22 Years Gone Part 3 - 02/05/20 06:30 PM
22 Years Gone Part 1
22 Years Gone Part 2
Summary:
My XW and I had been together since we met in college back in 1997. We got married in 2002 and had our daughter in 2006. In 2008 she had an affair on me with the husband of a couple we were really good friends with. She was the one who pursued him and he broke it off to save his marriage with his wife. I was in hell for 4 months until she agreed to work on the relationship, which I thought had been going great for the next 10 years. A year ago D14 and myself had noticed she was pulling away but thought it was because of how busy we all were. May 23 XW decided to BD me right before my birthday and a big Hawaii trip we had been planning for 4 years. She said it was not because of a guy but D14 told me she had been seeing her hold hands and spending a lot of time with her best friends dad. XW moved out one day after BD and has never been back or talked about the R or seen me other than at D14 drop off since then. XW had an appointment with a divorce attorney within a week of leaving, so to protect myself financially and to protect my time with D14 I contacted my own lawyer. I had my lawyer draw up the paperwork and when XW got back from the Hawaii trip she was given the papers and she signed them and within a couple weeks it was over.
It has been a little over 8 months now and the relationship between XW and D14 is hostile at best. XW has decided to try to amend the divorce and is trying to change the financial, custody, and visitation agreements that were signed off by the judge in July. As a result of this D14 has retained her own lawyer and will be trying to amend the visitation schedule to the least possible amount of time the judge will allow her to spend with her mom. D14 is also talking to the lawyer about her rights during visitations with her mom. XW has responded to all of this with accusations I have emotionally abused her and has hinted at sexual and physical abuse. I have gone extremely dim only communicating with XW when legally necessary as it relates to D14. I wish my XW well and hope she can move on. Regardless of her decisions I am moving forward and creating new dreams and goals that assume I am a single dad.
22 Years Gone Part 2
Summary:
My XW and I had been together since we met in college back in 1997. We got married in 2002 and had our daughter in 2006. In 2008 she had an affair on me with the husband of a couple we were really good friends with. She was the one who pursued him and he broke it off to save his marriage with his wife. I was in hell for 4 months until she agreed to work on the relationship, which I thought had been going great for the next 10 years. A year ago D14 and myself had noticed she was pulling away but thought it was because of how busy we all were. May 23 XW decided to BD me right before my birthday and a big Hawaii trip we had been planning for 4 years. She said it was not because of a guy but D14 told me she had been seeing her hold hands and spending a lot of time with her best friends dad. XW moved out one day after BD and has never been back or talked about the R or seen me other than at D14 drop off since then. XW had an appointment with a divorce attorney within a week of leaving, so to protect myself financially and to protect my time with D14 I contacted my own lawyer. I had my lawyer draw up the paperwork and when XW got back from the Hawaii trip she was given the papers and she signed them and within a couple weeks it was over.
It has been a little over 8 months now and the relationship between XW and D14 is hostile at best. XW has decided to try to amend the divorce and is trying to change the financial, custody, and visitation agreements that were signed off by the judge in July. As a result of this D14 has retained her own lawyer and will be trying to amend the visitation schedule to the least possible amount of time the judge will allow her to spend with her mom. D14 is also talking to the lawyer about her rights during visitations with her mom. XW has responded to all of this with accusations I have emotionally abused her and has hinted at sexual and physical abuse. I have gone extremely dim only communicating with XW when legally necessary as it relates to D14. I wish my XW well and hope she can move on. Regardless of her decisions I am moving forward and creating new dreams and goals that assume I am a single dad.