Amidst a nasty process.....reconnection - 12/18/19 12:04 AM
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Prior threads,
At the end of last thread, W had stalled signing papers, and is still thinking about things.
Since then W and I have had a few phone conversations and they have gone well. She ended R with OM ad began to tell me a list of his faults and why it just did not work out--something she denied so strongly in the past. Kids counselor noticed they have been better this week and they told her it's due to OM not being around.
She is curious about my R and asking many questions. I answered some but kept others to myself. W told me she missed having a family, now regrets the split custody agreement and said I am free to take them back to her if I get tired or fatigued. I declined. W also mentioned she would like co-parenting sessions with she and I to address the future. She also mentioned counseling for us to discuss the past and possibly future between us, but I declined. She has also began reconnecting with family.
She does not miss me but misses the family and having me around for the kids. I am not missed due to "vindictive" behaviors and she continues to throw soft daggers at me. At one point, she asked me why I filed for divorce. This was 1.5 years ago and I cannot imagine why she is bringing it up now.
So it seems she has some clarity. But she continues to blame me for many things and says I must enjoy her suffering. This is far from the truth. I do not know what the future brings but I am hopeful she can restore relationships with everyone, especially our children.
I am in a stable R and hope it moves forward in a strong fashion. W seems to be interested in it and has met with GFs ex husband, after he basically stalked her. She admitted unloading information about our D and how much of a monster I am/was. Not sure what GFs ex will do with it but we are prepared.
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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2834885#Post2834885
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2846180#Post2846180
Prior threads,
At the end of last thread, W had stalled signing papers, and is still thinking about things.
Since then W and I have had a few phone conversations and they have gone well. She ended R with OM ad began to tell me a list of his faults and why it just did not work out--something she denied so strongly in the past. Kids counselor noticed they have been better this week and they told her it's due to OM not being around.
She is curious about my R and asking many questions. I answered some but kept others to myself. W told me she missed having a family, now regrets the split custody agreement and said I am free to take them back to her if I get tired or fatigued. I declined. W also mentioned she would like co-parenting sessions with she and I to address the future. She also mentioned counseling for us to discuss the past and possibly future between us, but I declined. She has also began reconnecting with family.
She does not miss me but misses the family and having me around for the kids. I am not missed due to "vindictive" behaviors and she continues to throw soft daggers at me. At one point, she asked me why I filed for divorce. This was 1.5 years ago and I cannot imagine why she is bringing it up now.
So it seems she has some clarity. But she continues to blame me for many things and says I must enjoy her suffering. This is far from the truth. I do not know what the future brings but I am hopeful she can restore relationships with everyone, especially our children.
I am in a stable R and hope it moves forward in a strong fashion. W seems to be interested in it and has met with GFs ex husband, after he basically stalked her. She admitted unloading information about our D and how much of a monster I am/was. Not sure what GFs ex will do with it but we are prepared.