Joe's New Life - 03/04/16 12:52 PM
So I am over here now!! It is weird, but when I first came to this forum, I was trying to save my marriage like everyone else. I look back now and I think I knew that my marriage couldn't be saved. I don't think I wanted to admit it, but I was not happy in my marriage. I stayed and I tolerated things for my kids. And the fact that I hate drama and wanted none of it.
I was not able to save my marriage but with the help of this forum, I was able to save myself if that makes sense. I admit I was not the perfect husband. I am working hard on my issues. My counselor is helping me work on why I tolerated the intolerable for so long.
I have often thought of coming back here so I could payback to others the help that was given to me. The thing that has kept me from that is my views have changed from where they were before. I believe now that when these situations come around and an affair is involved, a person definitely needs to clean up their end of the street, but no one deserves to be cheated on. Today because of how I have become, if I was in the same situation again, I would have asked her to leave as soon as the cheating started!
Sometimes things come up that bring me back to the feelings I had during that time. I can't tell how much better and at peace I feel not having to deal with that anymore. No wondering, no trying to figure out what is truth and what is lies, no tension, no drama, no feeling like I am not good enough, no guilt trips.
I am on a different journey now. I am learning as I go. I working on me. I am looking forward to what God has in store for me. Sometimes it is scary and lonely, but that passes. Life is GOOD!! I am so thankful today and everyday!!
I was not able to save my marriage but with the help of this forum, I was able to save myself if that makes sense. I admit I was not the perfect husband. I am working hard on my issues. My counselor is helping me work on why I tolerated the intolerable for so long.
I have often thought of coming back here so I could payback to others the help that was given to me. The thing that has kept me from that is my views have changed from where they were before. I believe now that when these situations come around and an affair is involved, a person definitely needs to clean up their end of the street, but no one deserves to be cheated on. Today because of how I have become, if I was in the same situation again, I would have asked her to leave as soon as the cheating started!
Sometimes things come up that bring me back to the feelings I had during that time. I can't tell how much better and at peace I feel not having to deal with that anymore. No wondering, no trying to figure out what is truth and what is lies, no tension, no drama, no feeling like I am not good enough, no guilt trips.
I am on a different journey now. I am learning as I go. I working on me. I am looking forward to what God has in store for me. Sometimes it is scary and lonely, but that passes. Life is GOOD!! I am so thankful today and everyday!!