Best way to interact with stbxw??? - 04/08/07 04:48 PM
My wife filed for D early this year. I do not want the D. She insists. My question is: Throughout this I have tried to remain a friend to the W. I hoped that by doing this I could stop the D. No. I am polite and rarely lose my temper, even at times when I am extremely tested by her attitude / actions. Possibly she sees this as me pursuing her?
Anyway, this week I began to change direction. I speak to her as little as possible, and when approached by her keep my responses as brief and to the point as possible. This seems to be really frustrating to her. Now SHE seems to be the one that is trying to "be the friend". She is often trying to get me involved in non D related conversations. I'm really not into playing games, however I must admit I am enjoying her "pursuing" me.
I wonder if she is realizing what she is giving up? I'll never be voted USA father or husband of the year, but I do think I'm a decent guy.
BTW, I'm no Dr. Phil, but W shows many signs of MLC.
Have any of you in a similar boat experienced something like this? What works or does not for you. Thanks!
Anyway, this week I began to change direction. I speak to her as little as possible, and when approached by her keep my responses as brief and to the point as possible. This seems to be really frustrating to her. Now SHE seems to be the one that is trying to "be the friend". She is often trying to get me involved in non D related conversations. I'm really not into playing games, however I must admit I am enjoying her "pursuing" me.
I wonder if she is realizing what she is giving up? I'll never be voted USA father or husband of the year, but I do think I'm a decent guy.
BTW, I'm no Dr. Phil, but W shows many signs of MLC.
Have any of you in a similar boat experienced something like this? What works or does not for you. Thanks!