Update from dburt... - 03/24/09 02:37 PM
Been away for awhile, said to myself that I would come back and give some encouragement to others, to help out a little, as so many helped me in the last few months.
Wife and I are doing great, I let her intiate sex now, which now happens 2 to 3 times a week. Gotta be happy with that. She is much more affectionae to me now outside the bedroom. More so than in the last 2 years combined. Hugs, pats, kisses, and impromptu massages.
She says she has enjoyed the last few weeks with me more than the last 3 years. The changes in myself have certainly worked for me.
She invited me in to her IC to start MC just yesterday. I believe this IC has helped her tremendously, I think she has seen my side, and he has allowed her to see my changes more easily. He gave us 3 choices where we can go, stay the same and be miserable, divorce, or have a superior marriage. I was happy that she picked number 3, lol, because just about 60 days or so she was picking #2.
We are having a great time and she is having fun again. It is so great to see her happy, and that makes me happy.
I am still dbing, although I don't consider it very much, I have truly changed. I don't drink 7 or 8 beers a night, but the occassional 1 or 2. I still make the bed, do dishes when I see them in the sink, and generally help out more, I do not pressure her for sexual favors nor do I grope or grab her anymore, all my touches are in a loving maner and not sexual (she has told me she is finally getting use to my touch not being sexual), going out once or twice a week with my friends for a couple of hours at a time (not running with them all night long lol), and excercising (I have gone from total inactivity to running my first ever 5k this weekend).
Thought I would stop by, and if you have anything for me, let me have it.
THanks to all that have helped me!
Burt
Wife and I are doing great, I let her intiate sex now, which now happens 2 to 3 times a week. Gotta be happy with that. She is much more affectionae to me now outside the bedroom. More so than in the last 2 years combined. Hugs, pats, kisses, and impromptu massages.
She says she has enjoyed the last few weeks with me more than the last 3 years. The changes in myself have certainly worked for me.
She invited me in to her IC to start MC just yesterday. I believe this IC has helped her tremendously, I think she has seen my side, and he has allowed her to see my changes more easily. He gave us 3 choices where we can go, stay the same and be miserable, divorce, or have a superior marriage. I was happy that she picked number 3, lol, because just about 60 days or so she was picking #2.
We are having a great time and she is having fun again. It is so great to see her happy, and that makes me happy.
I am still dbing, although I don't consider it very much, I have truly changed. I don't drink 7 or 8 beers a night, but the occassional 1 or 2. I still make the bed, do dishes when I see them in the sink, and generally help out more, I do not pressure her for sexual favors nor do I grope or grab her anymore, all my touches are in a loving maner and not sexual (she has told me she is finally getting use to my touch not being sexual), going out once or twice a week with my friends for a couple of hours at a time (not running with them all night long lol), and excercising (I have gone from total inactivity to running my first ever 5k this weekend).
Thought I would stop by, and if you have anything for me, let me have it.
THanks to all that have helped me!
Burt
