Ok...new question - 06/26/07 01:52 PM
Hi All,
I have a question for all of you guys, I probably know the answer to this, but thought I would ask it anyway.
How do you differentiate between thinking your actions are saving a marriage, and when you are being used?
My H and I have now separated, and we are spending time together. We have been intimate over the past couple of weeks.
He is still "in-love" with OW, yet is intimate with me.
I have told him this situation is not good for me, having him intimate with me and then professing his love for another, and talking to me about it, is really hurting me and making me confused.
He told me, the intimacy we now share helps him with us, and it is important we continue to be if we are to have a future...then 10 minutes later he tells me if I can't be intimate with him, he understands...
WTF? which is it?
I do not know if this is helping me or hurting me. It is wonderful when we are intimate, it is usually the next day when he sends me an e-mail talking about her.
ARGH!
What happens when the action you must take to save your marriage becomes damaging to yourself?
I really don't know if there is an answer to this, my councellor has given some good insight on these things, but I seem to find myself here constantly...in this limbo...
Thoughts, comments, advice, smacks with a 2X4 are always welcomed