Revelations and Update

[sunshinelewis]

Well I tried to find my old thread but guess its been too long.
Thought I would update for those that want to know, maybe it will help someone.

As you all know my son returned home. We are doing good. He is 22 and going thru some relationship prbs himself. I am just trying to be here for him and show him love and support.
He gets along very well with my other son (nephew). They are good for each other.
I have to say though that my son has returned home with some anger issues. He has told me bits and pieces of how his life was with his dad. I dont ask, I let him talk.
He said he felt very unloved at his dad's. So I suppose this may be where some anger comes in. His dad showed alot of anger toward him during different situations.
I am trying to get son to get some help with this. I dont want him to wait as long as I did before talking to someone.
Sad to say, my son is alot like me when it comes to co-dependency. I dont want him to be this way.
Son says he feels like everyone in his life that he has cared about as walked out and left him. He doesnt say who other than his dad. I did ask if he thought I abandoned him and he said no. Says he feels alone alot and unloved.
I am trying to show him ALL the love I can give him. AND teach him of God's unconditional love also.
We are taking it one day at a time.

As for the xh....just in case some of you want to know what life is like for him nowadays.
Son says his dad and new stepmom DRINK every night.
(my xh never drank at home. ONLY at new yrs. etc.)
Son said new stepmom CONTROLLED everything! Including money
(xh said I was too controlling when he left...lol)
XH has dropped ALL his hobbies since being with her
(xh LOVED fishing when home and went weekly)

So things have changed quite a bit in his world.
Complete opposite.
I just let son talk.

Revelation.....for me is I LOVE MYSELF and I am learning to LOVE Life Alone with the exception of my boys.
I am in nursing school. I visit with friends often and do things with my boys.
It can get lonely but I am trying to leave it ALL in God's hands.

Hugs to everyone!

Renee

[forward]

SSL, You have had a difficult journey. I am glad that your S has returned and that you are finding some peace.

The MLCers seem to wind up in situations far more miserable than those they left.

[WenikiTiki]

Good to hear thinks are better for you! Keep up the good work!

Aloha,

Wendy

[Walking]

Revelation.....for me is I LOVE MYSELF and I am learning to LOVE Life Alone with the exception of my boys.
I am in nursing school. I visit with friends often and do things with my boys.
It can get lonely but I am trying to leave it ALL in God's hands.

Hi Renee - great to hear from you ... and ^^^^^ is FANTASTIC.

I knew you would get there. It's pretty amazing when you come to the place where you understand that loving yourself provides you with the greatest gift God and the Universe can bestow. It's liberating and it's wonderful.

Blessings. Keep going.

V

[Andabelle]

Congrats on nursing school! You sound so much better.

I have to ask: did you move out of bf's house?

[sunshinelewis]

Thanks everyone!

Walking you have been here with me and know what I went thru, so you know for me to realize that, its big!
I am just taking one day at a time. It took me almost 4 years to get here so I am going to enjoy it.

Andabelle,
Thank you! Yes I am still living in bf's house. It helps him as much as me.
We are learning to become friends again. We get along great when no emotion is involved.
At the same time I know this isnt normal or good to not have that emotion sooooo I am keeping my eyes open and enjoying my life.
I am learning not to be needy with ANYONE. OR Co-Dependent.
And from where I came from thats a MAJOR task and transformation.

I am enjoying my time with my boys. Loving having my son back!
I give God the credit for EVERYTHING!

Hugs to all of you!
Renee