Life Sentence in a Sexless Marriage

I am a 59 year old female married to a 64 year old male. At my husband's choice, we have had a sexless marriage for over 30 years (defined as 10X or less per year). The marriage has had no sex whatsoever for 5 1/2 years. I used to want to revive this, but I no longer do. I am growing to hate him and I am thinking of leaving. Yes, I read the Sex Starved Wife and tried some of the techniques. I am tired of this!

I don't know why they do this.

I had a previous R with a man 10 yrs older than me. He claimed to not like sex (and had ED) but I later found out he had a quite active internet porn habit.

"I had a previous R with a man 10 yrs older than me. He claimed to not like sex (and had ED) but I later found out he had a quite active internet porn habit.

Then you don't understand porn addiction. It has nothing to do with whether or not you can 'get it up'. It's about fulfilling a fantasy. It's more mental than physical.