Strange email 5 years on - 06/20/13 06:05 PM
I was on these forums about 5 years ago and they saved my life. They got me through a seriously dark time. An out line of what happened is as follows.
About 8 years ago I had an affair with a friend of my husbands. No sex but that was due to no opportunity rather than guilt I am sad to say. The next few ears were full of xh staying home and leaving home . We tried to fix the marriage. I never saw or contacted the guy I had affair with again.
Well about 3 years on and ex comes home and tells me he had met someone. That was the end. I discovered this site, realised I could not fight for a marriage with 3 people in it. I began following some amazing advise on here and eventually I merged out the other side , thinner but alive.
So in last 5 years ex has moved in with her ( I call her RAG ) but has on occasion declared she is just a friend. Xh and I rarely talk. Our kids are grown. The most we talked was when his factory burnt down. He turned to me and proclaimed I was the only one eh
Who would understand and he was right. I supported him 100%. Once the dust settled he retreated further into his cave.
We recently travelled to Las Vegas from New Zealand for my d 21st. Xh insisted we travel separately and we had a few little talks but not much. We have never argued, our financial split of assets was instigated by me ( which I believe he resents ) . We are not yet divorced. Neither one of us files.
2 weeks ago we attended a 50th party ( him with rag and me with my boyfriend of 2 years ). This was the first time I had seen him with her and it was differ cult and uncomfortable and we were in large venue. My son has just bought a home and he wishes to have house warming party with everyone and I know that I cannot be in the that close proximity to ex and rag. To yuk. So I asked my son if he would mind if we split our time with him on that day. He said fine but I was to work it out with dad. So I duly sent him an email and this was what I got back
Just like to say I do not consider Linda a girl friend as you put it, I have no ties with her and am free to walk anytime, I'm easily content and she is providing everything I need at this time, I enjoy her company and she is not demanding in anyway, who knows what the future will hold, she may think other wise but I don't care. While for now working the Norrie Street mortgage down I'm content to carry on what I'm doing.
I old like people's thoughts on why he would tell me such. Should I still have hope and what should I do
About 8 years ago I had an affair with a friend of my husbands. No sex but that was due to no opportunity rather than guilt I am sad to say. The next few ears were full of xh staying home and leaving home . We tried to fix the marriage. I never saw or contacted the guy I had affair with again.
Well about 3 years on and ex comes home and tells me he had met someone. That was the end. I discovered this site, realised I could not fight for a marriage with 3 people in it. I began following some amazing advise on here and eventually I merged out the other side , thinner but alive.
So in last 5 years ex has moved in with her ( I call her RAG ) but has on occasion declared she is just a friend. Xh and I rarely talk. Our kids are grown. The most we talked was when his factory burnt down. He turned to me and proclaimed I was the only one eh
Who would understand and he was right. I supported him 100%. Once the dust settled he retreated further into his cave.
We recently travelled to Las Vegas from New Zealand for my d 21st. Xh insisted we travel separately and we had a few little talks but not much. We have never argued, our financial split of assets was instigated by me ( which I believe he resents ) . We are not yet divorced. Neither one of us files.
2 weeks ago we attended a 50th party ( him with rag and me with my boyfriend of 2 years ). This was the first time I had seen him with her and it was differ cult and uncomfortable and we were in large venue. My son has just bought a home and he wishes to have house warming party with everyone and I know that I cannot be in the that close proximity to ex and rag. To yuk. So I asked my son if he would mind if we split our time with him on that day. He said fine but I was to work it out with dad. So I duly sent him an email and this was what I got back
Just like to say I do not consider Linda a girl friend as you put it, I have no ties with her and am free to walk anytime, I'm easily content and she is providing everything I need at this time, I enjoy her company and she is not demanding in anyway, who knows what the future will hold, she may think other wise but I don't care. While for now working the Norrie Street mortgage down I'm content to carry on what I'm doing.
I old like people's thoughts on why he would tell me such. Should I still have hope and what should I do