My husband is a lunatic! - 01/15/21 09:36 PM
I honestly have no idea what to do right now... I don't even have the strength to carry the weight that I'm oppressed with.
My normally amazing husband snapped in May of 2020, after selling our business, relocating, and a major injury of mine. Words of "I love you but I'm not in love with you" quickly arose, along with claims that our marriage has always been bad, that I've given him a life of "trauma", and then a rapid move to researching divorce attorneys. He has been caught in the guilt of it all and hasn't been able to pull the trigger.
I have been watching and waiting for something to change. He seems deep in withdrawal, getting so bad that he won't even look at me naked anymore (and I'm a beautiful woman)! I would have let him leave months ago, but we have 4 beautiful young children, and I can't imagine their world crushed, their psyches damaged and destined to repeat this sickness with divorces in the future, just as my husband is repeating his own parents' fate. I can't even fathom having them every other weekend, or court battles. I'm scared!
There's an obsession developing with another woman, as well. Not love, but limerence. She feeds him with videos about narcissists and he actually believes it describes me, as he runs from me and locks me out of our bedroom, and refuses to take accountability for the damage he is creating. He wants me to apologize for everything bad I've ever done, and I HAVE. I've taken the blame and said he's right, and it's still not enough.
He's waiting for something to happen in business, and once it does, he plans on filing for divorce. How? HOW can I prevent this? When will it end? When does withdrawal end? When will it be ok? How bad will it get? Will he lose interest in this stupid woman? Will he ever come back to his senses?
I've been watching the youtube video every day about not taking it personally, and pretending it's going to be okay. It's not OK! I want my husband back. This is lunacy! He is so, so sick. He's putting his own fantasy of escape and happiness before our own children, claiming that he loves them, and I'm doing this. How can I make it through this, my friends? What can I do?
My normally amazing husband snapped in May of 2020, after selling our business, relocating, and a major injury of mine. Words of "I love you but I'm not in love with you" quickly arose, along with claims that our marriage has always been bad, that I've given him a life of "trauma", and then a rapid move to researching divorce attorneys. He has been caught in the guilt of it all and hasn't been able to pull the trigger.
I have been watching and waiting for something to change. He seems deep in withdrawal, getting so bad that he won't even look at me naked anymore (and I'm a beautiful woman)! I would have let him leave months ago, but we have 4 beautiful young children, and I can't imagine their world crushed, their psyches damaged and destined to repeat this sickness with divorces in the future, just as my husband is repeating his own parents' fate. I can't even fathom having them every other weekend, or court battles. I'm scared!
There's an obsession developing with another woman, as well. Not love, but limerence. She feeds him with videos about narcissists and he actually believes it describes me, as he runs from me and locks me out of our bedroom, and refuses to take accountability for the damage he is creating. He wants me to apologize for everything bad I've ever done, and I HAVE. I've taken the blame and said he's right, and it's still not enough.
He's waiting for something to happen in business, and once it does, he plans on filing for divorce. How? HOW can I prevent this? When will it end? When does withdrawal end? When will it be ok? How bad will it get? Will he lose interest in this stupid woman? Will he ever come back to his senses?
I've been watching the youtube video every day about not taking it personally, and pretending it's going to be okay. It's not OK! I want my husband back. This is lunacy! He is so, so sick. He's putting his own fantasy of escape and happiness before our own children, claiming that he loves them, and I'm doing this. How can I make it through this, my friends? What can I do?