Re: Pleasehelp4-2006 - DivorceBusting.com

Writing,

This is a new chapter in my life. I am all about setting the standards on serving others through what the lord is teaching me. I know at times I may fall but I know that my my lord pick me back up.

I had a great weekend with my son age 5 but I also realized that I need to speak with my wife so that she does not resent me.

Special note to me:

Allow your Lord to teach you His way which is the only right way.
Trust your Lord to remove your oppressors who are speaking out
accusations or blaming you for all the marriage problems. Stand
firm. Wait on your Lord to work out your problems, bringing
restoration and healing to you, your marriage and to your children.
Our Lord will stand up and fight for you when you are afflicted if
you will call on His mighty Name! Why not cry out to Him right now!

"Hear my voice when I call, O LORD; be merciful to me and answer
me. My heart says of you, "Seek his face!" Your face, LORD, I will
seek. Do not hide your face from me, do not turn your servant away
in anger; you have been my helper. Do not reject me or forsake
me, O God my Savior. Though my father and mother forsake me, the
LORD will receive me. Teach me your way, O LORD; lead me in a
straight path because of my oppressors. Do not turn me over to the
desire of my foes, for false witnesses rise up against me,
breathing out violence. I am still confident of this: I will see
the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait for the
LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD."
Psalm 27:7-14

"But as for me, I will always have hope; I will praise you more and
more. My mouth will tell of your righteousness, of your salvation
all day long, though I know not its measure. I will come and
proclaim your mighty acts, O Sovereign LORD; I will proclaim your
righteousness, yours alone. . .Your righteousness reaches to the
skies, O God, you who have done great things. Who, O God, is like
you? Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you
will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will
again bring me up." Psalm 71:14-16;19-20

Writing,

Whenever wife calls now it is about support money. With that being the cases, how do you respond. Everything is money hungry.

Writing,

Dropped off support check yesterday as well as sons T-Ball glove. Wife wanted more money. Later she called and she talked for 25 minutes while I just listened. I have backed off for over a 1.5 months now. I pretty much don't say to much but just do what I am taught to do by my pastor and lord and savor.

"Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my

Writing

Dropped of son at moms yesterday. I asked her about getting some of my other things and I will get them, she stated you don't live her anymore. I did react negatively but then apologized for what I said. I must rememebr to stear clear of the baiting trap that she will do.

Pray against other spirits that your spouse has probably opened
themselves up to such as: Spirit of Fear, Spirit of Whoredoms,
Spirit of Bondage, Spirit of Haughtiness, and Spirit of
Perverseness, just to mention a few. Bind against these spirits and
loose on them the fruit of the Spirit as in Galatians 5:22-23. Just
imagine if each of us would pray against these demons that have
blinded and deceived so many prodigal spouses around the world, what
could happen in the spiritual realm with our Lord Jesus Christ
fighting in the Heavenlies! You and I must go forward every day
fighting for your marriage and all marriages, taking back from satan
the territory that He has stolen.

When Moses was told to go into the Promised Land, he had to fight
against the enemy to take the land. You and I must do likewise.
Don't stand still. Don't give up. Don't look at your circumstances
of a Red Sea. Walk in faith and believe in the power of your Lord
Jesus Christ.

"You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because
the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the
world." I John 4:4

"No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute
every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the
servants of the LORD, and this is their vindication from me,"
declares the LORD." Isaiah 54:17

Now let's go fight the enemy and know that our Lord Jesus Christ has
already won the War.

BT,

You are doing fine. Remember that we are merely human and we make mistakes. The fact that you immediately apologized is great. I think you did the best thing possible.

Of course you are going to feel stressed and pressured right now, especially if she is nagging you for money. I suspect since you have given her so much space that she may feel that's the only weapon/connection she can create with you right now.

May it's time to come out of the dark and start experimenting a little bit. Or maybe it's time to do a 180. I know it is very difficult during this phase of DR to walk that fine line between being patient and gracious and loving from a distance and not get steam-rolled.

I'm a little lost on exact advice right now, since I'm not a guy and didn't have to deal with the child support issues. I would suggesting seeking out a successful man on the bb. COG comes to mind; I believe he is still active here. Just Me would be a good person to seek out too.

You are in my thoughts and prayers...keep doing what you are doing.

M

Writing,
I need to think prior to speaking as well as be two steps ahead of everything in my every day. Continue to pray daily and turn everythiung over to him. Pray for LB,MB,JP,GW,BC,SG,JS,& Triangle 3x a day.

As you go through your suffering or pain, remember that your Lord
hears and sees your pain, your tears and He wants to heal your
emotional pain and trauma. Know that the Holy Spirit can heal your
broken heart and crushed spirit. Your spirit has been wounded by
the enemy's tricks and schemes of marriage problems, separation or
divorce. Satan had used hurtful words to cause emotional pain that
needs to be healed, but your Lord God can heal you.

"He heals the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds." Psalm 147:3

Nothing is too hard for your Lord to do for you as your go through
this difficult time in your marriage. Stand on the promises of God.

Writing,

Have not spoke with son this weekend do to the fact that my wife is avoiding all calls that goto him from me. She will answer for her to speak with me but son is always not around for some un-benown reason. Even though my heart fills emplty to because of this challenge, I must relie on god every day.

"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone
who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards
those who earnestly seek him." Hebrews 11:6

How would you evaluate your faith today? Are you walking in faith?
May these powerful words of both song and scriptures of faith touch
your heart today. You and I must walk in faith each day to please
our Lord God. We must believe that God loves us and that He will
reward those who earnestly seek Him. Do you really believe this?
Has doubt, unbelief or fear try to destroy your walk of faith?
Start reading and memorizing scriptures about faith until your
"faith tank" is filled up to overflowing.

Writing,

These are the notes that I need to continue to follow:

* Above all else, memorize your favorite scripture verses to share.
The power for your stand, as well as for this Ministry, comes from
the Word of God.

* Promise to keep that family in your prayers, and remember to do so.

* Be prepared to share your one minute testimony, as taught before -
http://rejoiceministries.org/cc/view.php?month=main&id=2323

* Print out tracts and keep in your Bible -
http://rejoiceministries.org/tract.html

* If you will be seeing that person again, print out personalized
prayers - http://rejoiceministries.org/scripture.html

* Print out the "Stander's Affirmation" to keep in your Bible -
http://rejoiceministries.org/pdf/standers_affirmation.pdf

* If you feel led to refer them to our web site, remind them about
"Charlyne Shares" and "The Prodigal�s Perspective" on each page to
help answer their questions - http://rejoiceministries.org/

* Help them subscribe to "Charlyne Cares" for ongoing daily help -
http://charlynecares.php

* Learn what you believe about the Christian faith and about
standing.

* Live a life that is an example of Jesus so that you will be a
lighthouse, drawing people to you.

* Develop your personal devotional life. Learn to hear the voice of
God.

Many people do not share about their stand at God-given opportunities
because of back trouble; they seem to have a yellow streak running
down it. This comes from the Enemy, who is always ready to remind you
of the possibility of rejection and ridicule. Learn, instead, to
listen to God and to always follow His gentle nudges.

One of the biggest tests of standing is the sharing of standing.
Prepare today so that like Kyle�s driving test, you will be ready for
your test at any time and under any circumstances. Do as God leads
and He will get the glory.

REMEMBER***** Acquire The Fire Battle Cry going to Philadelphia Wacovia Center to serve gods will through the youths of today (May 12-14)

Writing,

Spoke with wife on the phone and I am going to the 5 mint rule from here on. I had mentioned to her that from here on that when any issues are brought up that we need to solve them within 1 hour if possible or until we get off the phone. After that then that is not to be brought up again. My thoughts is to not let bitterness linger on. (Make up and move on)

We cannot change the past but we can alter the future.

The top 3 things that kill:

1. Stress
2. Heart Attack
3. A jelous person

When God is in your life, nothing kills (YOU ARE REBORN)

Writing,

Dropped off son yesterday. In this stage of the game I have settled back and am observing from a distance. My heart is saying forget the entire sitch although my mind is servicing others to express gods will. The guidance of gods will must take first chair to my heart and my mind in order for me to build on my foundation of his will.

Why as a Christian do you want to throw in the towel and give up on
your one-flesh spouse? Do you think second, or third marriage are
any stronger? They are not! We will all go through trials and
tribulations, but we must remember the vow and covenant we made on
our wedding day and that vow just about covers every area of problem
in a marriage. Divorce is not an option, but prayer is!

"To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife
must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must
remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a
husband must not divorce his wife." I Corinthians 7:10-11

Bow

just a quick hello to remind you that you remain in my prayers, and to thank you for yours.

Thank you I need the faith of god and strong prayers that I am guided in the proper direction to minister to people with a faith driven spouse.

The lord is blessing me every day as I mov more towards letting him take free will of my marraige as welll as my life. I have fallen down, although I still rise up to the occasion. I serve my god first and forth most.

Bow

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I had mentioned to her that from here on that when any issues are brought up that we need to solve them within 1 hour if possible or until we get off the phone. After that then that is not to be brought up again

Come on Bow, you have to see the humor in this statement. But man, it's good to have you back. You were gone for awhile.

You may not like it, but your wife has the right to bring up anything from the past that bothers her. I know the Blood washes it away in the eyes of the Lord, but you W does not see through the same eyes.