Moving through the holidays during divorce - 12/18/19 12:55 AM
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So lost, don't know what to do
So it's been a while. I filed for divorce in November, not because I wanted to, but at the time because he had moved in with someone else and was causing emotional hell for my children and I. That relationship was supposedly to put a warm roof over his head and he is now living in his brother's basement for the next few months until he can get his own place. The thing is, he's barely giving me any child support and he's buying all kinds of things for himself, his car and going out drinking on Friday and Saturday night. He was coming over every day until I set boundaries as he claims he still doesn't "love me that way." I told him we could NOT be friends. Friend's don't lie and cheat and destroy other people. He is now trying to play dad of the year, even taking my son to his doctor's appointments enthusiastically so I could work. He keeps making dumb excuses to stop by, like "Oh I forgot to give back our son's insurance card." When he visits on Sunday (he has no place to take them) He's like oh you gotta see this movie on Netflix and pretends he wants to watch it with our son. When I go to do something else, he sulks. I just don't understand him. He wants to be in my life, but doesn't want me. What gives?
So lost, don't know what to do
So it's been a while. I filed for divorce in November, not because I wanted to, but at the time because he had moved in with someone else and was causing emotional hell for my children and I. That relationship was supposedly to put a warm roof over his head and he is now living in his brother's basement for the next few months until he can get his own place. The thing is, he's barely giving me any child support and he's buying all kinds of things for himself, his car and going out drinking on Friday and Saturday night. He was coming over every day until I set boundaries as he claims he still doesn't "love me that way." I told him we could NOT be friends. Friend's don't lie and cheat and destroy other people. He is now trying to play dad of the year, even taking my son to his doctor's appointments enthusiastically so I could work. He keeps making dumb excuses to stop by, like "Oh I forgot to give back our son's insurance card." When he visits on Sunday (he has no place to take them) He's like oh you gotta see this movie on Netflix and pretends he wants to watch it with our son. When I go to do something else, he sulks. I just don't understand him. He wants to be in my life, but doesn't want me. What gives?