I have not posted in a while but I thought I would just share a thought or two for those of you who are asking whether the pain you are going through is all worth it.
My W and I have rebuilt a solid loving and wonderful marriage. It still requires constant attention, but that's what is required to have a a fulfulling relationship.
What we have decided is to choose to make each other happy each and every day by communicating our needs and wants. Once we made that decision it all became so easy, not like work, but like fun. We are developing tools and stratagies that help us cope with the pressures and stresses each of us faces that somehow transfer themselves into our relationship.
Six months ago I did not know that my marriage would be like this. I did know that I was willing to try to get here. I did know that I had faith in myself to try, to make my marriage and my W my priority. Once she accepted that I had changed that I loved her whatever road should chose to follow she also chose to try.
At first it was ackward, now it's fun
For those of you who are trying please remember it takes time and energy. There is no other way.
I wish you all success in what you choose. I wish you all the strength to follow your choice, to have faith in the outcome.
Chris
