X spouses getting divorced.... a question - 09/24/07 12:15 AM
So XW eloped last month. Didn't have the courtesy to tell me but that's not a surprise. Last week for the second time I was told she has a lot of the symptoms of BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. Would have to say she fits about 2/3 of the quals.!
So I'm wondering, there are all these Xspouses that run right out and jump into relationships w/ someone new and get married REAL fast... and w/ the divorce rate for second marriages running between 60% and 70%... what is the real rate of divorce for these marriages that start so soon?
IE, all you DBer's out there what has happened to your EXE's since the divorce? Are they like a friend who's mother is on husband #4 or has your X grown up and actually in a happy, mature relationship?
And NO, I want NO part of XW in my life again. I've been able to see what I was missing both physically and emotionally for the past 20 years and I'm here to tell you that dating someone who is mature and evolved and communicative is such a relief! We are "having fun" for right now, but there is none of the histrionics and trying to figure out the REAL meaning of what someone is saying. What a change!
So I'm wondering, there are all these Xspouses that run right out and jump into relationships w/ someone new and get married REAL fast... and w/ the divorce rate for second marriages running between 60% and 70%... what is the real rate of divorce for these marriages that start so soon?
IE, all you DBer's out there what has happened to your EXE's since the divorce? Are they like a friend who's mother is on husband #4 or has your X grown up and actually in a happy, mature relationship?
And NO, I want NO part of XW in my life again. I've been able to see what I was missing both physically and emotionally for the past 20 years and I'm here to tell you that dating someone who is mature and evolved and communicative is such a relief! We are "having fun" for right now, but there is none of the histrionics and trying to figure out the REAL meaning of what someone is saying. What a change!