My wife is dead set D will make her happier... - 07/17/11 03:47 AM
I am new. This is only my 2nd post.
My wife and I have been separated now for a little over a month. It seems that divorce is almost a for sure thing. She is so dead set on it. She says the reason she has not filed is because she doesn't have the money yet.
She really just doesn't seem to care anymore. She just doesn't.
We have two beautiful girls ages 4 1/2 and 2. She says that our 2 year old won't remember the divorce and she thinks our 4 year old will be just fine.
Does anyone know of any info about the effects divorce has on children. A very realistic look. Not one that makes it overly terrible or not terrible. I'm just looking for the reality of it. I want to know what our kids are in for. They are so so sweet. I am so close with my 4 year old and I grow closer with my 2 year old all the time.
My wife says she is generally so much happier now that I am gone. How can I argue with that?
I will say this. She is not the sweet woman I married anymore. She has stopped attending church (used to be very religious). She just seems like she is rebelling. I'm not saying everyone needs to go to church. Just that the sweet woman I once married is gone. Like her heart has hardened.
How can I have hope when I see none?
I swear our relationship is repairable.
I don't know you guys. It seems like divorce is imminent.
One thing I have not done is totally let go.
Is there something important about that? It seems I have read that there is. I still think about her way too much and I swear it is not healthy.
She rarely communicates with me anymore. Only when she has to. She rarely returns a text or email. And only calls if she wants something from me, like for me to watch the kids or to do her some sort of favor.
I don't know you guys. I am so grateful for marriage. I believe it is so important. It is after all the family unit.
I can just kind of peer into the future and see our kids being sent back and forth numerous times, being confused by who we are dating, we now have different views of spirituality and religion. It is such a mess!
I pray to God daily. I know not everyone believes in God but I do. He is my hope. My Rock.
Friends please help! Share your wisdom!
Maybe sometimes there is nothing we can do?
I can in my own mind visually see us working things out. But this is just in my head. She has 0 desire to work anything out.
If anyone wants any more info feel free to read my first post or I can paste it on this thread.
I love her so much. I have such a huge desire to be a better Husband and Father. Anyways...
My wife and I have been separated now for a little over a month. It seems that divorce is almost a for sure thing. She is so dead set on it. She says the reason she has not filed is because she doesn't have the money yet.
She really just doesn't seem to care anymore. She just doesn't.
We have two beautiful girls ages 4 1/2 and 2. She says that our 2 year old won't remember the divorce and she thinks our 4 year old will be just fine.
Does anyone know of any info about the effects divorce has on children. A very realistic look. Not one that makes it overly terrible or not terrible. I'm just looking for the reality of it. I want to know what our kids are in for. They are so so sweet. I am so close with my 4 year old and I grow closer with my 2 year old all the time.
My wife says she is generally so much happier now that I am gone. How can I argue with that?
I will say this. She is not the sweet woman I married anymore. She has stopped attending church (used to be very religious). She just seems like she is rebelling. I'm not saying everyone needs to go to church. Just that the sweet woman I once married is gone. Like her heart has hardened.
How can I have hope when I see none?
I swear our relationship is repairable.
I don't know you guys. It seems like divorce is imminent.
One thing I have not done is totally let go.
Is there something important about that? It seems I have read that there is. I still think about her way too much and I swear it is not healthy.
She rarely communicates with me anymore. Only when she has to. She rarely returns a text or email. And only calls if she wants something from me, like for me to watch the kids or to do her some sort of favor.
I don't know you guys. I am so grateful for marriage. I believe it is so important. It is after all the family unit.
I can just kind of peer into the future and see our kids being sent back and forth numerous times, being confused by who we are dating, we now have different views of spirituality and religion. It is such a mess!
I pray to God daily. I know not everyone believes in God but I do. He is my hope. My Rock.
Friends please help! Share your wisdom!
Maybe sometimes there is nothing we can do?
I can in my own mind visually see us working things out. But this is just in my head. She has 0 desire to work anything out.
If anyone wants any more info feel free to read my first post or I can paste it on this thread.
I love her so much. I have such a huge desire to be a better Husband and Father. Anyways...