Hey KitCat! Sorry you’ve had a crap time and hit your head. And I hope the 2x4’s below don’t come across as harsh, but they are sent from a place of care.
I'm not sure why you are stonewalling me but I guess it doesn't matter does it
If an ex texted me a fishing/attention seeking bait like this, I’d be roughly a ba-jillion times less likely to respond to any future messages.
But, his dismissive avoidance triggers the anxious person in me...
Sounds like you’re trying to make your issue with avoidance/people pleasing his fault.
I did not want to see him so I lied and said "no".
Why? How about “Yes I’m home, but I don’t want to see you. Just leave it in the mail box.”
Anyway, I texted pilot that today totally sucked and that I had fallen off a ladder, etc.
GUESS WHAT??? Nothing but crickets.
You seem to have an insatiable need for validation. If pilot guy is a douche, why do you want him to care so much? Maybe that’s something that needs to be explored further.
If you keep sticking your hand in a fire, you’ll keep getting hurt.
LH is correct. Detach, detach, detach!