Advice from the kids - 04/19/01 03:03 AM
This was compiled by Judy Marcus
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ADVICE FROM THE KIDS
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> The ultimate answers for parents may come from children. These tips
> for divorced parents were suggested by children who participated in
> support groups at Rainbows, a not-for-profit organization that offers
> peer support groups for children, adolescents and adults grieving due
> to divorce, death or other painful transition.
>
> - Don't make the children "negative-message carriers."
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> - Don't ask a child to be the family spy.
>
> - Don't try to make children feel guilty for wanting to be in both
> their parents' lives.
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> - Don't make the children weapons of anger directed at either parent.
>
> - Don't ask a child to lie or cover up for a parent.
>
> - Don't say bad things about the other parent.
>
> - Allow the children to openly express love to both Mom and Dad.
>
> Love kids unconditionally.
>
> --J.M.
>
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ADVICE FROM THE KIDS
>
> The ultimate answers for parents may come from children. These tips
> for divorced parents were suggested by children who participated in
> support groups at Rainbows, a not-for-profit organization that offers
> peer support groups for children, adolescents and adults grieving due
> to divorce, death or other painful transition.
>
> - Don't make the children "negative-message carriers."
>
> - Don't ask a child to be the family spy.
>
> - Don't try to make children feel guilty for wanting to be in both
> their parents' lives.
>
> - Don't make the children weapons of anger directed at either parent.
>
> - Don't ask a child to lie or cover up for a parent.
>
> - Don't say bad things about the other parent.
>
> - Allow the children to openly express love to both Mom and Dad.
>
> Love kids unconditionally.
>
> --J.M.
>