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I love a new thread. Hope everyone is well. I've been busy with my new job, still in the training phase along with my fellow teleworkers. Enjoying the learning process, however the learn at your own pace course load has been brutal. I'm actually watching what's given and taking notes. Not zipping through to the end to be done and get the credit. (Well, maybe a few...common sense ones..lol...) But that might be why I'm behind.

It's been a delicate balancing act with D4 after work, because I'm trying to get caught up. It's getting better. At least our routine with me dropping her off and picking her up from nanny is great. Nanny is great, and says I paid her too much. She really is blessing. She doesn't want to see me give half my paycheck away. It won't be too long now and D4 with be, D5 and in kindergarten! Come August, that's when her 1st school term will begin.

WOW! So many GOOD things are happening. I FEEL GREAT! And I've been chatting to a new guy.

New guy doesn't live in my state yet, but is taking a job here, and arrives next week! I'm excited about meeting someone new. I do want to meet him. We've really hit it off online, and just sharing common interests.

Looking forward to seeing my 1st paycheck. So is my loan lady. At the end of this month, we're going be moving forward with things. WHAT? I know right!! I remember when it was just a thought and before you know it, I'm going to be making monthly payments on the mortgage for MY HOUSE!! I can't wait!!

I'm in a really good place. I'm enjoying working from home, my kid is happy ( sassy as can be... ugh... with love...) and we'll see where things go next month...

Oh... my Step-Mother-In-Law, who also teleworks for the same organization has been a wonder support for me, with work and personally.. We attend the same meetings virtually, and the discuss our days later in the evening. She's wants to see me do well, and knows the struggles divorce can bring. Same with my Mother-In-Law, she's a peach. I'm so lucky to have them in my life.

Oh geez... Xh sent D4 an early BD present. It's a picture of them for her wall and it's the size of my head. She likes it.
I told her we'd get her a fish. Looking forward to the first pet experience. Beta be a good one. get it... Beta...fish..lol..

Be well, the best you can be

CanBird,

Please, in the future, link up your threads. I took care of it this time around. If you aren't sure how to link them up, I'll be happy to post the link on how to do so.

Thanks!

Thank you job! My bad, I completely missed that step. Appreciate your expertise with the linkage.

Hope you are well

Don't apologize. We all have missed this step once in a while.

I'm good. My heart isn't racing all the time. Anxiety has been replaced with excitement. I'm doing it. Surviving. The inner strength I'm feeling is nothing short of amazing. I'm happy. In a good place.

Loving my new job. Really got to sink my teeth into doing things this week. Learning SO much. It's empowering. My brain is so stimulated. Love the knowledge I'm taking in.

D4 will be having a BDay soon! I'm surprising her with a trip to see her other grandparents. We haven't physically seen them in almost 2 yrs. XHs dad & stepmom. My StepMIL and I work for the same organization, and department. She's a supervisor, but in a different division. She's does telework as well. Continues to be of great support to me in many ways.

Father-In-Law got us our tickets. I had a reservation, he used his miles & saved my money. I can't wait to give him a big hug. From what StepMIL has shared, he carries a lot of guilt for xhs actions. As I did with xhs mom, if there's anything anyone wants to ask me about xh, just ask. As long as D4 isn't listening.

In other news, date night this Friday with a new guy! Met online, he just move here, we text often, it feels good. There's a good thing going on. Way more of a connection here than previously. Let's see how we do face to face!

Oh, for fun, having a reading done in a few weeks. A few friends have used this person and have been changed. I'm interested to see what unfolds!

Life Is Good

Well - how was the date? Inquiring minds want to know.

It�s great to hear you�re feeling strong and empowered, Can!

Originally Posted by CanBird

Anxiety has been replaced with excitement. I'm doing it. Surviving.

Canbird, good for you for breaking free from anxiety, I long to be in that stage too, though I'm still far from it at times.

Hope your date night went well!

The house is MINE. Just closed today. I'm feeling pretty proud of myself. Like I graduated or something..lol... Speaking of graduation, D5 will be starting kindergarten next week!

I had a moment last week, after visiting my kiddos school. I had to "figure things out" by myself, make decisions, and I was overwhelmed. I had a mimi meltdown. So I wrote in my journal for a bit. At first I was angry that I was left to make decisions for my daughter on my own, and then I thought about you all and how to think about situations. What is the best part about the sitIuation? I get to make the decisions. And it wasn't life or death stuff, it was just a lot of stuff before the closing of the house. Any who, I got over it and all is well.

D5 is great, and as sharp as ever. We are both working on our inner volcanos. "Treat others how you want to be treated". That's my girl. The wheel didn't start off as a circle. Work in progress, daily.

Hope you all are well.

Good Morning Can

Congratulations!

It does feel kind of like a graduation or some grand step, doesn't it?

You have provide security for you and yours. A roof over your head. A home. You have every right to be proud. Well done.

The temporary overwhelming feelings - oh gosh yes. Those first times having to figure it out sans W, yeah suddenly all that responsibility is upon just one person's shoulders. A few times, and it quickly becomes the norm. I think I know you well enough to know you'll do fine.

D5 is starting kindergarten. I suspect she's pretty excited.

Have a great day Can.

D

Hmmm.

Apparently apostrophes and quotation marks get altered to a string of weird characters.

That, and the upload/post time is rather long. I suspect the censoring algorithm is a bit off.

And I cannot seem to find the report button.

DnJ,

It took me a few minutes yesterday to find the report button. The report button now looks like a little flag directly across from the time stamp of when you posted. Also, the issue about things being altered by a string of weird characters...that has been going on for years...another issue that has not been fixed, and tends to pop back up into the system with upgrades. I have been requesting for years that the edit button be reactivated on the divorce forum. Lots of issues and I do not understand the big "D" which stands for the first letter of your member ID. There is no need for that to be there.

Congratulations! You are rocking this independence thing!

Congratulations!!!

Originally Posted by job

Also, the issue about things being altered by a string of weird characters...that has been going on for years...another issue that has not been fixed, and tends to pop back up into the system with upgrades.

This is just a character encoding issue (set to iso-8859-1, should be utf-8), should be an easy fix. I've sent an message to the moderator that may help. :-)

smilie,

Who did you send your message to? Michele and Virginia or to Cadet and myself (moderators)? If you sent it to Cadet and/or me, I, personally have not received your message, which means that portion of the update has not been fixed either.

I do want to point out, the moderators cannot fix platform issues. We can send a message to the Administrator with the issue...but they do not work on the weekends. Cadet and I are volunteers and we pop in periodically throughout the week, as well as weekends. Cadet and I are aware of the issue with the weird characters and it will be addressed with an Administrator via email on Monday.

For those reading, if you have issues with the format, please post them on the thread that was created to advise all of you of the update. The thread is on this forum, as well as Newcomers and Divorce.

Sorry for the hi-jack on this thread!

Exhusband quit his job. I'm in the process of putting D5 on my H ins. Thankful I have it. He also changed his cell number. When I got my own phone plan & kept my number, apparently that messed up his phone. Makes no sense. I don't care. I believe he did it to ghost more people.

I talk to my step MIL often. She says she can't stand him. His behavior. And his own father is feeling the same. I see ex more & more of a WAS. Especially now with quitting his job. Vagabond life. Good for you. Zero responsibility. He has no job and hasn't contacted his daughter in awhile. That's on him. She seems okay. I just give her extra love.

Tired.

Bye for now

Hello Canbird,

Nice to hear some feedback from you.

Unsurprisingly, your step MIL and his father can't stand him anymore.

Any normal parent would not understand that their son or daughter does not take responsibility towards their own child.

Fortunately, D5 has a fantastic mother, who is always there for her.

Take care.

XXX