Feel I am causing more harm by staying!!! - 12/02/14 05:52 PM
Hi all,
I have been following this forum for a while and it looks like a good place for me to state my problems. I am a Husband married for 2 years now and have a small kid. I am addicted to P and have been addicted for almost 15 years with multiple attempts to quit. I have decided to live my life with it and there is absolutely no way I am going to tackle this issue with my spouse. Ours was an arranged marriage setup by our parents. Every day since our marriage has been an ordeal. I have made best possible efforts to keep the marriage going. I could not broach the topic of leaving as she was pregnant. Now that everyone is healthy and good to be on their own, I am thinking of leaving..before my addiction starts to show and cause irreparable damage to all our lives.
Only other option I see is to run away without anyone knowing. I have never ever dealt with an issue heads on..and have always let matters get out of hand before dealing with it. Running away seems to be the easier option, but divorce seems to be the correct option. Counselling and talking about quitting this addiction are out of the picture as I am 100% sure the won't work.
I might just be looking to confirm my views here...But I was wondering if there was anyone out there with similar issues.
Thanks
DG
I have been following this forum for a while and it looks like a good place for me to state my problems. I am a Husband married for 2 years now and have a small kid. I am addicted to P and have been addicted for almost 15 years with multiple attempts to quit. I have decided to live my life with it and there is absolutely no way I am going to tackle this issue with my spouse. Ours was an arranged marriage setup by our parents. Every day since our marriage has been an ordeal. I have made best possible efforts to keep the marriage going. I could not broach the topic of leaving as she was pregnant. Now that everyone is healthy and good to be on their own, I am thinking of leaving..before my addiction starts to show and cause irreparable damage to all our lives.
Only other option I see is to run away without anyone knowing. I have never ever dealt with an issue heads on..and have always let matters get out of hand before dealing with it. Running away seems to be the easier option, but divorce seems to be the correct option. Counselling and talking about quitting this addiction are out of the picture as I am 100% sure the won't work.
I might just be looking to confirm my views here...But I was wondering if there was anyone out there with similar issues.
Thanks
DG