Moving into My Future - 12/13/13 05:10 AM
Hi, everyone here! I am new to this forum, but it I was overdue to move here.
Short version of my story-- have been DBing for 2 years-- BD was 1 1/2+ years ago though.STBX was in an EA and continues this A.
We filed for D on 11-26-13. We are trying mediation but things are starting off well at all.
We never fought in our M, but now everything is a battle. DBing went out the window for me-- I think I had been holding things in for so long & filtering EVERYTHING I said and did that now I just tend to say what I need to say and my actions are what I think I need to do (not what I think he might react best to).
We have 3 boys who live with me in their home they have grown up in. CUrrently their dad visits them at our home after school each day and they stay overnight one weekend night.
We are fighting over custody first and finances second. He wants them 50% of the time after them living almost eclusively with me for the past year we've been separated. I am having a very difficult time coming to terms with not being a full-time mom any more when the D is all said and done.
ON the positive side of my life... I have been dating a guy I will call pianoman (as he romances me with his beautiful piano-playing)! We've been dating 6 weeks...and I am having the time of my life! He has been everything I've been missing in my life for sooooo long!
Of course I realize I am vulnerable and am just trying to live in the moment and not think too far in the future about this R...although he already mentions us being together long-term (which actually makes me feel giddy!).
ANyway, I've read many threads here tonight and wanted to hear from you all the trials and tribulations that you are going through in your D's (or went through). Thanks in advance!
Short version of my story-- have been DBing for 2 years-- BD was 1 1/2+ years ago though.STBX was in an EA and continues this A.
We filed for D on 11-26-13. We are trying mediation but things are starting off well at all.
We never fought in our M, but now everything is a battle. DBing went out the window for me-- I think I had been holding things in for so long & filtering EVERYTHING I said and did that now I just tend to say what I need to say and my actions are what I think I need to do (not what I think he might react best to).
We have 3 boys who live with me in their home they have grown up in. CUrrently their dad visits them at our home after school each day and they stay overnight one weekend night.
We are fighting over custody first and finances second. He wants them 50% of the time after them living almost eclusively with me for the past year we've been separated. I am having a very difficult time coming to terms with not being a full-time mom any more when the D is all said and done.
ON the positive side of my life... I have been dating a guy I will call pianoman (as he romances me with his beautiful piano-playing)! We've been dating 6 weeks...and I am having the time of my life! He has been everything I've been missing in my life for sooooo long!
Of course I realize I am vulnerable and am just trying to live in the moment and not think too far in the future about this R...although he already mentions us being together long-term (which actually makes me feel giddy!).
ANyway, I've read many threads here tonight and wanted to hear from you all the trials and tribulations that you are going through in your D's (or went through). Thanks in advance!
