Maybe Things are settling? - 06/19/16 12:05 AM
So it looks like settlement is almost thru, xh2 is still spewing via his l.
So to recap back to the beginning, things has spiralled out of control in the m for about a year. Xh2 was very angry hitting my then s15. He had threatened me and carried a pistol which was often loaded when we traveled. He kept loaded guns round the house within arms reach. He was getting nasty and accusatory, once even chasing me down when he thought I wasn't at work but at home cheating. He also punched and kicked his own animals and I once saw him assault his own son then 13 as a one off.
Then there were the famous lectures of the "wrong hemeriod prep" which would one hour of spew from him, interrupting resulted in more personalised spew of how disrespectful and rude I was as well as the unloving and uncaring over the hemeriod issue.
I know right far more pressing issues in the world than that, but I'm sure you get the pic. I was always placed last even lower than the dog. Any needs I asked to be met were once I aired them, met with distian and then he went out of his way to avoid granting them.
That issue just magnified as the years went on. I suspect either as I thought early on his got age related dementure or mlc. He talked to himself in almost like alter ego at bd.
So he left to be with his soul mate and has been with his quality ow since.
I made the decision I didn't think I could actually tolerate or go back after the a. So went nc by April after bd. Over 2 years ago.
I'm so dark I do not see him, the once or twice I almost had to speak to him as I had fronted him, I did the whole quick u turn and left.
Now life is great, bf and me don't fight actually not one about anything. In some respects he's gentle man. We manage to go to events with the horses and not one argument about what goes where how long pack up took or how much things cost!
It's such a relief, every place bf and I have been, I can recall a major row with xh2 it's a horrific memory of nothing but disagreements. Like vanilla and some others I suffer a bit from ptsd. It gets me at the worst times. It is getting less, much less.
I have found tho this standing up for one self makes you nothing but a target. I find the constant minor harrasements very tiring. The surprising thing being country most men didn't seem to acept women can be in charge. They can have money and Indepandance without a man, or even there own stuff while with a man.
So to recap back to the beginning, things has spiralled out of control in the m for about a year. Xh2 was very angry hitting my then s15. He had threatened me and carried a pistol which was often loaded when we traveled. He kept loaded guns round the house within arms reach. He was getting nasty and accusatory, once even chasing me down when he thought I wasn't at work but at home cheating. He also punched and kicked his own animals and I once saw him assault his own son then 13 as a one off.
Then there were the famous lectures of the "wrong hemeriod prep" which would one hour of spew from him, interrupting resulted in more personalised spew of how disrespectful and rude I was as well as the unloving and uncaring over the hemeriod issue.
I know right far more pressing issues in the world than that, but I'm sure you get the pic. I was always placed last even lower than the dog. Any needs I asked to be met were once I aired them, met with distian and then he went out of his way to avoid granting them.
That issue just magnified as the years went on. I suspect either as I thought early on his got age related dementure or mlc. He talked to himself in almost like alter ego at bd.
So he left to be with his soul mate and has been with his quality ow since.
I made the decision I didn't think I could actually tolerate or go back after the a. So went nc by April after bd. Over 2 years ago.
I'm so dark I do not see him, the once or twice I almost had to speak to him as I had fronted him, I did the whole quick u turn and left.
Now life is great, bf and me don't fight actually not one about anything. In some respects he's gentle man. We manage to go to events with the horses and not one argument about what goes where how long pack up took or how much things cost!
It's such a relief, every place bf and I have been, I can recall a major row with xh2 it's a horrific memory of nothing but disagreements. Like vanilla and some others I suffer a bit from ptsd. It gets me at the worst times. It is getting less, much less.
I have found tho this standing up for one self makes you nothing but a target. I find the constant minor harrasements very tiring. The surprising thing being country most men didn't seem to acept women can be in charge. They can have money and Indepandance without a man, or even there own stuff while with a man.
