M is all about.
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 01/11/0805:57 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Some freaky stuff going on maaaaan!!! And if you are gonna give fig licks...well you better give me a couple too.
RMG - If they can't change that behavior..then...yes...I think that statement is very true too. Must have felt good to have your new W tell you that. Have to say though...kinda surprised it was the first time. But still nice to have that. And I'm also willing to bet that your new wife undderstands communication and what a real M is all about because YOU do too. It's a two way street.
I know in my M I felt like I was talking into a phone and she could hear me...but it was hard to hear her and istead of getting quite and trying to listen for her...i got louder and louder thinking she couldn't hear me either.
Both people in the M need to be able to speak and listen or you will find yourselves in a world of trouble.
