Well, time to start a new infomercial on dating...I, personally, think it should be hosted by BA with adult humor presented by wii. Everyone seems to be doing well and enjoying the fall season. It is a time of change and ridding ourselves of the thoughts and actions that keep holding us back!
On a whim I signed up for POF and figured, "What the heck?" I need some entertainment from the 'freaks' wii is touting lurk on there. Well, I'm being pleasantly surprised. There's an EMT/paramedic pursuing heavily and a few others. We'll see....but I couldn't let BA stand back and get all the action!
Does he really need to like Golf? How bout he doesn't likel to watch or play any sports? Maybe he likes CODII and wants the new Xbox1? Would he be out of the question? What if he is too tall or short? Or skinny? Hates reading and likes reruns of the Jersey Shore? What are your criterias?
I had some when I started dating. But one was very important. She needed to like physical touch. That was a must. The rest was negotiable. I picked one thing that I have lived without and wouldn't in a new R. So far so good.
Ps; I don't mean in a sexual way
I was married to someone who didn't like to do anything I did. Consequently, we developed separate lives and XH found someone else to do life with.
I'll compromise, but I would prefer to share most things with a partner.
Uh GG, I'm so glad I could be such an inspiration
But I'm really not touting lurk with anyone...it sounds pretty kinky though!
Hey GG,
Good for you! I'll live vicariously through you for the time being. The EMT sounds interesting... do tell!
I thought about doing it, but really can't. Mr. W. is back in travel mode so I'll have D16 for most of the rest of the year. Plus my work has me traveling to Pittsburgh soon and then it's the holidays. So I'm benched for the rest of the year.
Now we need BA's update on the hockey game with Marianne last night. Sorry the Caps lost, BA. But since my team is coming to play them tomorrow, I now have to hope they lose one more time. Sorry, I'm a homer now.
It is a time of change and ridding ourselves of the thoughts and actions that keep holding us back!
I agree, GG! For some reason, I'm much more inspired to make big and healthy changes in the fall than New Years. I like to enter the holidays in a better frame of mind, especially since December isn't exactly my happy month. I don't give any of the past any free rent anymore, but for some reason, I still feel the gray cloud above me until after 12/25. Then I feel better - particularly when I put all the decorations away and get my house back.
I got a boon this weekend - Mr. Wonderful called last night to say he's going to take D16 this weekend since his traveling is going to minimize his time with her and overload me. She's cheering at the football game this afternoon, so I'll leave work a little early to go cheer her on until he gets there. Who knows... I might just stay. D19 is playing in Michigan this weekend, but the only match that gets streamed for her team is early this afternoon. So I'll get to see that too. It's going to be a tough go for them.
Anyhoo, hope everyone enjoys the weekend!
Betsey
I was married to someone who didn't like to do anything I did. Consequently, we developed separate lives and XH found someone else to do life with.
I'll compromise, but I would prefer to share most things with a partner.
Hey GG - Seeing you like at least 2 of my 3 favorite things (golfing and keeping fit) I'd love to give you a run for your money but unfortunately there are too many states between here and CO.
Good luck on POF and with the EMT.
BA
Now we need BA's update on the hockey game with Marianne last night. Sorry the Caps lost, BA. But since my team is coming to play them tomorrow, I now have to hope they lose one more time. Sorry, I'm a homer now.
Hey Betsey - well since you asked for an update, and full well knowing that the 2 X 4s are on the way here goes:
Last night (aside from the CAPs losing - grrr) was well, great. Marianne is a member of the Scarlett Club which held a pre-game celebration at a bar not far from the Verizon Center. Free food and drinks which was nice. We had non stop and easy flowing conversation all night long. There was a small but noticable amount of flirting thrown in (initially by her) just to make things interesting. The flirting could also just be due to our familiarity with each other as well. Either way, I had a good time and the fact that the CAPs lost was not a complete downer for the evening. Besides I got home in time to see the last three innings of the Detroit - Oakland game which was a nice way to end the evening.
As for my "dance card" - Barbara and I are getting together next week since we both have family in town this weekend. It is looking like that will happen on Thursday or Friday and I am very excited to see her again. Newbie Debbie and I are meeting up on Monday night. NA Jeanette is busy with her son visiting this week and I haven't heard from her in a couple of days. She told me before he arrived that she wanted to get together again after he returns to his dad in Tennessee. Of course if I don't get back on the payroll soon all of this dating may come to a screeching stop!
Oh and the way the CAPs are playing - I don't think your Avalanche has too much to worry about, but rest assured I will be rooting for the team in RED!
BA
Why would you get 2 X 4's? You're keeping your options open. Date and let date, that's our motto here lol.
BA-I'm with Wii... Why would we be wielding 2x4s? As long as you are clear with expectations and desired outcomes, it all sounds good to me. And it all sounds grown up. Lol.
Ellie-if you're around, I need a doctor's input. Back in July, D16's neuro prescribed Onfi for her seizures (on top of the zonegran). She did this on request from the nephrologist, who asked for a med that didn't tax the kidneys. So, today I got a letter from CVS/Caremark, saying that we need to find another medication as Onfi is in short supply and they can't get more from the manufacturer.
I know there are cancer protocol meds in short supply, but not this. Do you know the reason behind it? I'm sure CVS would carry it if they could... Because my copay alone is $150 for a 3 month supply. No generic, as it's relatively new. I'll talk to the neuro on Monday, but thought I would ask you in the meantime. I'm not excited about weaning her down then off.... It's going to be rough. The nephrologist is going to be unhappy too.
Thanks for anything you can throw my way.
I just got home from a high school football game. (D16 is on the integrated cheer squad). It started out nice and then got windy and cold. I was hoping to take a walk tonight, but I'm too freezing to do that. I have a date with my bathtub instead. Then I can pull a Wii and say loving things to my face in the mirror... Because I have to be nice to the person I'm dating.
TTFN,
Betsey
So the date with Debbie did not happen last night. I guess she either had second thoughts, got cold feet or maybe she got lucky and found her "soul mate" this weekend. I had not heard back from her since last Wednesday when I sent her a second email with suggestions on where we might meet.
Instead I had the a great date with my lovely D15 at the CAPs hockey game last night. I surprised her with tickets to the game once she had completed all of her homework yesterday. We had a blast AND the CAPs won so it was a great evening.
I'm hoping for two positive things this week: 1) To actually have the government reopen so that I can go back to work; and 2) a date with Barbara on either Friday or Saturday.
BA
Bets, sorry, just saw your post here.
About the Onfi - who knows why these manufacturers shortages happen, but they are becoming more frequent.
You might call around to all the different pharmacy chains in your area, some of them may still have it in stock.
Also, I don't know if this is an item you can get from the Canadian Pharmacies, you might check with Canada Drugs or some such pharmacy.
Ellie - Thanks. The Canadian pharmacies have been complaining about their shortage since January as well. It's not like it requires plutonium or something valuable, so what gives?
The shortage is unfortunately nationwide, as there is only one manufacturer for this damn drug. The flip good side is that I'm not sure I even like it. It does address the seizures, but it's changed her personality some and also caused extreme fatigue. I guess because one of the components in the Rx is diazepam.
I was able to google the generic (clobozam) and found a series of letters from Canadian pharmacies blasting their Ministry of Health. They complain that the pharmaceuticals actively seek approval for dispensing these drugs but refuse to keep up the manufacture to meet the needs. I totally agree with them.
I have some friends with cancer that have difficulty getting their chemo protocols. I just don't understand WHY. Pharmaceuticals are making record profits, so if the demand is there, why not increase supply?
In D16's case, Onfi has addictive properties to it. It's probably going to be painful to get her off it. Ugh. And then we have to find another one that works, undoubtedly at the expense of pissing her nephrologist off. She's a great doctor but she sure does like to wield her hammer. Unfortunately, it's me who gets hit - because D16 will NEVER understand the consequences of kidney failure. I keep telling the Doc this, but she continues to try to get her to understand how important it is to drink. Blech.
BA - I toggled between your game and the Colts. Good for you! By the way, my other BB friend said he'd go with us. He has season tix and sold them, LOL. My cousin is still waiting to hear about whether or not he can get the suite. More later!
Good luck with Barbara!
TTFN,
Betsey
Bets - has she ever been on a ketogenic diet for her seizures?
There is a movie called "First Do No Harm" it kinda chronicles the Ketogenic Diet and one families struggles with epilepsy and finding a better way than what was being offered. A great thing about the movie is that several people in it were people who had been on the diet and saw great improvement in their lives. It's at least worth a watch. Hope it helps.
Ellie and Subguy,
Although we've discussed the process in depth several times (with the neuro and the GI), we've elected not to do it. And yes, I have several Angelman families locally who've had great success with it, and gone over pros and cons with them as well.
The main problem with her being on it is her other diagnosis of renal acidosis. The ketogenic diet makes a bad condition even worse.
The other issue is her mobility. It would be perfect for her under 2 circumstances: 1) she weren't developmentally disabled and could exercise her own willpower to rationalize sticking to the diet for her own welfare; or 2) she was confined to a wheelchair and unable to procure food on her own.
This is my kid who gets up in the middle of the night (not too frequently, but probably 1-2x in a 14 day period) to snack. I've had kiddie locks on the cabinets but she's been smart enough to cut them off or figure out how to remove the other types. I guess that's a good thing?
From what I know from other family input is that it only works effectively if you stick to the diet 100% and no variations. Otherwise, it's a touch and go thing.
The good news is that the zonegran she's on right now takes care of the lion's share of the seizures, and we were happy to increase the dose, but the nephrologist was the one who had the complete cow about that. She may not get a choice at this point.
Then I can continue to beat the horse named D16 about increasing her fluid intake. Such fun.
Anyhoo, that's what I know on the subject?
Thanks-
Betsey
3 years ago when one of Ryan's anticonvulsants was unavailable, a generic was substituted & I was not informed. He had some major seizures & vomited during one episode. At that time he aspirated which caused pneumonia. 3 days later he was having trouble breathing & we were told it was his last day. I pushed for heroics & after 2 weeks in ICU on life support he pulled through. & it was all caused by the generic substitution!
I know you know this but do your best not top accept anything less than your daughter deserves.
If you need to check out Canadian pharmacies - the largest is Shopper's Drug Mart. You could also try Rexall Pharma Plus or London Drugs.
Barb
Thanks, Barb! I've written them down. And if I ever get that desperate, D19 is 20 minutes from the Canadian border. I wouldn't hesitate to get her to do this for us either.
The thing is that Mr. W. and I really didn't like the side effects of Onfi (clobazam). She's seriously tired all the time and just not her normal congenial, upbeat self. One of the symptoms is suicidal thoughts... and though she can't act on them, she uses her talk chat program on her iPad to tell people that she's sad. I'm listening. And so a drug shortage here isn't the worst thing that happened.
Plus you know the dumbest thing? I probably shouldn't get started... Clobazam has been manufactured in Canada as Frisium for a really long time. But the US just started manufacturing it in 2012, and the FDA has granted them the rights to be formulary (no generics available) until 2016. WTF? Why, since this mfgr isn't the patent holder? How f*ing hard is it to manufacture a formula that's been in existence for more than 40 years? Is it any harder than aspirin or antihistamines?
Anyhoo, she does really well on the Zonegran (generic is zonisdamide). Her kidney doctor doesn't like it because of how it taxes the kidneys. But I'm just going to have to have the neuro talk to her and tell her to stick it up her butt. Right now, D16 isn't motivated to eat or drink much of anything. I'd rather be able to get her to do more and be her normal self. I miss *that* girl.
So all in all, I'm going to have to push the family agenda here.
And Barb, I'm so sorry to read about Ryan. That's so awful and I just can't imagine how you felt. That had to be a scary time, and one you won't ever forget. Big hugs to you for having to deal with that crap.
Wow Betsey you have a lot going on there. I have never had to deal with epilepsy, I am sorry you have to deal with all of that. I cannot imagine the emotions that go with everything involved.
My dad worked at a major research hospital for years, trying to find a cure for epilepsy. He was the laboratory manager and they were working with magnets, that is how I got interested in watching the show.
I sure hope things work out for you.
Betsey: we had just bought this house & were using it weekends while renovating Ryan's room, bathroom. I had not told my ex about the impending move (6 months away) that would take Ryan 3 hours away. One minute we thought Ry was acting funny, the next they were taking me to a funeral planning room at the hospital. In shock - I phoned my ex (couldn't even push the buttons on the phone) & after no contact for 5 years - he was in the room with me, Josh, Ashley & various relatives who were telling me they hadn't seen him in 10 years. And for the next 2 weeks I spent many hours alone with him. Small talk was difficult but we both behaved & we both love our son.
I'm glad to say that Ry is doing great & we are off to Disney World with him again in just 11 more sleeps! I have vowed to take him annually as long as he is doing well. And he knows! Today we were talking about it and he kissed me! Wow - I didn't think he knew how. What a great Mom moment!
Barb
Subguy,
Aww, thanks. But this is a road I've traveled all her life so it seems normal to me. Her epilepsy seems insignificant compared to the developmental disability - as far as being on my payroll and eternal worry list goes. But it's all good. Really. I wouldn't change her even if I had a magic wand. I know it sounds crazy, but I really enjoy her world.
That is really cool your dad was in the research side. That's fascinating and I'm so glad there are people out there who do that kind of thing. It's so worthwhile. Please thank him for me.
Her neuro just called and we put together a plan. We're weaning her down and will make the final call in a couple of weeks. She's also calling the epilepsy specialist at the hospital to have HIM put a call into the manufacturer to find out the deal. I told her to call me a jaded business person, but it will probably go back to money. At the very least, our next step is to see if she can even get more active and herself by going down to 5 mg a day. There's always hope.
Okay, time to head out for the day.
Thanks for all your input today--
Betsey
Barb,
Thanks for that happy update! I love hearing stories that are awesome.
11 more sleeps til fun. What a great reminder. And the kiss? That's beyond special. Aren't they the best?
Betsey
No one can really understand how much those little things can mean. It's one of those rare perks of the honor of being "Ryan's Mom"
Barb
BA - I toggled between your game and the Colts. Good for you! By the way, my other BB friend said he'd go with us. He has season tix and sold them, LOL. My cousin is still waiting to hear about whether or not he can get the suite. More later!
Good luck with Barbara!
TTFN,
Betsey
Betsey - I'm holding out for the suite!
Thanks for coordinating with your cousin. Hopefully the CAPs are playing better by then! Last night's game was not fun to watch, good thing I had the ALCS with my Tigers on to keep me entertained.
I am so excited to finally be going back to work today!!! Nice to have the government open again.
Best news yet is I have a date firmed up with Barbara on Friday evening at one of the local wineries here. Very much looking forward to it!
BA
BA-We play the Wings tonight! I'm pretty sure that Clay isn't going to be wearing blue and burgundy tonight...
I'm so glad you're back to work. They wasted $24 billion while trying to derail the Affordable Health Care Act because it apparently costs the taxpayers too much. Uh... being stupid is sure expensive.
Good luck with Barbara!
Betsey
BA,
Now that you're officially out of the Dumb & Dumber Penalty Box, you sure can afford a dinner & wine date with Barbara and much more!!
Ginger, hang in there! :-)
While I've never been a Devils fan, I actually feel bad for you guys. It seems unbelievable to lose that many in a row. My Avs stunk last year, so I totally get feeling a sports low. Heck, until this fall, we haven't had much to cheer about in Denver for awhile. At least on the pro level. Heck, CU stinks too. Ebbs and tides, and then things turn around. I can't imagine Marty Brodeur staying content in the locker room. It's a long season.
I'm watching our game now. D16 and I got home from her cheer activity at the high school. It was the last home volleyball match, which made me happy. I got to see the last of friends who played with D19. It seems unreal that she was there 2 years ago. But anyway, it was fun to see them and watch the match. I've really missed it so much.
I probably miss it more because it's parents weekend at D19's college. My parents and Mr. W. are there, and they get to watch some volleyball and for them to raise the NCAA Elite 8 banner on Saturday. I wish I were there.
BA, I think I might have to give you a run for your money in the stalking. Strange Stuff (formerly Sweet Stuff) is trying to get me to go out with him again. It's been more than a month, and here I thought I was in the clear. I'm just going to be a bitch and see what happens. With my luck, he's turned on by biatches.
Ok, back to put laundry in the dryer and hit the sack. I'm beat.
Betsey
G: winning the lottery would be fantastic but - you're right - it would not feel as good as my heart feels now!
Barb
Betsey,
Glad all is going well and Sweet Stuff is coming after you because you're terrific! Hang tough and move his butt along to some other place...
BA,
Have a great time tonight! Hope it's all you want it to be. Glad you're back at work and can pay for those glasses of wine.
How about the Avalanche and Patrick Roy? BTW, THAT is my kind of good looking man! Isn't he single?? Oh, and my Cardinals play again today. And the Broncos...How can a girl keep up?
I have two dates this weekend. The paramedic and I are finally meeting Sunday night and tonight I have a date with J who seems to be interesting. Full report to come...
Have a terrific Friday everyone!
BA,
Now that you're officially out of the Dumb & Dumber Penalty Box, you sure can afford a dinner & wine date with Barbara and much more!!
Wonka - I am so glad to be out of the box and back to being a contributing member of society! Drinks tonight with Barbara will definitely be on me!
BA
BA, I think I might have to give you a run for your money in the stalking. Strange Stuff (formerly Sweet Stuff) is trying to get me to go out with him again. It's been more than a month, and here I thought I was in the clear. I'm just going to be a bitch and see what happens. With my luck, he's turned on by biatches.
Hey Betsey - Maybe we can set Freaky Fran and Strange Stuff up together and let them stalk each other!
BA
BA,
Have a great time tonight! Hope it's all you want it to be. Glad you're back at work and can pay for those glasses of wine.
How about the Avalanche and Patrick Roy? BTW, THAT is my kind of good looking man! Isn't he single?? Oh, and my Cardinals play again today. And the Broncos...How can a girl keep up?
I have two dates this weekend. The paramedic and I are finally meeting Sunday night and tonight I have a date with J who seems to be interesting. Full report to come...
Have a terrific Friday everyone!
Thanks GG. I'm really excited for tonight. It's definitely a date that I didn't think was ever going to happen, so it really feels like icing on the cake no matter how it turns out. The music should be really nice - an acoustic guitar artist who is rated as one of the top five artists in DC.
I have to say the Denver sport teams are hitting on all cylinders. I'd personally like to see the Broncos go 16 - 0 for two reasons. One I think Peyton Manning is one of the classiest guys out there and two it would be nice to keep the '72 Dolphins from popping champagne this year in celebration of being the last undefeated National Football team!
Good luck on your dates this weekend - we expect a full report!
BA
GG-LOL. Well, you have yourself a banging weekend with those dates. I'll definitely check back to see how they went. Good luck and just go have fun!
BA-You'll definitely be enjoying the ambience too! Plus, you have the added advantage of being in a geographical location with the most gorgeous autumn settings! (I REALLY miss home in the fall and spring.)
I'm not sure we're going to go 16-0. Being a sports nut, sometimes I think a loss helps to alleviate that pressure and force the changes that are required to improve at a faster rate. But, hey, if they do it, okay.
It's good being a sports fan here right now. We've had a long, miserable road to get to this point. It's just been a good thing that I had local volleyball to cheer on. Otherwise, I'd have been depressed and drank myself into sports oblivion.
The Avs played a pretty good game last night, so no complaints on that front either. And yes, St. Patrick is still single. My guess is he's busier than you, though. But if you want to come down and hang out with me, I live very close to Family Sports, where they practice. (It's actually within walking distance of Dove Valley as well, so we could then go over and become maniacs in orange?)
I'm not sure that SS thinks I'm fabulous. I think he's a little desperate and lonely. I'm definitely not the person to fill that need. But sure, why don't we set him up with Fran? LOL. A match made in hell. He might enjoy that bodyguard thing too...
Aside from D16's hippotherapy session tomorrow afternoon, I'm going to be streaming D19's volleyball matches this weekend. So it will definitely be filled with sports here. I love these kind of weekends best!
Have fun tonight to both of you!
Betsey
Well last night's date with Barbara proved that our first date was definitely no fluke! We had another awesome date!!
We met at one of the local wineries here and they basically had to kick us out as we were the last ones still sitting outside on the patio when they closed. We've made plans to get together again next week. At the end of the date I walked her to her car and I'm happy to say there was very nice kiss (or two) goodnight!
BA
Reminds me of my first date with Josh - AWESOME!!!
Barb
BA, so glad you had a great time! Awesome!
Gineen, who thought of hanging out at Panera? Maybe D16 and I'll have to stop by tonight for dinner. Hope she doesn't cramp my style.
Off to church and the grocery store. Sure hope nobody is living vicariously through me...
Hey, BA, they say to let them go and if they come back it's meant to be:). Idont get your hopes through the roof, but I've got a good feeling about this one!!!!
Also, any Barbara I have ever known has been an A+woman!
Hey GM - I'm cautiously optimistic about this one as well. So far this Barbara gets a Triple A rating from me. Date three will be next Thursday. I've suggested we take in a play at the J Street theater which is a really nice venue. Should be a fun evening and hopefully more kissing!
Glad the new job is working out so well for you and that it gives you more time to hang out at Panera!!
BA
GM: "any Barbara I've ever known has been an A+ Woman!
Thank you! Thank you!
Lol
Barb
I think my current boyfriend might be the perfect man (for me).
We went to see Gravity this weekend, and in one scene, Sandra Bullock is floating around in a Soyuz capsule in basically her undies, and he turns to me and says " She's got no butt! Why would anybody find THAT attractive?"
Given my Kardashian-esque proportions - I think I've hit the jackpot!
Good for you, Ellie!
BA, have a fabulous time on Thursday!
Gineen, my sister's name is Barb and she would applaud your commentary on the name too. I've actually got quite a few friends named Barb. LOL.
I didn't go to Panera after all. I also did not meet any guys at the grocery store either. But SS continues to send me texts to have a good day. I'm no longer answering. I think I'm finding some woman power in here somewhere. In the past, I've accommodated guys so they didn't think less of me for saying no. I'm just no longer willing to waste any more time.
Hope everyone's week is off to a good start!
Betsey
Well, Match has been interesting...here's a tid bit....If your going to meet me on a Sat. night best not to led with " I can get a cab because I'm watching football in the afternoon with the guys and I don't drive after a few beers". Now, I respect that but geesh aren't you looking for a relationship?
After a few more conversations...it was evident he was a very high functioning alcoholic.
Then there was the man ...who could not talking about all his friends (that are women)....I mean his social calendar was full of doing things with them....so I had to brush him off. I'm not jealous but seriously?????
Then, I went on a date Friday night..Met R at 7:30 and left the restaurant at 12..... he has me to text him when I got home...then he ask if he could call me.....and he did....we talked until 4am!!! Good lord, that's new for me..... no kiss...just a hug....
He has text or called every day since then. He has a younger daughter whom he has full custody of and the mom has left the state.
Guy #3 sounds interesting. I have never have kissed on the first date. I think partly it is because I wanted to focus on the actual date. There is plenty of time for the kisses later if it all is going well. The most dates I had with someone that I didn't feel anything for was 4 dates. The horrible thing was that I had a huge crush on a guy that had the same name as the guy I went out with.
So any second dates lined up?
kat
Lots of fun going on with everybody!
Betsey, Keep your eyes open at the grocery store. I hear it's the new place to find a date.
Gineen, Best of luck at Panera. Maybe it's the next 'new' place to be seen.
BA, So, happy for you; hope it's just as fun and more later this week. You deserve everything fantastic!
I ended up only having one date (the firefighter/paramedic). He's a really nice, ordinary guy. He's building a house, loves his job, is close to his family, and we share many interests. I'm approaching this one slowly. We're headed to Red Rocks next Sat. for the insane workout they do there on weekends and then out to breakfast. He's very polite and respectful. He texts every day with no 'creepy' vibes in any way. We'll see....There are a few others, but I'm not into "duty dating" and have decided to only date men I'm really interested in. That' a switch..
BA, So, happy for you; hope it's just as fun and more later this week. You deserve everything fantastic!
I ended up only having one date (the firefighter/paramedic). He's a really nice, ordinary guy. He's building a house, loves his job, is close to his family, and we share many interests. I'm approaching this one slowly. We're headed to Red Rocks next Sat. for the insane workout they do there on weekends and then out to breakfast. He's very polite and respectful. He texts every day with no 'creepy' vibes in any way. We'll see....There are a few others, but I'm not into "duty dating" and have decided to only date men I'm really interested in. That' a switch..
Thanks GG! I am so hopeful and optimistic. She really is a gem. I've had to keep pinching myself just to make sure I'm not dreaming all of this stuff up! So far the pinching hurts like hell so that's a good sign - no dream!!
So your firefighter/paramedic guy sounds promising. I'm wondering though, you don't sound really excited about him. Are you settling to date something that seems safe compared to everything else you've encountered so far?
I am very jealous of your next date though - we can't compete with your scenery or venue's out here! I would love to go to Red Rocks. Will you be running the Amphitheatre stairs? Have fun!
BA
Well, Match has been interesting...here's a tid bit....If your going to meet me on a Sat. night best not to led with " I can get a cab because I'm watching football in the afternoon with the guys and I don't drive after a few beers". Now, I respect that but geesh aren't you looking for a relationship?
After a few more conversations...it was evident he was a very high functioning alcoholic.
Then there was the man ...who could not talking about all his friends (that are women)....I mean his social calendar was full of doing things with them....so I had to brush him off. I'm not jealous but seriously?????
Then, I went on a date Friday night..Met R at 7:30 and left the restaurant at 12..... he has me to text him when I got home...then he ask if he could call me.....and he did....we talked until 4am!!! Good lord, that's new for me..... no kiss...just a hug....
He has text or called every day since then. He has a younger daughter whom he has full custody of and the mom has left the state.
Ok - so I am thankful for guys like #1 and #2 because they make it just a little bit easier for guys like me to get dates!
It sounds to me like you've got a good deal of chemistry going with Guy #3 though - at least it's a good start!
BA
BA, have a fabulous time on Thursday!
Thanks Betsey! Barbara sent me an email last night asking if we can do a movie/dinner this Thursday and save the play for the next date. I like the fact that as we are setting up date 3 she is also focused on a date 4!!!
Sorry your SS stalker (perhaps that makes him a "triple S") continues to persue you. I think you are taking a good strategy although it doesn't always work. I've used it on Freaky Fran and I am still getting a an occasional email from her although the frequency has gone way down at least. Hopefully he is quicker on the uptake with getting the message than she is!
BA
BA: planning the 4th date means it is working for her too. She sounds like a good match for you. Just took her a bit of extra time to figure it out.
Enjoy!
Barb
BA, I agree with Barb - sounds like Barbara is invested, so go for it!
Hopefully he is quicker on the uptake with getting the message than she is!
Uh, no, he isn't. Too bad we can't fix him up with Fran.
He initially texted me Wednesday night. I waited a full 24 hours to respond, and it was only to answer his question (Hi, how are you?) I made sure I worded it in a manner that didn't inquire and just wished him well. I was at the HS volleyball match when a flurry of texts came in. He asked me to go to the movies, then begged me, and I answered, "I'm at a volleyball match and can't talk." He then followed with more questions (Are you watching D19? Are you out of state? Talk to me!) I ignored. Then he sent the last one, "Are you dating someone?" Again, I didn't answer any of those.
He again initiated on Sunday and I chose not to respond at all. So last night he texted me again, and said, "I really wish you'd go to the movies with me. Can you please answer?"
UGH UGH UGH! Right after I got that, my BFF called. I told her about the predicament and she gave me some good advice. She thinks that maybe putting him off and being mean somehow, in his warped mind, means this is a challenge. (That actually makes me feel ill.) So much later I texted back, "I've been busy with my second job, and I really don't think any of this communication is a good idea. Thanks for thinking of me." And he replied back, "ok"
I truly hope this is it. The next time I'll just come out and tell him to stop contacting me - period. And since I have cop friends, I'm not afraid to use them. Even if I have to tell them that they need to pretend they are not gay and come pose as my hot BF.
No wonder I've benched myself in favor of getting in shape physically and preparing for the holidays?
My social calendar is lined up this weekend with D16's former behavior therapist on Friday, and possibly Saturday night too. Sunday night I'm going out to dinner with my former boss - alone, since it's fall break next week and D16 is going camping with her dad and won't be back until Tuesday night (he leaves for DC early Wed am, otherwise, he'd have her longer).
I'm pretty happy with that. Barb, I'm also happy to report that I'm still involved with my FitBit. I carry my iPad mini around with me to update it during the day (you can do it on a cell phone too). It's really helping me stay focused and committed, although I haven't lost any weight in 2 weeks. I can see the reports which are positive, and it really does frustrate me. I'm really working on getting decent sleep (it helps here too). I think the hormones are coming into play here, but I'll stay the course. My diet has been pretty darned good, so...
That's it for me.
GG, I sure hope you're having fun with Mr. EMT. I'll text you sometime this week to get the offline update. I'm watching D19's volleyball match tonight via streaming, so it won't be tonight.
Wii, miss you here too!
Betsey
Wow Bets - I didn't realize how far he had gone in almost stalker type behavior. No means no. I guess you had to be firmer & hopefully he will get it now. But something worries me. Good thing you have your cop friends & you're not afraid to use them.
Wondering if I can pick up the Fitbit when I'm in the US next week. Can you get it at Best Buy? I really need to get started. 2 things I need to work on - getting better shape & doing same with house. Have a frind over helping me declutter my craft rooms this week. It's a start.
Barb
Betsey,
I agree with Barb. My danger radar spiked when I was reading what and how he texted to you. I know you are a pretty smart cookie, so I know I don't have tell you that there are no circumstances whatsoever which would warrant meeting SSS again, period! Be safe!
BA
Bets,
We girls can line up ready to take care of BA's Freaky Fran problem. It's now the boys' turn to take care of your Stalky Stuff problem...BA & Wii...please be on standby!
Bets,
We girls can line up ready to take care of BA's Freaky Fran problem. It's now the boys' turn to take care of your Stalky Stuff problem...BA & Wii...please be on standby!
Ready, willing and able...
BA
Sigh, I know. I'm a cop's kid, so I know what to do. The really good thing is that he has a jacket that I lent him one night and said he wants to return it to me but can't remember where I live. He's really horrible at directions, and that's a blessing in my case. But thanks for also thinking that this is creepy. Not to mention downright weird.
Barb, Best Buy does carry the FitBit. I think they even have several different kinds, so why not check out their website? I think you can even order for pickup in advance, so maybe that will save time?
Good luck with the decluttering too! I think fall is conducive to doing that sort of thing. I know I'm motivated. I'm also planning on painting my front door this weekend. I just want a little something something to make me feel good.
Safe travels, and have a marvelous time!
Betsey
UD...
My daughter is on both topamax and lamictal but has also been on topamax and she takes diastat as her rescue med.
We are headed to the Mayo later next week for her 6 month check up and will most likely be adding another med.
I have heard nothing good about onfi...and weaning it off is difficult (just a heads up to titrate slowly)
We too looked at the keto diet but Finn can't do it for various reasons...have you tried the modified atkins? It might be easier for her to deal with (a lot of parents of more mobile kids have had some success with it)
Hey Fig!
Thanks so much for your update. D16 was on Lamictal until she was 8, when she had seizure breakthrough. We loved that medication - it dissolved on her tongue and was a rock star. The neuro said it may work again in the future, if the Zonisamide stops working. Like you, we have typically needed 2 types of meds to adequately manage the seizures (hers are Petit Mal).
Yes, I totally get the titration length. We have until next Monday to finish titrating her off the morning dose.
And we also use Diastat as her rescue med too!
We have not tried the modified Atkins (sounds like South Beach?). Has that helped your D with the seizures?
She sees the kidney doc on Tuesday (with ultrasound). Her dad is bringing her to that appointment. I'm going to let the neuro talk things through with her on Monday so that she doesn't bombard my XH with all sorts of dribble. The neuro and I really see eye to eye, and I know she'll take our feedback into consideration when approaching the kidney doc. The real deal is that none of us like D16's personality on the onfi. She's kind of mean, very lethargic and has no appetite or thirst. (Note to me that the thirst thing might be the leverage the neuro needs to get through to kidney doc.)
Thanks so much for your thoughts, and I sure hope you have success at Mayo next week. Good luck and hugs!
Betsey
I forgot about date 2a we can call him....not a date but a meet and greet....the reason I said that about the kiss is because about 20 min into the date he leans over and says he would like to steal a kiss. EWWWWW!
I said No, and he was miffed....so I started talking about guns etc...he doesn't like them and doesn't believe in them..and would never have them in his house.... I told him I have 3 in my home today and looking at another one.....he ask for the check!
BA,
I just don't think I'm all that excited about dating, to tell you the truth. I've been listening to this fabulous webinar all week called "Dating with Dignity" and it's been incredible. I no longer feel the need to 'duty date' and I really just want to go out with men I'm truly interested in. I'm not certain Mr. EMT has the deep spiritual connection to himself and life that I'm longing for. I threw out a few comments that way and he had no idea what I was talking about. He seems to be a solid, stable, just the surface, kind of guy. Nice enough, but probably not the whole package. And, that's totally okay because I wouldn't dream of settling. That amazing man will find me...and I'm feeling it's coming soon.
Oops...forgot to talk about the Red Rocks workout. YES! We run up those stairs 5 or 6 times and then around the ramps in the park. We do push ups and other exercises on the stage and we do tricep dips off the edge of the stairs, lunges, and all kinds of other crazy stuff. It's insanity at it's finest and I love it!
BA,
I no longer feel the need to 'duty date' and I really just want to go out with men I'm truly interested in.
I got to this point as well. I felt like I was just going out with people after the first "date" even though it was less than thrilling just to be nice. Then Barbara popped back into the picture and what a difference in feeling it is to be going out with someone you are really into versus just going through the motions hoping something might evolve. I hope that amazing man is in the very near future for you!
Oh and the Red Rocks workout sounds both very cool and very painful!
I'd love it too!
BA
Good Lord! A 100 year old man just 'viewed' me on golfmates.com Really?! Is this what it's come down to???
You interested in him Wii? LOL!
Barb
Hey, I'm the lone guy in a Divorce group at church with nine women...who needs anything more! God certainly is good.
I DON'T CARE! He's 100 years old. Anna Nicole Smith I am NOT! Well, I could use the money...
lol - Golfgirl, I doubt he's really 100. I've seen some people put weird numbers in just to make sure they do or don't meet search criterion.
sorry to interrupt - just wanted to say hi to Barb, etc... Can't believe how long it has ben since I checked in! Hope everyone is moving forward. I am going to check my Hotmail next - not quite as long since I been there.
Love and prayers,
LoveSuffersLong
LSL
LSL: great to see you post! How are you doing? An update would be great! I don't think most folks realize that I've been on here for 12 years (next week - Nov 2, 2001 to be exact) due to a couple of changes in my DB name & date but yep - I've come a long way. Not sure why I'm still here but I guess it is because I like to stay connected. All is good in my world.
Barb
I DON'T CARE! He's 100 years old. Anna Nicole Smith I am NOT! Well, I could use the money...
Yeah, I was pretty creeped out when I had a 75 year old lady check my profile out - in my mind there's not a situation in the world where I would need the money that badly!!!
BA
Uh, Ellie, I've had an 85 year old man stick his tongue down my throat last year, so my guess is he's Santa. Okay, maybe he's 90 and not 100 but... I've seen a lot of men who are older than my dad check me out too. And if they're lying about their age, they look older than my dad. Check, please!
in my mind there's not a situation in the world where I would need the money that badly!!!
Me either. And truthfully, said 85 year old man above would have probably really loved that setup with me. He certainly inferred it during the course of several conversations. Yuck. As miserable as I was about the state of my bank account last fall, and as unhappy a person I was to have to borrow from the bank of mom and dad, it was much preferable. And truth be told, both my parents were grossed out when the guy turned into a semi stalker. Go figure!
Yuck, I just realized a recurring theme for me in the past year. On that happy note, I haven't heard back from SS since I said my piece. Let's hope this is for good.
Besides, GG, Anna Nicole's story turned out kinda tragic. You don't seem like that type anyway.
Uh, Ellie, I've had an 85 year old man stick his tongue down my throat last
Betsey - and he's still alive??? I'm surprised you didn't clock him one upside his head and send him into full cardiac arrest!!
On a more pleasant note - it is date night for me with Barbara!!!
Naw, I'm not excited at all!
BA
On a more pleasant note - it is date night for me with Barbara!!!
Naw, I'm not excited at all!
BA
Just so we're all clear...the small print in your contract with us here says that you have to debrief all of us within 24-hours of any said date and to reveal every teensy bit detail irrespective of its importance or lack thereof.
If you have a problem with aforementioned agreement, please refer to line #33 in Appendix XI in the contract to affirm the said clause.
Rock on, BA!!!!
Well far be it from me to break the rules of Appendix XI - so here goes:
So prior to going out tonight, my daughter says to me - "Daddy you are really into this woman so be your awesome self and things will be fine!" Well I guess I was awesome
because tonight's date was in a word - fantastic!
We met around 6pm. She greeted me with a hug and a kiss.
We decided to see an 8pm showing of Gravity which gave us a couple of hours to have a nice relaxing dinner. Started off in the bar with a drink first and talked about our week. Barbara emits this positive energy that is just well - intoxicating is the best way to describe it. She genuinely listens to what I have to say and has a great sense of humor.
After the drink, we went to our table and had a nice dinner and continued to talk pretty much non-stop the whole time. There are no awkward silences at all with her. Although I paid for dinner, she immediately offered to pay for the movie which was nice.
The movie Gravity was pretty good, but seeing it with her made it that much better. The night ended with several kisses
and talk of getting together hopefully Saturday night. All I can say is life is good!
So I hope I have satisfied the requirements of Appendix XI.
BA
Awesome! bravo! I'm so happy for you!
Barb
Yippee! So glad it is going well.
kat
What a way to start the weekend, BA!!
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy....
BTW,
Three dates lined up this weekend for me. One is with an Olympian from the 1980's...fun!!
I'll be back with "ze report."
What a way to start the weekend, BA!!
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy....
BTW,
Three dates lined up this weekend for me. One is with an Olympian from the 1980's...fun!!
I'll be back with "ze report."
Thanks GG and I'm very happy to hand off the multiple weekend dates baton to you! I'm hoping I've found my one and only!
So a 80's Olympian, very cool - a few names that come to mind are:
Carl Lewis
Bart Connor (although I think Nadia might have a problem with him dating you!)
Greg Louganis (yeah - not likely him either for obvious reasons!)
Scott Hamilton
Whoever it is I have a feeling he is going to have his work cut out keeping up with you! Have fun.
BA
BA
Yippee! So glad it is going well.
kat
Thanks Kat, me too! It appears it is true that good things happen to those who wait (and are just a little bit picky). This is just a very good reminder to me as to why settling is never a good idea.
BA
Way to go, BA and GG!
What awesome updates from both of you!
BA, you overlooked the obvious here in Colorado - the skiing population! Men like Phil and Steve Mahre (I'm told that one of them still live here and are seen about), though I don't think Bill Johnson is on the dating circuit due to his health.
Then again, GG never said he was a US Olympian, so...Uh, and she never said it was a guy either.
Enjoy your dates, and don't forget to fill us in.
Betsey
You are right, Betsey - I just couldn't come up with any 1980's skiers names off the top of my head. Of course the entire 1980 USA Hockey team comes to mind as well but I think even for GG that is a bit much!
As for Barbara - I'm really on cloud 9 after last night's date but I'm also a little bit nervous as well. I'm really getting attached to her and the last time that happened so quickly was with Marianne and I remember how that turned out. However, that was then and this is now. I'm trying to slow down just a bit and maintain the attitude of just enjoying the ride for as long as it last and hope that ride is a long, long time.
If it isn't then I will at least appreciate it for what it was.
BA
I'm happy for you, BA. Cloud 9 is a good feeling, but you are aware of what happens when you run solely on those feelings.
Enjoy it, but take it slow
I hear you GM - it's just very rare (at least for me it is) to find someone who I have that type of chemistry where there is a feeling of electricity when we are together and she seems to be having the same types of feelings for me as well.
An example of where my head is, last Friday we met at a local winery and part way through it, she joked that if things didn't work out for me that night I had lots of other options available since the place was overly populated with single women. Thing is, until she mentioned that, I hadn't even noticed there were a lot of other women there! I like that I hadn't noticed.
While I am being very frank and open here about how I feel about her, I'm doing my best to keep a lid on my exuberance around her so as not to overwhelm her. So far so good.
Slow and easy...slow and easy...
BA
Betsy...
Finn has not tried the diet. She has autism and has food avoidance issues so we are worried about maintaining the levels of ketones she would need.
We are going to be asking about the FDA trial of medical marijuana that is becoming available. Our state isn't a legal state yet so this would be our only option to try MMJ without moving.
Hey BA,
Well done!!! You've followed the contract to the letter and fulfilled the requirements HANDSOMELY Mr. Stud Muffin.
Greg Louganis is officially off the market having just gotten married to his husband who he met through Match.com!! So what comes to mind is Randy from Tia and Randy skating pair. GG, do I get a cookie for this 'right' guess??!
Hey folks...I gotta share something here that will make you shake your head and ROFLAMO.
Tonight, I tuned to the
Shark Tank show which I haven't watched in ages. There was this couple that came on trying to sell a product called the "Elephant Chat." The premise of this product is to "save thousands of marriages" which made my ears perk up and sit up straighter in my recliner chair.
The "Elephant Chat" is a product where a hand-sized stuffy elephant is encased in a cube-shaped box that is encased in a cube cover. When there's an issue that bothers a spouse or a nagging problem eating at the spouse, one spouse will place the elephant in the desired spot and lift the cover as a signal to have "the talk." That alerts to the other spouse that it is coming and to allow him/her to mentally prepare for "the talk." Also the spouse who holds the stuffed elephant has the floor before handing it over to the other spouse so s/he can talk uninterrupted.
Now...the funny part is that the sale price of the product is $59.00. Of course, the sharks couldn't help giggling and rolling their eyes at their odd ball sales pitch. Kevin, the grumpy shark, says there's a zillion of stuffed animals that cost only $1.99. Why would someone buy "Elephant Chat" for almost $60.00...the great consumer rip-off!
Then Robert Haravajec asks the couple how long they've been married....13 months!!! Robert just bursts out laughing and says to come back later as he's been married for 23-years. After much probing questions, it turns out that the couple sold about 500 units of the product to mostly marriage counselors!!!!
Why on the earth would marriage counselors love "Elephant Chat"?? According to the couple doing the sales pitch, they claim that MC therapists like it since people pick up random objects like pencils, etc when doing MC. CRRRAAAAZY!
Of course, all the Sharks said they're "out" and no deals took place.
Wow.
[
shaking my head ....walking away with my security blankie in tow]
Wonka, Wonka, Wonka,
I don't need to get GG to weigh in, because.... Randy Gardner came out of the closet some years ago? LOL. You are just too much!
I guess that dumb elephant is supposed to be the elephant in the living room? That sounds really dumb. No wonder the sharks passed.
Off to take a long bath by candlelight. I was out with a friend really late last night and need a little R&R tonight.
Cheers....
Date Update:
I hiked at Red Rocks on Sat. with the EMT. The insane workout was postponed until later in the day and that didn't fit with my schedule. We hiked the last 40 minutes in silence with him asking about 10 times what I was going to have for breakfast. No real connection with him and he's lost in figuring out his spiritual path. Actually, he doesn't have one. That won't work for me, so I exited out of that one.
Date #2 texts at 10:30 Sat. morning saying he met someone the night before and wouldn't be meeting me because he's a 'one gal guy.' Okay.....He better not call in a week when one of them realizes it's not a match!
I responded to a very witty email, he called and we got together to watch the Cards win game 3. Nice back up plan, huh? This guy is a HUGE golfer and does talks about golf and life and is writing a book about it. He's very funny and we had a great time. Potential there....
Date #3 The Olympian. Alex M who didn't get to run the anchor leg of the 400 meter relay team in 1980 due to the boycott. You all had it wrong! He's funny, very cute and fit and employed! What more could a girl ask for? Plus, he's going to fix my fuse...I mean the fuse in my microwave! (that's for you wii)
Again, potential...except he lives down near Colorado Springs, so not geographically desirable. But, he has a Cadillac Escalade and doesn't seem to mind driving it???
That's it for this weekend!
Wow GG - Sounds like you had my kind of weekend with the multiple dates! Nice to have potential in 2 out of 3 dates as well. Sorry the EMT guy didn't work out but it didn't sound to me like you were really excited about him in the first place - seemed kind of like a safety date.
So you've got yourself an Olympian Sprinter who can service your fuse - sounds like he may be able to give you a run for your money! Oh and the golfer/writer seems promising as well.
As for me, I unfortunately was not able to see Barbara on this weekend as I had hoped. She was going to attend a dinner I had been invited to at the local Golf and Country Club Saturday evening, but because it was going to run pretty late and she had to run the Marine Corps 10K race early Sunday morning she opted out. So yours truly went stag instead. Me and 8 other couples attended, so I was definitely the odd man out. However, the food and atmosphere was great! What was funny is it was clear that a couple of the married men were quite envious of my single life - while I was envious of them having 30 or 40 year successful marriages. Go figure!
On Sunday evening I met up with Marianne and we saw the movie Captain Phillips (which I had already seen once but it is so good I didn't mind seeing it again) and then dinner. It was nice to see her and we (or at least I) seem to be morphing quite well into this friendship category.
I have not responded to any other new Match interests. In fact my subscription is ending soon and I am not planning on renewing for another 3 months. I'm pretty content with Barbara I just hope that she feels the same with me. Slow and easy and time will tell.
BA
Wonka, Wonka, Wonka,
I don't need to get GG to weigh in, because.... Randy Gardner came out of the closet some years ago? LOL. You are just too much!
Ahh...go ahead and call me a blockhead!
What was funny is it was clear that a couple of the married men were quite envious of my single life - while I was envious of them having 30 or 40 year successful marriages. Go figure!
Ok, if you have never seen the Sondheim musical Company, you must watch it - addresses this very issue! In fact, I think PBS is broadcasting a new version next month with Neil Patrick Harris
I haven't seen the Sondheim Musical Company - but it is now on my list of things to watch.
On another note, I am in a funk and having a bit of a pity party today. My birthday is on Thursday and I am realizing that it is going to be another birthday spent without a solid significant other in my life. This will be my 5th one now.
What also is troubling to me is while I'd like to think that my situation with Barbara has relationship potential to it, I'm starting to pick up on some indicators that perhaps she isn't as into it as I had hoped. She cancelled out of Saturday's dinner (which I understood because it was going to run late and she had an early morning race). Late last night she emailed me saying she couldn't commit to doing something this weekend. I had sent her a couple of nice options to consider for either Friday or Saturday and she replied back that she has plans in place for Friday already (work related get together for an employee who is relocating to North Carolina) and her daughter is planning a birthday outing for either Saturday or Sunday but she hasn't been told which day. She is also leaving on an out of town trip early next week for a few days, so I had hoped we would at least see each other before she left on that trip but that is looking less likely now.
I am really so ready to be done with all of this online dating, in fact dating in general. I've pretty much decided that if things with Barbara don't work out I'm going on a dating hiatus, because I'm really not in a good place right now being back to square 1 with someone new. Maybe I'm trying to hard or wanting it too bad.
Ok - so enough complaining as I know that this too will pass. Like I said I'm just in a funk...
BA
Now, don't jump to conclusions but, in my experience (as limited as it is), if interested a woman will give you other options e.g. "I can't make it this weekend but how about dinner some evening". Maybe she picks up your eagerness and it's a bit overwhelming...or maybe not. We can suppose all sorts of stuff but it is what it is. I think what you have to do is keep in touch with what makes you comfortable. If you find yourself constantly wondering then that's not a good place to be. Give it some time though.
Now, don't jump to conclusions but, in my experience (as limited as it is), if interested a woman will give you other options e.g. "I can't make it this weekend but how about dinner some evening".
Wii - that is exactly what concerns me a bit. She ruled out the options I was providing and didn't recommend one that would work for her. However, there isn't really anything I can do about it, so I'm just taking a chill pill and hoping I am wrong about my intuition. Time will certainly tell.
BA
BA,
As another female, I'll weigh in too.
Don't write her off. [Because if I was smooching with you in a parking lot, I'd know how I feel. :-)]
Maybe leave her alone for a bit? From what you wrote, it sounds as though she's going to be busy and her schedule seems pretty hectic with some unknowns. I know when I have weeks like this (and travel coming up), I'm not exactly an easy person to schedule anything, and this includes my friends. If I feel overwhelmed, I back off from pretty much everything except my obvious commitments: work and D16. And if I feel any pressure, I crawl into my turtle shell. (Um, I'm in this mode right now, to be perfectly honest.)
I can't speak for Barbara, though. So pay attention to your intuition over us. But I'll be the one who advises you not to fret too much at this point. Get busy Christmas shopping and devote that energy into your daughters...
Betsey
p.s. Happy birthday!
Let's see. I've had 10 birthdays pass without a significant other. That includes the big 5-0 (which was a miserable birthday!). While I love birthday attention, I know that I'm loved by friends and family.
I also know you are too. Why don't you plan something totally off the wall with your girls or a couple good friends? And if nobody can schedule time on Thursday, how about all weekend long?
Betsey - Wise words indeed and you may be exactly correct (I am hoping you are at least) as to why she isn't available for a date. Her actions during our last two outings did not reflect someone who wasn't interested in me that is for sure. So I will take my chill pill, pull back and wait.
p.s. Happy birthday!
Let's see. I've had 10 birthdays pass without a significant other. That includes the big 5-0 (which was a miserable birthday!). While I love birthday attention, I know that I'm loved by friends and family.
I also know you are too. Why don't you plan something totally off the wall with your girls or a couple good friends? And if nobody can schedule time on Thursday, how about all weekend long?
Thank you for the birthday wishes!! So it's not so much that I am into big birthday celebrations, I just look at it as another year older and another year without a permanent partner in crime to experience life with. My first birthday without a significant other was the big 5-0 so now I am almost half way through this decade and before I know it will be staring down at the big 6-0! My girls will be with their mom on Thursday (they are actually going to a halloween party at a friends house). However I do have an offer from Marianne to spend my birthday out celebrating with her. I initially said ok but now I'm trying to figure out if I want to do that or not. Seems a bit outside our recently established "friend zone" but these boundaries we've established are still a bit new with some occasional flirting based on our past thrown in - although there was definitely a lot less of that the last time we got together, especially on my end. What do you think?
BA
Happy Birthday BA,
I'd go out with Marianne for my birthday as long as you're not likely to run into Barbara. My first instinct on reading what Barbara said is that I can relate. She is a busy Mom with a busy career. I think it is important that she told you what her plans are. But who knows...
I agree that you should be hopeful but stay busy. Find out what will work for her. & when you find that out - you will know more.
Does she know it is your birthday this week? Even if I'd only been out with someone a couple of times - I would send a birthday greeting. I hope she does.
Barb
Aww BA, I would worry about being with the wrong person over being alone. I have always spent my birthdays with my family, including my parents. Tradition I guess. Looking back though, I can't think who else I would want to spend the day with.
Don't get in a panic over Barbara, you've only dated a few times right? On top of that I am sure you notice how not being available has got you bothered. It works in reverse too. I don't think she is playing games. I think she is really busy. Maybe you should make yourself busy too and not with just dating either.
kat
I hear you! The thing for me is that my kids keep me hopping, more so this year with D14 in marching band. It has been good for me because it gets me out of the house. I am learning to trust myself again. It is a slow process but I think it is supposed to be.
A good guy will come along. I am on eharmony. I am working on improving my life. The pieces will all come together. No point in forcing anything.
kat
GM - Yes the feeling chemistry is well, intoxicating. Then it's immediately terrifying because you don't want to lose it. I've had it twice this year - lost it once which was hard and we'll just have to see what happens next.
I am taking the what seems like unanimous advice here and giving some space and time. I do hope I at least get an acknowledgement from Barbara on my birthday Thursday. Her's is on Sunday.
So tonight I have kept myself busy by finishing up the book I have been reading. It's called "Gone Girl" by Gillian Flynn. What a great read - very suspenseful. They are making it into a movie for release next October. Should be good.
I've decided to keep my birthday celebration with Marianne for Thursday as well. It will be good to get out and have a drink or two with her. We never lack for conversation and have a certain level of comfort with each other.
Thanks for chiming in everyone. I really rely on the soundboard this group provides.
BA
Happy Early Birthday BA!
Enjoy the day doing what you want. There are really no expectations for this journey; it is what it is. Everything is going to turn out the way it's supposed to, so no use forcing it or reading much into anything. If Barbara is supposed to be in your life, she will be. If not, she's another stone closer to what you're looking for. It will happen, chillax!
Get out and play some golf! That always makes everything better...
Meanwhile...
The Sat night guy is pursuing quite nicely. Asked me yesterday for a dinner date on Friday and just now asked about playing golf this weekend. We've talked on the phone for an hour the past couple of nights and I really could talk to him for hours and hours. He's got an intelligent/interesting perspective on so many things. Oh, and he's got a flirty/naughty side that's very appealing without being creepy...
Thanks GG for the early birthday wishes!
I'm glad that the Sat night guy sounds so promising!!
I'm playing golf Saturday morning with some friends. Didn't get to go last weekend because the course was frosted over and they delayed tee times too late for me to play. The weather here is actually supposed to be quite nice over the next 3 or 4 days - 71 for a high tomorrow on my birthday!
BA
I read that as -71 - way too cold. But 71 sounds fantastic!
Barb
After re-reading my post I can see how you would get -71 out of that - damn minus sign!
So I sent Barbara a short "hello hope you are have a nice day" email this morning mentioning absolutely nothing about getting together. She responded back about an hour later saying she was going to have to bow out of this weekend. She has too much going on with her daughter and girlfriends. It was a nice email - not short and blunt. She gave me some details about what she had planned, how busy her life has been these past 3 weeks and some other stuff. It was a good email I think. Plus when she said she is bowing out of "this weekend" I find that a positive in that she simply isn't bowing out completely. Bottomline - I am taking consistent doses of chill pills and I'm going to stop thinking so much!!!
This weekend I'm playing golf on Saturday morning. I am thinking of going to the CAPs hockey game Saturday night and then on Sunday I'm going to head over to a friends house to help him repair some drywall in his basement. My plan is to stay busy busy busy and forget the fact that I turned 55 on Thursday!
Today I am enjoying a self-induced day off, since I can't take tomorrow or Friday off due to some mandatory meetings I have to attend.
BA
Happy birthday, BA!
Bottom line - I am taking consistent doses of chill pills and I'm going to stop thinking so much!!!
LOL, I think we're all guilty of this now and then, BA. There are days when I grow weary of living inside my head, and I yell at myself. It can be frustrating! Then you add my anxiety issues on top of it and there are days when I'm a mess.
My plan is to stay busy busy busy and forget the fact that I turned 55 on Thursday!
Can we pretend that we're still in the 40s? I'd really go for that myself. 41 sounds way better than 51...
Enjoy yourself!
Betsey
Happy Birthday, BA! Wow, you look great for 31!!!
I like 55...it's an easy number to remember! Happy birthday BA.
Thanks Betsey and Wonka! Ah 31 - now THOSE were the days my friend!!
I am quite overwhelmed with the volume and sincerity of birthday wishes I have received today. I have wonderful friends and family and I'm feeling quite blessed right now!!! Yes, even Barbara sent me a nice birthday wish. She told me to "stay away from the goblins but close to the witches, because that is what she is dressed up for halloween."
My girls are headed over in a few minutes to celebrate my birthday with me. Looking forward to seeing them and then heading out a little later for a drink with Marianne. Speaking of Marianne, her new profile popped up as a daily match for me today! I thought it was pretty funny actually. In her new profile, the person she is describing that she is looking for is basically - me! I'm not going to try and figure that one out!
Happy Halloween everyone - celebrate my birthday by giving out some candy to all the little witches and goblins!
BA
Thanks GM!! Oh one more thing that I'm almost afraid to say on the chance it might jinx me. It has been more than a week since I've heard from Fran!
BA
That's your birthday present lol!
Thanks GM!! Oh one more thing that I'm almost afraid to say on the chance it might jinx me. It has been more than a week since I've heard from Fran!
Oh Lord!! You
hafta say this on a Halloween night!!??
Hope your birthday was terrific!
And, one note regarding Marianne. Some people don't know what they are looking for even when it's right under their nose!
I wished you happy birthday elsewhere but the more wishes the better! Hope today was absolutely spooktacular!
kat
Hope your birthday was terrific!
And, one note regarding Marianne. Some people don't know what they are looking for even when it's right under their nose!
GG - My birthday was great with the exception of no birthday sex but that gives me something to shoot for next year!
My adorable daughters made me a German Chocolate birthday cake and gave me the sweetest cards. I really enjoyed spending time with them. Later in the evening, Marianne stopped by and took me out for drinks at a local Irish bar (her treat). She insisted on driving so that I could enjoy myself without worrying about how I was going to get home - so I did!
I started off with a good ole Irish Beer to celebrate my heritage, then she ordered me a shot called a buttery nipple (which tasted just like butterscotch candy), and I finished the night off with some single malt liquor scotch! It was a really fun evening. So, turning the ripe old age of 55 wasn't too painful afterall!
Thanks to all for the birthday wishes too! Oh and GG, I think you are spot on regarding your note about Marianne.
BA
Oh good lord! I just had a 72 year-old woman wink at me on Match.com and made me one of her favorites. Perhaps 55 is not starting out too good after all!
I do too but I am not hitting on 38 year olds so it would be better if she narrowed her age range a bit!