Barn's burnt down - 02/24/20 01:41 PM
Old thread; https://www.divorcebusting.com/foru...ain=62314&Number=2866661#Post2866661
The Barn's burnt down
now
I can see the moon
Hi all
Thought it was high time I came over here from newcomers. Married 30 years (Decree Nisi issued but he's dragging his feet on the financials so no decree absolute yet) 3 wonderful sons and a grandson. H left summer 2018 when I found out about his 2 year long double life.
Unfortunately, I had to get into court in order for him to produce some financials. '000s of £s. H is a lawyer so his costs are minimal. Guess what, he's broke, skint and the true financial situation has now become apparent. Not surprised he didn't want to produce that information. So, I reached out and asked for a meeting and the long story short is that we have agreed in principle what the settlement should be and just need a couple of simple things ironing out. If he doesn't produce required contract then I have a court date in April.
It's been a bitter pill to swallow, but sometimes you just have to take stock and look at the net gain, figuratively and literally. I face another 17 years of work as a result but it is more important that I remove myself from a very real risk whilst still married to him.
I have no desire to fight because that involves looking backwards not forwards. And I know that I suffer from being a 'justice junky' It's a hard lesson to learn that not everyone will treat you as you would treat them.
So, on Thursday I set off to Africa, specifically South Africa, Botswana and Zimbabwe. Nervous as heck, but only about silly things. It has become known as my 3Fs holiday: Fifty, fabulous and F*** you!
The Barn's burnt down
now
I can see the moon
Hi all
Thought it was high time I came over here from newcomers. Married 30 years (Decree Nisi issued but he's dragging his feet on the financials so no decree absolute yet) 3 wonderful sons and a grandson. H left summer 2018 when I found out about his 2 year long double life.
Unfortunately, I had to get into court in order for him to produce some financials. '000s of £s. H is a lawyer so his costs are minimal. Guess what, he's broke, skint and the true financial situation has now become apparent. Not surprised he didn't want to produce that information. So, I reached out and asked for a meeting and the long story short is that we have agreed in principle what the settlement should be and just need a couple of simple things ironing out. If he doesn't produce required contract then I have a court date in April.
It's been a bitter pill to swallow, but sometimes you just have to take stock and look at the net gain, figuratively and literally. I face another 17 years of work as a result but it is more important that I remove myself from a very real risk whilst still married to him.
I have no desire to fight because that involves looking backwards not forwards. And I know that I suffer from being a 'justice junky' It's a hard lesson to learn that not everyone will treat you as you would treat them.
So, on Thursday I set off to Africa, specifically South Africa, Botswana and Zimbabwe. Nervous as heck, but only about silly things. It has become known as my 3Fs holiday: Fifty, fabulous and F*** you!