Wife not showing much effort? - 06/22/20 01:29 AM
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My wife and I have been married for 12 years with two kids, 11 and 8. It’s been a good marriage but has been pretty stale over the last two years or so and more like roommates vs husband and wife. In January my wife hit a MLC mode and decided to go back to nursing school and started to blame me for everything and that I’m the problem. This became worse in March with fights and she kept saying “divorce” and then would take it back. Well, she filed in early May and then at the end of May had a breakdown and said she wanted to pause the divorce.
We had a 3 counseling sessions in April with a so/so counselor. Since the end of May, the tension and conflict is down and I’ve put in a lot of work- seeing my own counselor, reading a lot of books/posts and trying to be more supportive and loving.
Here’s my question - is it normal to feel like your giving 110% and getting back 10%? She won’t say she loves me, no intimacy, sleeping in separate bedrooms and so on. We are worse than roommates but she is getting full support to be in nursing school and I’m doing everything else.
I love her, but how long do you give and give until you want to run away?
My wife and I have been married for 12 years with two kids, 11 and 8. It’s been a good marriage but has been pretty stale over the last two years or so and more like roommates vs husband and wife. In January my wife hit a MLC mode and decided to go back to nursing school and started to blame me for everything and that I’m the problem. This became worse in March with fights and she kept saying “divorce” and then would take it back. Well, she filed in early May and then at the end of May had a breakdown and said she wanted to pause the divorce.
We had a 3 counseling sessions in April with a so/so counselor. Since the end of May, the tension and conflict is down and I’ve put in a lot of work- seeing my own counselor, reading a lot of books/posts and trying to be more supportive and loving.
Here’s my question - is it normal to feel like your giving 110% and getting back 10%? She won’t say she loves me, no intimacy, sleeping in separate bedrooms and so on. We are worse than roommates but she is getting full support to be in nursing school and I’m doing everything else.
I love her, but how long do you give and give until you want to run away?