Just a quick hello. I have been busy with work and home.
I just found out that the OW's legal first name is the same as mine.
She goes by her middle name most of the time.Either way she has my Intials now. sorry just had to post this and wonder if anyone else has had this happen? I am sick to my stomach. anyway will hop on later
holy cow - eww!
margarita on the rocks, salt (double!)
I'm glad mine is not the same. Ewww!
OMG!
Easy for your ex then, eh?
I bet that is why he married her! It's not like she has class or anything.
drinks on the way. I need one for sure. BLECH!
her name is shoeprincess too????
blech
I don't blame you, girl! Makes me throw up in mouth thinking about HR having your name!
I don't blame you, girl! Makes me throw up in mouth thinking about HR having your name!
I don't blame you, girl! Makes me throw up in mouth thinking about HR having your name!
look
the barfing figgied!!!!!
OMG! LOL! That's how much the HR having our shoe's name upset!
her name is shoeprincess too????
blech
Hey Princess!
Heh! Pussy Galore is too good for that woman!
unless she really has a cavernous um (cough)
well
you know
Wow Shoe, that would upset me too
Have you seen the show w/ Julie Louise Dryfus? ( sp?) Adventures of Old Chrstine ? thats what its about, her ex is w/ an woman named Christine too.
My ex OW has the same name as my lil sister. yuckypoop
now if i talk to my ex ever about my sis, I say "my sister" and not L.
a bond girl
a drink
and
apparently someone who either has a cavernous um....whonannynanny
or someone who gets a lot of whonannynanny
hahaha Fig , go wash your mouth out! or wash your hands, either /or
ok
that's if she can pry them from her drink!
The same first AND middle names? Geez, what are the odds of that?!
To quote Will Smith in Men In Black: You know the difference between you and me? I make this look good.
Oh, Rob, don't you know it!!!
He sure is unimaginative, huh, Shoe?
ahh you all made me laugh. Ya X is sure original huh? Also found out that HE filed for the D from his first wife. He told everyone she left and she filed. Can you say repeat??? Bet he had dejavu when he said his wedding vows. "do you T take K to be your wife?" HA!
Ah he's a big a loser. Let's take bets on how long this one will last. I wouldn't be buying any monogrammed towels if I were him!
he already has some! LOL no need to buy new ones. just seems like everything goes along with no thought or mention of X and you think nothing else can be found out then BAM something hits.Maybe I just need to move out od state
So, did his first wife have the same initials too? Maybe he makes all of his life decisions based on not having to get new towels.
he already has some! LOL no need to buy new ones. just seems like everything goes along with no thought or mention of X and you think nothing else can be found out then BAM something hits.Maybe I just need to move out od state
- those are my initial
So, did his first wife have the same initials too? Maybe he makes all of his life decisions based on not having to get new towels.
No she had totally differant . I believe now that the poor girl moved out of state because of the lies he told about her. he is a schmuck
BAM! nice initials Bethie!
Maybe you and she should chip in together on a billboard about him.
funny BH! could not sleep last night. the whole name thing got to me. then I started thinking back to when the whole affair could have started. when did I see signs but brushed them off? which then led to all the lies he told after I found out. My brain would not shut off about this stuff. Does it ever go away?
Sure does.
Time for some old-fashioned thought-stopping, maybe?
((((((Princess)))))))
Of course I want to tell you that it doesn't matter, who cares, don't wast the brain space, but I know that it's not that easy. Although I do think as time goes on it does seem to be a much smaller part of our consciousness. Get over it completely though? I don't think we ever totally forget. Afterall, it was a very hurtful and traumatic experience which some liken to a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
As my GF the shrink said, "you'll get past it but you'll never totally get over it!"
Have a great day!
Love,
Bethie
I think it gets easier but never truly goes away. Really how can it? It's an experience we were given even though we didn't want to partake. The key thing is how we deal with it that makes the difference to our future happiness.
Some good points here.
For it to just go away would mean it never mattered. We all know that it did. You loved and married this guy for real. It wasn't playing house or anything like that. It was a real, live marriage. So, it can't just go away. It's something that helps shape who you are, who you become, and how you deal with things. So, I think the thing to do is address the thoughts giving you trouble and move on as the better person you've become and will always be.
sorry you're sad princess...
He's a schmuck.
Did you guys hear something just now?
I coulda sworn I heard Julie.
I must be imagining it.
((( shoe )))
Bethies gf was right on target-
but its good to at least know we get over it, and it gets easier slowly , slowly. It will
OW may share your name but she sure dosnt share the class and wonderfulness that is you thats for sure!
Have a good day
And, you don't clap and whistle when you walk like she does.
And, you don't clap and whistle when you walk like she does.
WHO??? Me or the OW??? If you're talking about me, how did you know I did that?
I was referring to the hood rat, but, hey, Bethie. You gotta go with your talents. Good for you.
Hahhahaha oh Bethie, you gonna stand for that talk???
Hey K,
He calls 'em like he sees 'em!
I didn't call 'em at all about Bethie. She put that one on herself. I would never presume to call such a thing on any of the lovely ladies here. Only on the hos that are OWs to them.
my initals are KEG
which is why certain people adore me!!!
Shoe
it doesn't go away but it lessens over time
until you actually maybe start to feel bad for the tramp (like I do)
Mmmmmmmmmmmmm. Beer. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
awww you guys. Thank you all for the post today. They made me laugh and Bethie yours made me cry but in a good way. And I am honored to have Miss Julie stop by since her apperances are rare, so thank you sweet Julie. You all are the best.sheesh now I am getting mushy. blech
Its ok to be mushy around people we care about ;0
The hard part about triggers is that we never know what it is that may set us off. Progress is how often and for how long they affect us....bet you've noticed that they are much fewer and far between, and not as deep, yes...?
You are so right about the triggers, Donna. We just never know when one is going to fire!
true Donna very true. I am alot better now than 10/06. I am stronger than I think
I think we have all proven that of ourselves! Sometimes I look back and say, Wow, was that ME? Did I really want to jump off the planet?
That's a great thing that we have found ourselves stronger. After all, that's part of moving forward. Not always easy but I believe we are the better for it on that level.
Blech
Shoe, I just read this, and I think that would bother me too, the same exacty name. ICK
Weird.
Of course you are much stronger since OCT of 06. You are doing the work.
He is still off running from things.
have a good day
I just found out that the OW's legal first name is the same as mine.
OMG, your real name is "Slut?" I don't blame you for being upset. If I were you, I'd get it changed right away. What were your parents thinking???
Seriously, Shoe, don't give it any brain space. Like Fig said, someday you'll feel sorry that OW got stuck with your X. I know it doesn't seem that way now, but it will happen.
i wanted to send poor baby crackho some money and a one way bus ticket away formt hat mess
but
then I remembered
she slept with my husband
so i let it pass
Just journaling..saw the x on the way home from work today. I actually gave him the finger and it felt GREAT! I have seen him a ton of times but never did that even though I wanted too.
Just journaling..saw the x on the way home from work today. I actually gave him the finger and it felt GREAT! I have seen him a ton of times but never did that even though I wanted too.
That is the best thing I have read all day!
Right on!
Just a quick hello. I have been busy with work and home.
I just found out that the OW's legal first name is the same as mine.
She goes by her middle name most of the time.Either way she has my Intials now. sorry just had to post this and wonder if anyone else has had this happen? I am sick to my stomach. anyway will hop on later
Sorry--I just came across this. Thought I'd give you a laugh. My H's OW has a HORSE with the same name as me!
My ex's other woman looks like a horse! That's true. My girlfriends call her horse face.
Oh Sh!t, HM! What did you do when you found that out?
Bethie, you need to buy me some cleaner for my monitor here! That's hilarious!
Oh Sh!t, HM! What did you do when you found that out?
Actually, it was before I knew she was OW. H told me he ran into her on a hospital tour when he took a new job. She was a girlfriend from 20+ years ago. I knew there was just a teensy bit too much excitement in his voice when he was telling me about her, her horse farm, and her first horse with my name! Two months later, they're talking about spending the rest of their lives together and my marriage is over. I can only hope this horse throws her hard!
Blech! Yeah, real hard!
I remember that kind of knowing something was up by tone from H. He would be sort of too giddy about some of the women he would meet at work and such. Now I know why of course.
My ex is dating a cow - does that count?
My ex is dating a cow - does that count?
Neigh....LOL!!!!!!!!
Just journaling..saw the x on the way home from work today. I actually gave him the finger and it felt GREAT! I have seen him a ton of times but never did that even though I wanted too.
LOL thats just plain funny!! yeah you!
I'm giving him the finger too, Shoe! Good for you!!!
Right on Shoe!!!! I would love to give my EX the finger but that would be wrong....I'd give that cow the bat!....AND a mirror!
LOL! and I know there is a thread around here that talks of cows and horses.
ya giving the finger felt good. As far as the OW she not only is known as the hoodrat, but also Dogface. fits seeing as she works at a vet and has a paw print tatoo on her butt. :
What up SHOE! You gonna be around if me and TRIP head through there?????
Yeah, you going to be home or what?
when you coming? I dont have any trips planned right now?
Nice lead in question there, shoe!
This all falls on FA. Because one: he has a schedule to follow re: a job
and two: it's always his fault!
yeah....yeah....always MY fault......sheesh.....*sobbing*
its always the man's fault FA get used to it
If a man trips and falls in a forest, is he still wrong?
If that man is FA, then yes!
You know Rob....she's right.....
by the way, my D15, called after landing in CAL....she was eating IN-N-OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi all. I really have no news. Carmel was fun. ate lots of seafood. oysters on the half shell, crab, calymari.Room was awsome. ocean view. listning to the waves at night was so peacful. I cried a few times because I missed my dogs that I used to take there. Took J to the carmel mission and he really liked it. I showed him how to light a candle and say a prayer for people that have passed away. he even teared up. He is gone for 3 weeks so I have some things planned. have some movies coming from netflix. Nights out with girlfriends, organizing photos , etc. My first night of being solo staretd off good. Trip and I were able to catch up and have some laughs. Thanks girl!. Tomorrow I am going to go spend time with my best friend. Her H is away on a trip visiting his brother. She decided not to go because she really dislikes the bro and sis in law because they disrepected her in her on house last year. Well the sis in law found out the other night that she was not coming and left her a snotty message like" so I heard you are not coming... whats wrong, you cant fnd time to see us?" so my friend called and listed off several very good reasons why and she also said" BTW just so you know blank and I are having probelms". Ugg she told me that and I was so sick to my stomach. The whole scenerio brings back memories of when my H left to go see his brother and told me the space would do me good and I could see if I missed him. Her H told her the same thing. And my X's bro and sis in law were being snotty to me also. I know they have had cousnling before and I am going to suggest they go again. her H does not see the issues at hand even though she tells him over and over. So we shall see. I will do my best to be supportive.
Been feeling a little down this. August was the month I found out about the affair. Ya I knwo its been 2 years but I dont know if I will ever like the month again. well i will end this long boring post. hope everyone is having a good week.
I had a great time too, shoe. Must do that more often.
and yeah, it's hard when you see people go through things and also get the reminders.
Glad you had a good time in Carmel. MMMMMM seafood!!!
eating IN-N-OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LOVEEEE IN AND OUT!! its the bestest!!!!
hey hon, betternot keep track, if I were to tie each month to a chicanery stbx did to me most months would b ruined (i also found out about the A during August)
thanks cat. I will get through this month just like the years past. keeping busy so my mind does not wander. Well folks... as of tomorrow I will have been D'd a year. my how time flies
Still hate admitting I am divorced. I feel so ashamed, yet I also know I was not in the wrong.
Hi trip!
Juat been trying to catch up on work since my jury duty ended. Nice experiance, but don't want to do it again. Talked to my best friend last night and had a good chuckle over the X and OW. Last weekend was the SF Giants game were people are allowed to bring their dog to the game. X and I did this a few times and had a blast. Well I guess he and hoodrat were going to go with their new dog. (a breed that he never liked but now has). My best friend, her H and SIL and BIL had tickets but not in the dog area. My X had been houn ding them to come over and say hi. My bf and her sil thought it would be a good chuckle to go and check out the hoodrat. So all four treck to the other side of the stadium. They find my X standing by himself with the dog. ( the four legged one). My BF said he was acting kind of nervous and un settled. When asked where is wife was at he said she was siiting in their seats and had sent him up for a sandwhich and drink. So the X starts squirming and says he better go and get her food. So he leaves my BF holding watching the dog. She says the dog fits him, small dog for small guy.
So X comes back and says he will go and bring hoodrat back up to say hi. My BF's H goes with the X. About 5 minutes later BF's H comes back by himself. When asked why he was alone he said X introduced him to hoodrat and she said hi and then turned her back and starting eating, and that was that. So the group of four was like fine we did not want to meet her anyway. So the X did say for them to call him after the game to hook up for awhile. So my BF was like why should we put forth another effort when the hoodrat has no intrest. So they decide to test the X. All four called his cell and what do you know? it would ring then go to VM. So by BF was like good. We have mave made the effort a few times( only because the X kept bugging them and would not give up about he and hoodrat getting together with BF and her H). So then later on their is a VM from H saying he was sorry he did not answer but his battery died. They were all like ya ok, we are not stupid the hoodrat was calling th shots. besides he could have called from her cell if his was truley dead. I dont know but if I were in her shoes (which I never would) I would try like heck to be friendly and likeable to people no matter who they were.)
Now another episode of the hoodrat's true colors coimg out. I guess X went to go get his haircut not to long ago. ( By Bf and her H and her mom go to the same guy). So the x is done with the haircut and the guy asked him to go grab a beer and X got nervous again and said he could'nt. So the hair guy walks outside with X and sees hoodrat waiitng in the car! It was like 103 that day also. I guess she was not looking really thrilled. Then hair guy was like ok.... She used to always come in with the X and used to be friendly. So my BF thinks that her true colors are now showing now that she is married.She is already shutting X off from people. i can only imagine what she is doing with his family. I know I should not care but I found this all very amusing last night. She is making QUITE the impression.
I wont dwell on the good news. It wont do me any good
Anyone else hear about thier X's new spouse's turning unfriendly aafter they got what they wanted?
Sorry for the long post. Hope everyone is enjoying labor day.
Well Sweetie,
My ex can't seem to make any lasting relationships, so I don't have any experience with that, but I'm not surprised. Everybody's on their best behavior until you really get to live with someone and the reality of everyday life comes into play. I'm sure she went along with everything in order to get what she wanted. Now she has it and her true colors are showing. You have to wonder what ex thinks of his decision making skills now.
This could make for a very long life!
Hope all is well with you!
Love,
Bethie
How long were you into the jury duty for, shoe?
Funny story about your ex and the hoodrat! Apparently, my aunt was like that. I don't know personally because I never met her. Family issues from way back but anyhow, it gets brought up every time her name come up in conversation. This is like 30 odd years. Still the talk of the family.
Plans for the weekend, shoe?
Trip, something has happend... I will email you
Trip, Fig, and BH,
I emailed you what happend. Thanks for the thoughts
(((((((((((((((((((Shoe))))))))))))))))))))))
sweetie
i just have hugs for you
and
some smoooooooooooooooooooooches
and
a drink if you want it
and
a blanket my grandma crocheted
and
and
and
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((shoe))))))))))))))))))))))))))